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Advice Corner. How to make friends
Posted 11/15/16
I have trouble talking with people and making friends. I dropped out of school in 9th grade and I've always had really bad social anxiety. I'm 21 now and currently taking GED classes and planning on taking a few college courses next year. I talk with people in my class but only about what we're learning. I don't really have any friends and I have no idea how to make them.
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Posted 11/15/16 , edited 11/25/16
Have an interest in what people have to say, just try to take something from what they say even though you're 75% uncomfortable about trying to assert yourself. If you surround yourself with people you usually see on a regular basis long enough you begin to pick up what I like to call a mocking. Don't ask me why, it's pretty much when you get comfortable with someone you tend to joke around, and that's a sign of being comfortable. We don't do it to put you down, we just do it because we are starting to like that person.

In all seriousness, making new friends can be hard, but all I can say is keep looking for openings to start up a conversation, because you never know how much the other person is willing to take an interest in you.

People have tried to find openings to try and get to know me better, and they are sometimes surprised when I actually start talking.

Just go through life with a good head on your shoulder, great values, and be ambitious towards your goals. If you are happy, others will try to find their way into your life....... eventually just keep your head up and live a beautiful life

I ain't gonna sugar coat it.
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Posted 11/16/16 , edited 11/25/16
I would recommend laughing a bit more, even if not genuine. I helps you seem a lot more approachable and friendlier. Its helped me immensely. People love talking about themselves, so keep that in mind. I joined a couple clubs my 2nd semester of college after only making a couple of friends the previous semester and became a regular. Friendships form after repeated interactions, best case scenario. In the worst case you just keep trying.
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Posted 11/16/16
I wouldn't know
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Posted 11/16/16
Read how to make friends and influence people.
Posted 11/17/16
Go to wiki how and look up 'How to make friends'
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Posted 11/17/16 , edited 11/25/16
try interacting on forum here for practice. post a topic or just do feed back then use the knowledge in a real conversation later. After you stumble a bit it becomes more easy. Your already going out of your comfort zone taking classes and moving forward so good for you!
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Posted 11/17/16 , edited 11/25/16
It does nothing for you to fly in blind and hope for the best... well, it might for some of those charismatic types that seem to have no trouble socializing. First of all, it would be in your interest to be honest with yourself and ask the question "why?" What do you want to gain from expanding your social network, and more importantly, what do you consider a "friend?" Also assess your own personality traits; are you quiet, overly opinionated, etc.?

With that out of the way, the best advice I could offer is to find an interest group. It is much easier than the repetitious "swing and miss" of probing for interests or trying to talk to someone just to find out their interests bore you. For example: if you enjoy fitness activities, join a gym or a yoga group or pick up a martial arts class; if you like to read, find a book club or creep in the library; enroll in special interest classes; and so on.
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Posted 11/18/16 , edited 11/25/16
When I moved to a new country (by myself) it was a bit tricky tbh

The advice I got was the people in your classes might be a good place to start (as you may have similar interests) so I would start by talking about study then show some interest or ask some questions about their outside study life.

Otherwise maybe try joining something outside of study or a meetup group perhaps.
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Posted 11/22/16


Start here. Want to be friends?
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Posted 11/22/16 , edited 11/25/16
Talk to people, keep the conversation going and keep it interesting, learn about them, learn about similarities and differences, make an effort.
Posted 11/25/16 , edited 11/26/16

Aoikihen wrote:



Start here. Want to be friends?


Sure *BOOM*(MADE A FRIEND)
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Posted 11/25/16 , edited 11/25/16
I usually ask a person what type of music they're into because I'm huge into music myself and I take it from there. That's how I made most of my friends here on Crunchyroll, through discussion of music. But it can be pretty much about anything movies, books, video games etc... etc... Before any of that though, the first and probably the most important step is to introduce yourself because people are more likely to open up and be comfortable around you if they know your name. You're in the process of trying to break the ice which is something we all go through when we take interest in someone romantically or non-romantically, it may be hard at first but as you make 2 or 3 friends, you'll find the process to become easier.
Posted 11/27/16
Y'know, just offer them food.

or uh, talk to people at your college now and then. The ones that you talk to often, slowly strike up conversations that ...
bring you closer...

such as food topics. those are best starters.

but fr, just talk to them, strike up any conversation that you think you both would be interested in ;^)
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Posted 12/4/16
Similar interests. Take a class, or something. People always say to try meetup.com, but honestly, depending on where you live, it can be really great or really stupid.

Also, don't feel pressured to be friends with just anyone who is willing to talk to you. Be confident enough to be the one to say "no" if they're not good for you. And I don't just mean people who are mean to you - people who have bad habits or thoughts that could spread to you (e.g. they always want to go to a restaurant, but you're trying to save money; they smoke a lot and you don't, or you're trying to quit, etc.) Being around people who passively disrespect you doesn't help. Really.
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