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Post Reply My wife can grow a thicker beard than I can....
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This is not a joke.

My wife has polycystic ovary syndrome. She's taken all sorts of stuff for it. I mean, even metformin, which is a diabetic medication that helps.

When I met her, I knew she had these issues. I didn't say anything, because I didn't want to touch on a sensitive subject for her. When she told me, I was like, "Yeah, I know. It's not a big deal."

SO, if it isn't a big deal, why am I bringing it up?

Well, I'm always seeing threads about transgender people, the other thread about men doing feminine things talked about Ladybeard.

It's always kind of itched in these situations. I want to just say, "But, you know, just because a woman has a bit of facial hair...."

So, I'm mentioning it now.

The way I look at it, it isn't her fault. It has no bearing on who she is as a person. I'd have to be a pretty shallow asshole to hold against her. She does shave, but that's her choice. I have discussed laser hair removal with her, and she wanted to do it for a long time. But, laser hair removal costs money, can cause scarring, and requires her to grow her hair out a bit.

I told her I supported whatever she chose, but she shouldn't do it for me, because I'd love her no matter what, and if she was worried about the pain/scarring, I completely understood if she chose not to do it.

Lately, she's been pretty comfortable with it. I'm pretty happy about that, because I love my wife, I find her attractive, sex life is pretty good, and she deserves to be happy with who she is.

I'm good with it.

The real purpose behind this thread, though, is to push forth the question: How many things like this ARE optional, for men and women, things that you'd completely accept for the RIGHT someone?
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I guess people think I'm trolling, so pic to prove it. Hard to tell, but you can maybe see something of the sort, if you look really fucking hard.

My wife was just telling me what a..... wonderful job I did.

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Eh i'm not too picky. A few extra pounds, some missing teeth, one boob, three boobs, chest divits with sentinel orbs from the movie Phantasm in em. It's all good. Heck I once had the hots for a girl with a lazy eye.

Thing is as long as I've got someone I love, it don't matter; beauties only skin deep anyway.

Also I'd like to say I think it's a beautiful thing that you could look past that to be with someone you love.
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Honestly, I would say that everything like this is optional as long as the person in question is content living with whatever "issue" (forgive me, I use this word very lightly, there has to be a better one available but I just can't think of it) they are faced with. And especially if an expensive surgery is involved that could end with major scarring and/or pain, I don't see why it would be worth the trouble.

As long as the person is comfortable with their current life, then I see no reason to feel the need to change their appearance, no matter what sex the person is. Now if they feel uncomfortable, then that's a different conversation and yes, I would support the decision to seek medical/psychological help because nobody deserves to feel uncomfortable in their own body. So overall, I think it's all up to the person. If they feel like they absolutely need to fix something that they don't like about themselves, then who are we to say that they shouldn't? But if they are happy and content with their lives, then we should accept that and continue to show support for their decision, especially if it's for the right someone (which props to you because you clearly show support for your wife, something that I'm sure means a lot to her).

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There are a good number of women with that problem. I'm so sorry for your wife, and I'm really glad your not letting something like that get between you. She can look into electrolysis, which is expensive but it's permanent and I don't think it will scar. Since it's permanent however she can get it done over time, unlike laser which takes repeated, routine sessions. Like you said, she should only do it for her, and no one else. Best of luck to both of you, and don't listen to the haters, they have too much time on their hands <3
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I have my own tastes,you have your own.
I personally couldn't handle it. My woman has a clear one that is small that's enough for me ;P
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It really depends on a person's tolerance or lack of and even their intolerance towards others.
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You, HD, are officially my favorite member on this site.

PCOS is a total pain in the ass. As someone whose doctors can't determine whether or not she has it (I have the weight and had the acne thing), I find cutting back on the gluten really helps. And I'm not saying this as some Californian hippie nor calling for a complete elimination, but eliminate as much as possible and up your veg. Those sugary sodas I see in the background also need to be severely cut back. Basically, your wife needs to try to reduce your processed food intake in favor of less processed foods. My rule of thumb is that if I can pronounce all the ingredients, it's edible. There are also some herbs that are really good for this, especially with menstral problems. I'd recommend finding a good acupuncturist and herbalist (some acupuncturists do both). The Kan formulas are dynamite. I'd PM you with some that work for me, but without seeing a herbalist, these formulas might not be as effective as they could be (In Chinese medicine, it usually boils down to whether you run cold or hot).

Regarding electrolysis, if your wife's facial hair is orangish or red color, the process will do nothing. Red hair is one of those odd breeds of hair that isn't affected by electrolysis. I'd look into using a medicine known as Vaniqa. It slows down hair growth. And as your wife is taking metformin, she'll need to counteract that with CoQ10 (vitamin). Statins do a number on that.

Modifying your diet, acupuncture and herbs can all cost a bit, so doing all of this might not work for your wife.
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I have an abnormal amount of facial hair too (though I don't know if I have the same problem as your wife or if it's some genetic issue). I usually don't worry about it until I feel it gets too noticeable, then I shave and/or pluck it. Anyways, if had a boyfriend who had a problem with it, I would dump him (because I don't need someone that close-minded in my life). In my opinion, people should be more attracted to a person's personality and less on a person's looks.
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Yeah, I also have unwanted facial hair. For me, it's a trait that has been running through my paternal side for generations. I shave and pluck, though plucking seems to be better in the long-term, since the hairs eventually lose pigmentation and die off. The amount varies, but the phenomenon is fairly common. Despite the occasional commercial advertising hair-loss solutions for it, this sort of thing is generally hush-hush. Your wife's situation is certainly an unusual case, of course.


If someone I'm involved with want to undergo laser hair removal, I generally wouldn't mind the concept. I may have hang-ups regarding price and whether or not I think the amount of removal is worth the cost; however, so long as the cost doesn't strain bank accounts or anything, I have little compunction against it.

Personally, I'm not particularly bothered about whether or not my rhetorical partner is opposed to my facial hair issue, as long as he's not being a douchebag.
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Oh boy. She can get it waxed.
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Oh boy. She can get it waxed.


Waxing the stuff off your face?! You crazy girl.


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Oh boy. She can get it waxed.


Waxing the stuff off your face?! You crazy girl.




Yes, they do that at the salon.
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MrChamploo wrote:


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Oh boy. She can get it waxed.


Waxing the stuff off your face?! You crazy girl.




Yes, they do that at the salon.


I can't even think of how much it would hurt for your upper lip. I guess your cheeks wouldn't be so bad. That upper lip though.. Gosh
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Beauty is pain.
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