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qwueri 
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I remember getting into some yelling matches around 12 or 14. I think around 16 or so I started to mellow out and realize it was better to actually communicate my misgivings rather than blow up at the drop of a hat.
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No, my parents raised me like a normal child, and I acted like a normal son. Funny how that actually works.

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13'ish, I'd started argueing with my pop but things got more than a little heated. He lost it and beat my a**, drug me up the stairs by my hair while kicking my back then threw me at a bed post. I shirked it off and tackled him throwing us both out the room and down the stairwell laying into him everystep of the way. We fought till either of us could barely stand but eventually apologized and went out to eat. We've gotten along ever since.

Turned out beating eachother to a pulp was all the father son bonding we needed.

Tbh, if i could go back and do it all over i wouldn't change a thing. It was "the talk we needed to have". We learned a lot about eachother and that we weren't all that different; just a very troubled dad trying to raise a very troubled son.

Fast forward to today, we're on great terms. We hang out, go on road trips, help eachother without question, etc. etc.
I do my best to be a good son and he does his to be an awesome dad.
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Marcos?

My facebook feed is filled with people that support and oppose the guy.


Yeah. It's sad that this is even an issue because it should have been settled 30 years ago.
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They didn't give me a reason to stand up to them for the most part. They were good parents, not overbearing, explained and argued rather than just telling me to shut up...

There was this one point where my dad was under extreme stress at the time and was a bit abusive to my mom (as a Juvenile Division Detective he has seen some shit that really gets to you - not an excuse, just context). I was standing by at one point outside their room (armed) ready to take him down by any means necessary if he crossed the line. They divorced shortly after. He was put on meds and got his shit together, it's fine now, we have a good relationship... even after me mentioning later to him what I was prepared to do to him.
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never did
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If your parents aren't abusive, I think the appropriate time to stand up to them is when you are paying your own bills.

For me, I stopped taking shit from my parents when I was 18, because I left for the military.

Then, I'm watching a 22 year old bitch because he's got a curfew. Well, fuck, I don;t want someone stumbling in drunk at 2 am, either. So, if I have someone living with me, they get rules like that, too. In fact, when my brother-in-law lived with me and my wife, he had some ground rules. And he respected them, because as immature as he can be, he's mature enough to know you don't shit all over the person who's letting you stay in their home.

He moved out when we told him he was going to have to contribute at least $100 per month for food. Keep in mind, he was rent free, and only split bills. But, it wasn't an option. It was: Either start buying your own food, contribute $100 per month, or move out. I thought it was pretty fucking reasonable.
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I argue with my parents all the time, but I've never really gone as far as you're talking about.
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I never really stood up to them, never had a reason to. I live in their house, I play by their rules, and they've always been fair. Once you get a little older, you realize they're right about lots of things, and you empathize. I see lots of kids arguing or hitting their parents because of something as stupid as getting their laptop taken away (most of the time it's due to bad grades....), just suck it up.
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My dad was psychologically abusive to both my mom and I. Part of that was because his parents were both screwed up and his father physically beat him. My mom never stood up much for me, so I learned at an early age that I would not only have to pick which battles to fight, but once committed to it, to fight it to the end. I stood up to my father quite a bit, and more so once I got out of college and had my own job. My dad's way of controlling both my mother and I was through money. This is not to say that I was a selfish brat who wanted to best cars and clothes out there. My dad was the sort of person who would threaten to withhold food from you if you managed to piss him off.

Now that I'm older, have my own home, can physically knock the crap out of my dad, and my dad is retired and not as wealthy as he was while working, the dynamics have changed. My dad, likely because he no longer feels that he has the power to control me as he once did, is a half decent person. He still has his moments, such as when he complains about me driving 65mph on the freeway, but becoming financially dependent and owning my own house has helped to improve my relationship with him.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that it really depends on your relationship and how dependent you are on them. If your parents are anything like my father, I'd pick your battles carefully.
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Does my step mom count? Er like last year I had enough of my step mom treating me like crap and me just taking it for my dad's sake so I kinda snapped. After that episode my step mom kicked me out and my dad let her. I never been so pissed in my life and I realized blood family doesn't matter and only the people who truly care about me matters.
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Ehmmmm... never? It's not because I wouldn't but because I had no inclination to. For one, my dad has essentially been of a separate household for the majority of my life--I mean... well... it's complicated. Otherwise, my parents are either the coolest or most apathetic people I have ever seen.

Came home wasted when I was 14 or so, passed out at the front door, and woke up middle of the next day in my bed with a pot beside me.
Got busted for downloading porn on the family computer when I was around 10, ended up with some persistent malware--not even a stern look.
Pretty sure I was caught fapping more than once...
Caused much mischief (like stealing 4th of July decorations and adorning the middle school with them) and my mother just laughed. Somehow I also got her to aid in stealing lawn chairs during a festival...

In contrast, I got the switch from my grandmother for breaking things or talking back and got the liquid dish soap when I said goddammit in front of her once.
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My successful one was when I sat down to dinner with the family and announced that I was leaving home that day. I was ready and of age since I was 19 and I'd already had bags packed and my new lodgings sorted out.
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