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Post Reply Is it wrong to not want a long term relationship?
Posted 12/4/16

starshots wrote:

I wish I found more people who are interested in long-term relationships.

I'm tired of putting in so much effort for short-term ones.


I don't understand the point of a short-term relationship. Trying to build experience or something?
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Posted 12/4/16

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No.

There is no set amount of time for how long a relationship lasts. There is no need to tell a person you want a short term relationship. If it ends up working out for a long period or short period then that's just how it is and you move on. I've dated girls before thinking I'd stay with them for a while and end up breaking up 4 weeks later. If it's short, it's short. If you want a friends with benefits kind of deal you just ask for it. If you'd like to just casually see each other then so be it.

There are people who have dated the same person since high school and moved on to late adult life just to divorce. There are people who are lovebirds at first sight who break up less than a week later.

There's really no wrong approach as long as your communicating and being honest with each other.


if they only plan to stay for 4 months then they should tell the person.
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Posted 12/4/16 , edited 12/4/16
short term relationships are for immature 16 year olds. You should be searching for the person to spend the rest of your miserable life with. doing this short term thing is what we called a fling back in the day. It means you have no desire to be held down so you can go bang who ever you want.. but considering this is anime forum I imagine there aren't that many suitors.
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Posted 12/4/16

ironh19 wrote:

short term relationships are for immature 16 year olds. You should be searching for the person to spend the rest of your miserable life with. doing this short term thing is what we called a fling back in the day. It means you have no desire to be held down so you can go bang who ever you want.. but considering this is anime forum I imagine there aren't that many suitors.


at 16 i thought short term relationships were just stupid but everyone always told me "lol date for experience don't expect or look for a long term relationship" i never listened to that shit personally.
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Posted 12/4/16
Don't know why you would want a relationship thats short tbh.
Maybe you have commitment issues lol
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Posted 12/4/16

Ryulightorb wrote:


ironh19 wrote:

short term relationships are for immature 16 year olds. You should be searching for the person to spend the rest of your miserable life with. doing this short term thing is what we called a fling back in the day. It means you have no desire to be held down so you can go bang who ever you want.. but considering this is anime forum I imagine there aren't that many suitors.


at 16 i thought short term relationships were just stupid but everyone always told me "lol date for experience don't expect or look for a long term relationship" i never listened to that shit personally.


At that age the odds of that being the person you are going to marry is very slim, in my opinion you shouldn't even be thinking of marriage until you are 25. You are still growing and your personality changes, some of you folks have seen this " You are not the same person I fell in love with" We grow, we change, your desires change.
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Posted 12/4/16
Nothing wrong with wanting what you want. It's only wrong if you hurt people because of it. If you have commitment issues, that's on you and as people have already said, you should just be open about that from the beginning before getting into any relationship.
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Posted 12/4/16
I think it's wrong. Especially if you're with someone who wants to continue the relationship. You have to be with someone who wants the same things, otherwise you're just hurting the other person.
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Posted 12/4/16 , edited 12/4/16
It's not wrong per se. You can't force a long term relationship. Obviously, you should work out any problems, or at least try, before dissolving it but you'd do more damage to each other in the long run by sticking together just to avoid being alone.

But if a person only pursues short-term relationships for sating their emotions and not merely just for a mutual agreement for sex, that's probably a sign of a more severe mental issue than there would be for people who only want to have sex and agree to that sort of deal.

Smells like some kind of deep-seated fear. Maybe a conflict between wanting companionship but being scared of being hurt and/or being scared to commit.
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Posted 12/4/16

ironh19 wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:


ironh19 wrote:

short term relationships are for immature 16 year olds. You should be searching for the person to spend the rest of your miserable life with. doing this short term thing is what we called a fling back in the day. It means you have no desire to be held down so you can go bang who ever you want.. but considering this is anime forum I imagine there aren't that many suitors.


at 16 i thought short term relationships were just stupid but everyone always told me "lol date for experience don't expect or look for a long term relationship" i never listened to that shit personally.


At that age the odds of that being the person you are going to marry is very slim, in my opinion you shouldn't even be thinking of marriage until you are 25. You are still growing and your personality changes, some of you folks have seen this " You are not the same person I fell in love with" We grow, we change, your desires change.


i haven't changed at all that way my ex was like that she changed also i still desired to be with her and marry her even still.

sadly things didn't work out but my desires haven't changed since i was what ...13?
Posted 12/4/16 , edited 12/4/16

nemoskull wrote:

too many 'Enjoy!!!' threads.


Now that you noticed...

Do you ever enjoy the threads?
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Posted 12/4/16 , edited 12/4/16

nemoskull wrote:

too many 'Enjoy!!!' threads.


Interesting.
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Posted 12/4/16
Eh why not, live a little.
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Posted 12/4/16
Thanks for the comments, everyone.


To be honest, I was a little worried about being in a long relationships or relationships in general. I felt like long relationships would be a waste of time because I can't see myself with someone for too long. It sounds lovely but I worry if someone can deal with someone like me for a long time.
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Posted 12/4/16
No. If this is what you want, then it's ok, it depends on each person, but be aware that the other person may be looking for a serious relationship, so you should be honest at the begging, because what is wrong is to play with other person feelings
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