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Posted 12/4/16
My mom and I are currently potty training my niece right now. She is two years old, and will turn three in a couple of months here. And... she does not like going to the bathroom. She either is clinging onto my mom's leg for dear life, or is crying on our way to the bathroom. Then when she's on the toilet, she calls me the bad person TT-TT.

Does anybody have experience with potty training a toddler?
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There's actually a lot of possible reasons, ranging anywhere from just not being mentally ready for the potty training to experiencing pain due to UTIs to just plain irrational fear. There are a lot of potty training guides out there on the internet with some good psychological insight in them. A lot of them even recommend backing off the training for a while if the resistance is too heavy as it's only creating negative feelings about using the potty. Don't be too forceful about the process. A good place to start is trying to talk to her calmly and see if she can put into words what she doesn't like about using a potty. She may be able to clue you in all by herself if you let her.
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Why do you assume that because your niece doesn't like going to the bathroom it affects all toddlers?
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thekevin4 wrote:

Why do you assume that because your niece doesn't like going to the bathroom it affects all toddlers?


I'm surprised you said something other than thwip. Though, I should have probably worded it differently. I guess, why do some not like going to the bathroom. My mom told me that my previous nieces (I have five total) had trouble as well, when they started. And from a couple of friends, they are having trouble at first.
Posted 12/4/16

Mantaray52 wrote:

There's actually a lot of possible reasons, ranging anywhere from just not being mentally ready for the potty training to experiencing pain due to UTIs to just plain irrational fear. There are a lot of potty training guides out there on the internet with some good psychological insight in them. A lot of them even recommend backing off the training for a while if the resistance is too heavy as it's only creating negative feelings about using the potty. Don't be too forceful about the process. A good place to start is trying to talk to her calmly and see if she can put into words what she doesn't like about using a potty. She may be able to clue you in all by herself if you let her.


Yeah, I don't really try to force her. I always ask her if she needs to go to the bathroom, and she'll say no. But then afterwards, she'll tell you that she pooped her pants, lmao.
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thekevin4 wrote:

Why do you assume that because your niece doesn't like going to the bathroom it affects all toddlers?


I'm surprised you said something other than thwip. Though, I should have probably worded it differently. I guess, why do some not like going to the bathroom. My mom told me that my previous nieces (I have five total) had trouble as well, when they started. And from a couple of friends, they are having trouble at first.


Hmmm I see... all the lil childrens I have encountered have not had such an aversion to potty time.


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You could try giving small rewards that she likes, like a treat (cookie, cracker, carrot, whatever works), a sticker, or something like that. It's.. not politically correct to say, but potty training a young human is sort of like housebreaking a dog; rewards can work.

If you're not overly attached to your sanity, you could also try watching the potty training episodes of Daniel Tiger with her.. I swear I can still hear that damn song in my sleep, but it too might help make the experience less 'frightening' and more of a game.

Good luck.
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They're toddlers. It's their job to be a pain in the ass. No pun intended.
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It smells
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Maybe they have had a bad experience while going to the bathroom? Like maybe fall through the toilet seat somehow? That'll scare them.
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My youngest (2.5 year) niece is potty trained but still wears diapers half the time, she also uses this kiddo bucket thing you have to rinse out into the toilet with water unless another smaller seat that fits on a normal toilet with a step stool is not put out for her (and god forbid you don't see it when you sit down). Long story short, I walked into the bathroom which smelled like poop so I thought there was a diaper in the trashcan, but it was strong.....looked at that kiddo bucket over in the corner.

OMG!!! It looked like a good sized gift a dog leaves on the lawn

No way a 2.5 year old could of done that, but she did and didn't tell grandma about it so it could be flushed. Later grandma was showing my niece and her sister (4 year old plus the 2.5 year old) pictures of when she was younger and grandma asks the 2.5 year old if she would like to get one of those semi-rigid sided above ground pools...the 2.5 year old was terrified, saying she didn't want it unless she had her floaties on....for a pool grandma didn't own. Very cute when she was terrified
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They're toddlers. It's their job to be a pain in the ass. No pun intended.


^ That.

Two year old's especially are the Devil's idle hands.

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Posted 12/4/16 , edited 12/4/16
In some places potty training starts earlier so by the time children are 2 they're confident about it. One of my nieces was potty trained by 1. She had an allergy to whatever they make the disposable nappies from and got a very bad rash. When she was new born she had cloth diapers/nappies then she alternated between cloth and disposable. In the end the family decided that she had to be potty trained fast because her skin could no longer take nappies. She'd already began potty sitting practice around 8 months old. My niece was happy with the transition. She wouldn't let go of her bottle though until she was 3 and even then she still sucked her thumb. Then there was her security pillow she'd drag all around the place whilst sucking her thumb.
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Posted 12/4/16
hahahahahhahahahahahaha

good luck

only can tell you

this is quite normal
Posted 12/4/16

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Maybe they have had a bad experience while going to the bathroom? Like maybe fall through the toilet seat somehow? That'll scare them.


My niece actually thinks it's funny to try to fall into the toilet. Scares the shit outta me, lmao.
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