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Do you accept people for who they are? What I mean by this is say... you have a friend who you've known for 2 years. You start talking daily as per usual with this friend and they talk about how they have a drug addiction. Would you still accept this person for who they are? Or would you treat them differently than before?

As for me, I don't mind people doing their own things as long as it doesn't effect me so I do accept people for who they are. If my friend is an insane drug addict as long as they aren't trying to get me to do drugs or get involved in their drug antics then I don't really care. (It's not to say I won't suggest getting help for them as drugs are killer I'm just not going to force them to do anything. I'll suggest them to stop and if they don't want to then its just kind of a "oh well" type of thing. I'm not one to force them to change)

Now let's say its the same situation except the friend is coming out to say something about themselves. What would you do then? For example... say they are saying they are lesbian, gay, trans, shady dealer, furry, a person who collects a lot of body pillows, or anything else really. Would you still accept them? Or would you be a bit creeped out at the thought?

Again, I don't really care in these types of situations as it doesn't effect me by their choice. If someone were to reveal such information the only thing I'd change towards them is probably just how I address them (To be more respectful towards them) but that is all. I would still accept them for who they are as long as they don't try to influence a negative effect upon me that was caused by this choice.

Do you still accept them for who they are? Or do you act differently around them? Do you act more cautiously? Maybe just not care as much for the person? I'm quite curious to know.

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No they should change to accommodate for my values and beliefs.
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so long as they don't treat me like crap personally I don't care if they differ from me
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I don't care to judge people, though I might be more cautious around people who have committed crimes in the past.

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I'm really picky with who I assosicate myself with.

What I'm trying to say is, I won't try to change who you are as a person. I just wouldn't talk to you if I don't like you in the first place.
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Depends, I know people who have done a lot of shit. I'll accept you for who you are, but I might stop fucking with you depending on what it is I now know.
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Most of my friends are so different to me, they accept me and I accept them as long as there is mutual respect. Things like drugs and sexuality don't affect me in the slightest.


The only thing I would never accept is pedophiles, rapists and hypocrites (those people who come to you to speak bad about another person but in front of that person they behave like best friends, I can't stand people like that and I'm always careful around them and no matter how friendly they are with me, in my mind I could never be real friends with them).

My sister married a man a few years ago, he looked like a great man. All the family loved him and he never did anything bad to us. One day my brother looked him up on the internet and the guy was a pedophile. He went to jail like 20 years ago for raping a minor.

I immediately saw him with different eyes, my sister divorced him and my whole family don't want to know nothing about him. Things like that would never be acceptable.
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starshots wrote:

I'm really picky with who I assosicate myself with.

What I'm trying to say is, I won't try to change who you are as a person. I just wouldn't talk to you if I don't like you in the first place.


Posted 11/29/16 , edited 11/29/16
I've come to accept for who they are ever since I was a kid
I never understood why people don't like a specific group or why they would try to change people tbh
I'm neutral towards everyone except for people that tail gate, y'all can go get into a car accident idc
But anyways, I'm mostly the same way you are
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Of course. Anyone who can stay friends with someone as annoying as i am is a miracle. :^D
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I don't think I could call myself a persons friend if I accepted them being a drug user and watched them slow self erode just saying it's ok as long it doesn't effect me . How are we friends then . That and I have to admit there are views that I can't share or overlook.
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starshots wrote:

I'm really picky with who I assosicate myself with.

What I'm trying to say is, I won't try to change who you are as a person. I just wouldn't talk to you if I don't like you in the first place.


This about sums it up I think, you are who you are and there ain't a thing I can do to change that and it isn't my place to tell you how you should be
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If I already liked you as a person, I think unless it's something like you microwave hamsters, I wouldn't mind. You're still the person you were when I first met you, just cause I now know more about you doesn't mean anything about you has changed. Only if you're being two-faced, which is pretty rare.
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I'll accept you as a person since there's not much to be done about it. But acceptance of a person does not mean tolerance for their bad behavior. If you're doing stupid stuff, you should be called out on it.
Posted 11/29/16
More or less, though I don't think people should never give an inch, including myself. I won't throw compromise out the window, nor do I believe that "I'm being true to myself" is always a valid reason to trample over other people.
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