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How do you increase your self confidence?
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Posted 12/12/16 , edited 12/12/16

gornotck wrote:

Seems no one quoted Gurren Laggan. "Don't believe in yourself. Believe in Kamina, who believes in you.", I think it was.


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Have a few drinks and regret it in the morning.
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Posted 12/12/16 , edited 12/13/16
Start with a small, easily attainable goal and work your way up from there.
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I think I need to decrease my self-confidence, honestly. I usually just don't care what people think, unless I already value them

So, especially if you want to increase confidence in something you personally made, remember that since YOU made it, you're the one who gives it value. If you're happy with it, don't let others dictate your opinion of it. Then, just strive to make something you're happy with.

Although, maybe that's kind of circular... Made more sense in my head
Posted 2/3/17 , edited 2/3/17
Exercising makes anyone feel good! Also taking care of yourself, like having a skin and hair regimen and also painting your nails. Eating healthy foods like veggies, drinking a lot of water, and sleeping well also drastically improve you not only physically but mentally. This will give you confidence to go out more and be more outgoing, which in turn will supply you with even more self confidence!
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Posted 2/3/17 , edited 2/3/17
If you figure out how please let me know ;P
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millertime2199 wrote:

Start with a small, easily attainable goal and work your way up from there.


^ This. Good post Millertime.
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The long answer is to slowly build it up over time. You won't wake up one day and be filled with self confidence. That old saying fake it til you make it applies also. The short answer is to eat a lot of gas station hot dogs they'll make you feel like a king and your confidence will skyrocket.
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Keep small promises to yourself, get steadily more difficult.
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In high school I was a bit of an asshole. I was the shortest and weakest kid in my grade so people would try to pick on me. To combat this, I was quick witted and had a sharp tongue. People didn't really bother me like they had in grade school, but a consequence was that I didn't have many friends which led to some insecurities and slowly made me into a bully. Instead of waiting for someone to start something with me, I was now on the offensive going after others.

One day a girl started talking to me during lunch for no reason. She asked why I was so short tempered and mean to my peers. After explaining myself (which honestly is just nothing but excuses...) she gave me the best piece of advice I've ever gotten. She told me to stop being so serious and smile. I don't remember her exact words but it went something like this: "Smile everyday. Wake up in the morning and smile. Walk to your bathroom mirror and smile at yourself. If you don't feel like it, force it. Smile at breakfast. Smile to strangers as you walk to school. Smile to your peers and teachers. Smile at any customers you have at your job after school. No matter what happens, just smile. Never stop smiling."

Being completely honest with myself, I didn't like the type of person I was. I didn't like feeling so angry. I didn't like being insecure of who I was. I decided to try it out. It couldn't hurt to just smile. So I started smiling all the time. Even when I was mad or upset, I just smiled. It was hard as hell in the beginning, but it eventually got easier and easier until it was effortless. Almost like muscle memory. I don't know when it happened, but I remember just waking up one day and being happy. Over time the smile went from being a mask to being genuine. I stopped shitting on those around me and people started talking to me more. I was getting along with my classmates (even the ones who previously bullied me) and my anger just wasn't there anymore.

My confidence went up. I was more sure of myself. My insecurities were almost non existent. I came to realize my strengths and my weaknesses. I began to prioritize my short comings and how to overcome them. This has all led up to who I am as a person today. And I couldn't be happier of who I am as a person.

Obviously everyone will have different results. But that is also in part of what you make of any advice people give you. Just smile. Paired with other people's advice, I am confident it will have a positive effect. Hopefully a simple smile can change someone's world like it did mine.
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Posted 2/4/17 , edited 2/4/17
keep taking small steps out of your comfort zone. its hard but if u start being in situations u feel uncomfortable in or insecure in, then soon you will get used to it. idk if this helps but it helps with my anxiety
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Posted 2/4/17 , edited 2/4/17
Lose weight and become a narcissist.
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By looking in the mirror (which i hate doing) and say to myself, "I am an ugly, smart, odd lady with average looks, and thats ok, cause thats what makes me human", then i go back to bed and cry cause i can't face my fears in the real world.
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Fake it 'til you make it.
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By accepting who you are, and not being so hard on yourself. Building confidence doesn't happen overnight. It's a long process. I'm sure everyone has low self confidence from time to time. Do the smallest things and in no time, you'll feel better about yourself.

For example, try walking upright with your head up. Dress more fancy than usual (like formal casual). Enter a room, and just greet everyone. Maybe you can partake in hobbies that allow you to freely express yourself. Leave your comfort zone from time to time. Try new things.

But most importantly, don't lie to yourself. If it's something you're not comfortable with, don't do it. You're not wrong for saying no.
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