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Posted 12/7/16 , edited 12/7/16
Would you believe your good friend if they told you that your significant other isn't really who you think they are and aren't as faithful as you think."

So having been in this spot in the past as the friend i have thought what would i think if it was me.

I had a guy mail me on cr about a Girl i dated (for a week) after we had broken up warning me she was a cheater and a liar.


At the time i wouldn't have believed it since he was a stranger however if it was a best friend i would be conflicted.
(He was right they had been doing it to other guys)

So would you believe your good friend or no?
Posted 12/7/16
Go what you believe in.
In the end of the day, a friend is there to help you. Not make the decision for you...

Posted 12/7/16
As you grow older, these sporadic moments where you get a mysterious message on an anime forum about your love life will start to decrease - I promise (or, at least, I hope so).

Now, other than the location (given there's no context unless you were just dating her online for this week) I would say that I would ask for evidence first and foremost. I've had someone message me on Facebook about a similar situation; except, he supplied conversations, photos, and (ugh) video. Of course, I spoke to the person for a while and then spoke to the person I was hanging out with (nothing concrete but wanted things to be transparent).

In other words: as long as there's enough evidence, I'll at least look into the accusations and determine if they're legit or if I need to speak to the "accused" myself.
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in every relationship its always about trust for me! when i hear rumors about something about my girl i would never believe it and would not try to investigate unless it will get out of hand for one thing i would just let it slide and see what will happen in the end. after all if she piles enough guilt she will come by and just confess in the end. and i would deal with it in some way depending on the situation. ( i know im weird)
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Treat it like any other accusation and either investigate it or don't believe it.

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Posted 12/7/16
Depends on the friend. One saved me from a cheater, one also saved me from a girl with an STD.

Also had a friend who was upset I didn't hang with the group as much lie about stuff like this. Was easy to figure out it was a lie.
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Posted 12/7/16
Ummmmm. I wouldn't be stupid enough to have my friend speak for my own choices.

I can find out real fast from my own observations. If i need to know, go get tested, or show me your bank account sweety. Pretty simple no?
Posted 12/7/16
People are weird
Sometimes guys will message you to warn you and is an actual bro but other times they'll lie just to spite their exes
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Well, my husband and I are in an open relationship, so it's not really something I'm concerned with. But on a pure level of trust, I would certainly bring it up with my partner if a good friend had suspicions. I don't have a lot of friends, but the ones I do have are people I trust deeply, so I don't think any of them would make accusations if they didn't have a good reason.
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If I trusted my "good friend" and I hadn't been going out with the girl long, then yeah I would trust my friend.
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Posted 12/7/16
Don't know, the situation has never came up.
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Posted 12/7/16
i think your heart knows the answer but you are in denial
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That depends on how much issues my friends already have with someone. But as long as I have yet to have kids with them, I am perfectly ok with dumping a relationship at any time for any reason. I'll play it cautious until proven true or false; but my friends be warned. If they make false accusations, they will be dumped instead. Girlfriends will be dumped if said accusation is true, no matter my status with her. (ie, with child or not).

Pull the hood under my eyes, and by the time I lift it up, my stare will kill, if my hands won't. Nobody close to me deceives me and get my forgiveness.

Now if said girlfriend asked if me if it was ok for her to be more "free", I'd be fine with it, as long as she invites them over for dinner. gotta keep tabs after all. Trust is good, and lying will result in me disowning you.
Posted 12/7/16 , edited 12/7/16
Give the friend an ear, but also take what he/she says with a grain of salt. It's quite possible that the friend is correct, but there's no guarantee that the "good friend" isn't a villain, or that something else may be afoot. Both lovers and friends betray, and misunderstandings occur.
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Posted 12/7/16 , edited 12/7/16
Eh, hate to admit it, but I've run into a similar situation before. The friend turned out to be correct and I dogged a real bullet there.
He's like a brother to me so I didn't see any reason to see why he would lie to me about her cheating on me and quite frankly I didn't really know my then girlfriend all that well at the time since we only dated for a bit. Needless to say if you don't know someone all that well might be a bad idea to date them to the first place. I'll take being young and dumb as my excuse for having that strike against me
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Posted 12/7/16
I wouldnt out of the blue believe it but would consider it and check if its true or not.
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