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Post Reply How do you know when you can trust a person?
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Posted 11/25/16
It's a gut feeling. I only trust a few people tbh.
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Posted 11/26/16 , edited 11/26/16
Trust is kinda hard to explain since it's not a physical thing rather emotion there for the definition for trust may vary slightly from person to person.

The best way I can explain it is: If I feel the person has interest in my quality of life.

Then I feel I can trust them.
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Posted 11/26/16
To me it builds up when someones behaviour is relatively consistant over a long period of time. When a person seems to be following the same values no matter what they do it feels like I can most likely trust them not to betray that. A little unconsistency is normal but when there's constant shifting where they do one thing and later something completely opposite it's a sign that they're either lying a lot or are just very unstable.

In theory something like that, I misread people enough to know it's impossible to always be certain about who you can trust. We don't really know much about other people most of the time. At the very least I would need to be with someone for a long period of time in a private, everyday environment to really see through all of that public facade they might have.
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Posted 11/26/16
Trust?

Never completely.

A simple test is to loan someone a couple dollars, set a time limit, days or weeks. If you can't get it back you would be stupid to trust them with anything important.
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Posted 11/26/16
You want to learn if someone is real or fake?

Ask them what they like to do, and listen to their answer.

If they can tell you what they like to do with genuine passion, and communicate about what is exciting or fun about it, then they aren't fake.

If they can't or have limited responses (Well I do this and that, I like watching tv [not explaining what], etc.): Fake.


If a person can tell you what their goals are in detail or what they are doing to set those plans in motion, they aren't fake.
If a person can tell you why they DON'T have any goals currently in detail, or why they feel comfortable with their life right now, they aren't fake.

Fake people can't explain anything with passion or explain their positions with care and understanding. They also talk more than they listen and respond.

People who are genuine want to listen and learn and explain what makes them happy or unhappy in detail.
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Posted 11/26/16 , edited 11/26/16
You don't. Much like love, trust is a blind leap of faith. You will either be rewarded for your effort or hurt and that's all there is to it. Over time though you will get a feel for those you think you can trust more than others. Trust is something that has to be earned and those you place your trust in will either prove themselves over time to be worth of your trust or they'll do something to prove they are not trustworthy. Just go with your gut. If it's telling you not to trust someone even though they seem very trustworthy then listen to that little voice. It could be wrong but usually it's not. Just give someone the amount of trust that you feel capable of giving. Hold back what you don't feel like sharing. Everyone has their secrets and everyone deserves their privacy. Don't go to one extreme or the other. Don't just blindly trust everyone and don't completely close yourself off to trusting people. It really is a blind leap of faith but one that is very rewarding once all the conditions are met. Trust is the building blocks of any good relationship. Trust can either elevate a relationship or destroy it. Sorry that's not very helpful but there are no easy answers here. This is something that only you can do or know. A good rule of thumb is to never say or type anything that you don't want the world knowing.
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Posted 11/26/16
When you tell them a secret and they keep it. When you communicate without sensing any evasion or deception.
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