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Posted 11/29/16
I don't judge friends but I also won't keep quiet if I think they're doing something stupid. Part of friendship is loving the other person enough to be honest about your feelings. I won't sugarcoat it. That said, I also won't demand or bully. I had a friend who was a frequent pot smoker, I set down simple rules; when you're with me no smoking, carrying or buying. If you do any of the above while with me it'll be the last time you ever see me. Being a friend, he understood. I frequently told him how I felt about drug use and he put up with me because he knew I wasn't just lecturing but caring and worrying about him.
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Posted 11/29/16
They don't require my acceptance. Their choices are their own as well as any consequences that result from those choices.
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28 / M / New York
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Posted 11/29/16
That depends. Drug user? Sure, not my problem. Sexual predator, rapist, or just an overall asshole? I'd question what led me to befriend such a piece of shit to begin with. I probably wouldn't bother attending their funeral either.
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I say that you should think whatever you want - just as long as you understand your place. We all have those moments where a mean or crude thought seeps in our mind, and while it's how you react to that thought that makes you who you are, it still can happen. You are in no place to judge somebody for anything. Normality is a subjective term, depndant on each individual's own personal experiences. Not to mention, even if it is a flaw, you're not exactly perfect yourself.

As long as they aren't hurting anyone else, let them seek out happiness how they see fit. It's their right as a human being to do so. You don't need to even be supportive, as long as you're also not rude and belittling towards said person for doing what they do. You can just let that exist over there, acknowledge it gracefully when it comes up, and return to not really caring.

Now, if they are hurting others, that is a whole new thing. That is not the pursuit of happiness, seeking it out for yourself and obsrtucting others from doing so as well. And if you're hurting yourself, that's still obstructing somebody's pursuit. That's a pretty messy situation that requires different considerations depending on the situation at hand, so I won't go too in-depth there. But all in all, don't be harshing on someone else's mellow if they ain't hurting nobody.

But that's just how I see it, I guess. We all got our own life philosophies, ya know?
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Posted 11/30/16
No.
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23 / M / Somewhere Drinking
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No, there are always exceptions.
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27 / M / Helsinki
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Posted 11/30/16
Don't need to accept things I don't know. Expect as being unknown.
Posted 11/30/16
I accept people for who and what they are and it would take a great deal for me to change that.
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No, everyone must be perfect.
Posted 12/1/16
I'll respect everyone for their decisions and interests in life, but i won't associate myself with those activities specifically, but still might be friends with them. Though if it's something that is highly illegal or extremely immoral towards my beliefs and values, then i probably couldn't accept them or respect them, but just keep my distance and ignore them. Keep in mind that you'd have to be a total ass or a malevolent being for me to spite your existence. And despite how blunt i might be, i do recognize others opinions and feelings and only provide my opinions if necessary for their well being, which might also be subjective on my part.
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69 / M / Columbia, MO
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It depends upon many variables: time of day, pull of the moon, stray voltage, degree of sobriety, still single??, credit available, breadth of comfort zone (theirs), whether wife is away or still unwittingly receptive to unbridled nabobery, where the tiger is (in the tank or....), room availability by the hour / day / night, memory loss
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Posted 12/11/16
Accept, yes. Associate with? No. I accept everyone, but associate with barely anyone unless they are a specific type of person. As long as they can take jokes, and have similar interests, I'm good to go.
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