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Post Reply Dating and infertility
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Posted 11/14/16
I don't plan on dating for finding a life long partner for a good while but health and fertility are very important to me when it comes to that. It's more likely than not a deal breaker for me, I'm not sure I want kids yet but I might in the future. I think if a girl I'm dating has some serious/concerning health problems it would be nice to know sooner than later but she doesn't have to and I understand cause sometimes it's requires a bit of trust and openness to share that type of information.
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I think a girl telling me her medical history before we even start dating would be a bit off-putting, actually. I'd expect it to be awhile before the talk of kids came up.

Infertility would not be a deal-breaker for me. Should we really want kids there's always in vitro or adoption.
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It's not a deal breaker

It would be heartbreaking but it would be okay.. I would like to adopt a child anyways
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Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/14/16

Nalaniel wrote:

We all know that dating is a rather complex process that involves many aspects of human life. When a person falls in love, they most likely do not know the individual they want to be in a romantic relationship with all too good. That means many things stay hidden until the both of them decide to think and talk about certain topics. That is how it usually goes. Specific thoughts do not occur until after two people spend a certain amount of time with each other.

If you were to find out that your girlfriend was infertile, how would you react? Would that be an enormous deal breaker? Do you think a girl is obligated to tell you her medical history before you actually start dating?


Is this for boys and girls who like girls?

I mean I'm sterile so, doesn't really make a difference to me. She'd have to be the one with the baby, so I think the one sitting through the 9 months and then labor gets to decide if she wants to do that. But suppose I wasn't sterile, I actually did want to have and give birth to my own kids ^.^' but there's no helping that huh? So no I don't really mind too much, I do want kids tho, but it's not like that's non-negotiable.
Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/14/16
I sit them down for a 60 minute interview when I first meet them
I wouldnt care if they were infertile, that'd be a plus since I don't want no fucking kids
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Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/14/16
Eh, I wouldn't really care either way. I don't really plan on ever having kids. They're just way too much trouble. Plus, I already have two dogs. They're pretty much the same as children, right?
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Posted 11/14/16
no i will not break up.
if its meant to be , its meant to be
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Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/14/16
i think that's the sort of thing you should be upfront with . like no secret about that or anything

personally i'm fine with adopting so yeah
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This is a difficult subject. I think it depends on the age of the party involved and the people themselves.

Many of my co workers/friends know I am infertile because I think their is no reason to not speak of it when brought up. Though at this point in my life I almost feel like I have developed a more asexual view point on dating.

In one such example, I went on a sorta "blind date". The subject of fertility was actually brought up by him. I tried to explain that I could not have children and he merely stated we would just have to try harder. Keep in mind this was our first date and it was during a movie. The whole thing end up bother me so much that I just never spoke to him again.

I guess bring the subject up when you feel comfortable but at the same time don't let your own feelings be disregarded.
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Posted 11/14/16
Don't make me bring up that one scene in UP, because it's gonna turn out just like that
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Posted 11/14/16
as someone who despises the idea of making myself responsible for anything that has to eat, I can only hope they're as happy about it as I would be.
Posted 11/14/16
This is a dumb question but can you become infertile by being on birth control for a long time? I've been on an oral contraceptive for 8 years.


I would still stay with my s/o though if that was the case
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Posted 11/14/16
I don't believe so.(not a doctor tho) In fact with my type of infertility they tried putting me on birth control just to regulate my period, which was step one. (though I actually had an allergic reaction to it)
Posted 11/14/16
I wouldn't care. I don't want kids. I'd actually rather them by 100% infertile
Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/25/16

usuibj wrote:

This is a dumb question but can you become infertile by being on birth control for a long time? I've been on an oral contraceptive for 8 years.


I would still stay with my s/o though if that was the case


So you've been on birth control since you were 13? Damn brah
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