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How do you increase your self confidence?
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One way that I boost self-esteem is by cooking. When I manage to cook a delicious new dish/recipe, I can't help but feel more confident. Even more so when I share those new dishes with other people. There's options galore since there are so many different recipes and food cultures. Its even easier with the multitude of video tutorial and cookbooks. The ingredients can be challenging to acquire at times unless you have certain specialties store nearby. Lucky for me, my town has a couple of Asian grocery stores.
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There are some people that increase their self-confidence by talking to multiple people at once and manipulating them to think that they're the only one (but they really aren't) they are talking to/seeing/involved with. So by doing this, it boosts up their self-confidence because they believe they got their fuckboy/fuckgirl game down, and can obviously get away with it.
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I've been wondering this for awhile... How do you increase your self confidence or self esteem?

I've never really had much confidence in anything I make. I've always scrapped things purely because I didn't know if they were good or bad. I can't tell what I make is good or bad at times. I've kinda increased my self confidence in doing some things that are considered to be good however I can't tell if its false praise or not. I've been trying to boost my self confidence mostly to be more confident when making things. I don't want to keep scrapping stuff based on just not having enough confidence with myself to make something good.

So what are some ways you increase your self confidence/self esteem if its possible?

Have you had issues with self confidence or self esteem?



Just gotta show what you made to people in your field that will critique it.

What have you made? out of curiosity.
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My self esteem and confidence is below the basement. Abysmal. No idea how to improve it.
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How to boost confidence? Keep winning.

Make connections as to how your best skills/feats connect to what you're doing. For example, learning to make really good builds in games requires fostering your research skills which is applicable for anything.

Even with creative subjects, many pros work their way up by copying elements from the stuff they've seen and it eventually internalizes into them like learning how to speak an original sentence out of a foreign language with the word blocks that you have learned.
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Workout, copy others or do something competitive that makes you strive to improve.

You're in high school right? Nothing wrong with a sport or studying to score top on the ASVAB / SAT for scholarships to set up your future..

High school was a breeze for me, my only problem was not studying on my own for the tests that actually mattered. No one cares about your GPA, it's more leaned towards tests nowadays or if you can handle a part time job at your age.

Work experience and good contacts will make your life smooth Who knows maybe someone else confident can mentor you.




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Personally for me, when i was around your age (OP), i think there were people in my life that helped give me encouragement and confidence but probably also others that were the opposite.
Iam not sure why i lacked confidience as much as i did for a period of my life there? i was always shy but i used to have confidence but somehwere along the line i really had very little to none.
I really had no reason to be so unconfident, i wasnt bullied or over weight or short or geeky or anything like that i just was very unconfident. Even though i had friends and intrest from the opposite sex i just had no confidence as far as speaking my mind, making my own decisions, doing things infront of people especially larger groups, talking to girls, etc

I think for me, life experience helped get me out of my shell and give me confidence. After i left school when i was 17, i really started to gain confidence.
i went from being very quiet and shy and being a real follower and really worried about the opinion of others and affraid of many things to being really quite the opposite.
I can honestly say that just biting the bullet and going for it or just doing it really helped me. Like i went from not even being able to speak infront of large groups and having so much self doubt and being so embarrassed and scared to try things to suddenly i would rap infront of lots of people lol.
I think there was a guy in our group that was like our unofficial leader and i just did what he said pretty much lol. I broke out of that.
I think i found things that i was good at. Everything from playing pool to video games to rapping to graffetti and i gained confidence from that.(like you said receiving praise)
Also finally kissing a girl(like first real kiss) and getting a girlfriend and having some experiences with girls. I think you could add getting into a fight with guys that were harrassing us alot and doing well in that fight, standing up for myself and speaking my mind more.
A big one for me was getting my first job and earning my own money! I was still pretty shy but having money and being able to buy stuff and then getting my license and a car, all these sorts of things just really gave me more and more confidence.
Getting a way better job that paid waty better aswell later on only increased this.

I can honestly say that i have lived both the life of someone who was very weak minded and low in confidence and someone who was very strong minded and confident. And the world, or your life really is very noticeably different.
I think i went from being a confident kid who was good at drawing and sport to a kid who had zero confidence. To then a teen/young man full of confidence to now a grown man somehwere in the middle.
I will never be weak like i once was but i am also not as confident and positive and strong as i have been either.

Another thing is, ALCOHOL! yeah it may be false confidence but i can honetly say that alcohol really did help me initially come out of my shell and do things that i may have never other wise done.
It's a real confidence booster for sure

Good luck.

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pandrasb wrote:


LunaTakimoto wrote:

I've been wondering this for awhile... How do you increase your self confidence or self esteem?

I've never really had much confidence in anything I make. I've always scrapped things purely because I didn't know if they were good or bad. I can't tell what I make is good or bad at times. I've kinda increased my self confidence in doing some things that are considered to be good however I can't tell if its false praise or not. I've been trying to boost my self confidence mostly to be more confident when making things. I don't want to keep scrapping stuff based on just not having enough confidence with myself to make something good.

So what are some ways you increase your self confidence/self esteem if its possible?

Have you had issues with self confidence or self esteem?



Just gotta show what you made to people in your field that will critique it.

What have you made? out of curiosity.


I put a few things in the spoiler. Its just a few AMVs and a random edit.
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miGneto wrote:


sabrinapaulinor wrote:

what works for me is taking care of myself. Say exercising, eating healthier.... Buying new clothes. Thats an instant lifter.


+1

When people started noticing the results I got from consistently going to the gym it definitely help build my confidence. When I got in better shape, clothes I bought would also fit me better which was a plus.


Yeah, me too. It takes some time but it sure brings good results. Its totally worth it.
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It's easy, I do the Cool Patrol Dance.

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I just be myself! I've never really had problems with confidence or self esteem!
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Working out and coming out last year boosted my confidence quite abit.
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Simple not give a shit about what people think don't follow lead.
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I find that my best way is to stop being simple. Most society stuff we go through attempts to simplify us regarding only permissions and confidence is only an issue because most of us are constantly told no by society's blind judgment of anyone. This only occurs because pop culture has been overrun by simplifications that society has begun to push forward in front of everyone because its all about an economy. Popularity as the basis for every decision will always leave you empty. Doing you just because you're you is the foundation of wtf has been called confidence. Going past that is recognizing will, far beyond words until you know it yourself. All in all, remaining free of attachments is also conducive towards harnessing creativity and as long as we remain happy with ourselves, loving, creative, the way we choose to be instead of pressured into being... we can't be anything but confident. Its in the way we always are.
Another way I've seen this, lacking confidence comes by mistrusting yourself, following instead of recognizing your own capability, repeating stuff others say, and thinking. I mean this, thinking interferes with most we do. Gotta apply thoughts to actuality while most stuff we hear about is so far from the truth that thoughts have yet to catch up to real after picking up thoughts from society.
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Walk around your house naked. Preferably when nobody is around, but if you have someone that's cool with it all the power to you. You learn that when you are completely exposed you tend to want to find something about your body that satisfies your confidence, and finding flaws you wish to fix. It's almost like when an introvert will dance when nobody is around, it makes you feel good. Nobody will see you, but only you will boost your confidence in doing so.

If that doesn't work. Start eating healthy. Eating bad foods tends to drop your mood and energy. Eating healthy cleans out your system and it makes you feel refreshed, which is a huge confidence booster. If you feel healthy, you'll look healthy, and you will begin to live with confidence.

It's soo simple, it's common sense. No logic involved. The first step to finding confidencE is realizing the potential for a better life.
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