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Why do people work at places that make them unhappy?
Posted 12/13/16
Not everyone has the chance to obtain a dream job (for example, the child laborers/slaves working to harvest cocoa beans for chocolate in West Africa right about now). Not everyone knows what their dream job is. Not everyone has dreams they haven't already given up on.

And then there are the people who shoot for their dreams and crash and burn. They're used as examples to say "don't do it."

The world is not a rosy place for everyone.
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Beacause there is no other choice
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Posted 12/13/16 , edited 12/13/16
I've worked at some jobs I hated, but I needed the money and they paid better than anything else I was qualified for at the time.
Now I have the job I always wanted, so it all paid off


qualeshia3 wrote:


DeadlyOats wrote:

Because NAFTA. The good jobs left the U.S., and all that was left was working at McDonalds....


What is NAFTA? Forgive me for being stupid.


Happened to a lot of my father's friends in the late 90s, the lucky ones took early retirement, the rest of them it was one dead end, low wage crap job one after another and retirement became nothing more than a fantasy...

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Posted 12/13/16
I hate my job, I'm paid for 28 hours a week(thanks Obamacare), I often work more, like every week. I also am on call 24/7(free) unless I'm on vacation...like this week, which I ended up doing work emails anyway.

Thing is, I get paid over $18 an hour, I make more for all that I do than I would working full time at a fast food place, which I rather not go back to doing. Those are all the jobs I see posted. Though occasionally I see a great job I'm qualified for, I apply but never hear anything after. I have a house I'm not ready to sell or rent out yet, so there is that too. And my dream jobs of Microsoft CEO and Professional Tennis Coach, I'm entirely unqualified for!
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Posted 12/13/16

qualeshia3 wrote:

Some people tend to work at places they aren't comfortable or happy at? Why? What is so wrong with finding a job you love and sticking with it?


In order to find a job you love, you must be able to walk away from any job you don't. And most people, over time, pile up a series of obligations - student loans, a mortgage, a family - that make walking away from the job they have effectively impossible.
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because they have to and they want to live. (didn't grab the chances while they were young most likely)


Personally im studying so i can work somewhere i like otherwise if i had to work a 9/5 job at somewhere i hated for life just to live.
Well i wouldn't do that in the first place and never will because that's not living that's called self torture and death is a better option then putting yourself through that.
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Posted 12/13/16

ninjitsuko wrote:

I think people are taking nanikore2's comment about learning what you're good at doing at face value, rather looking at the implications of the comment itself.

When you're working a standard retail or fast food job, you learn that you don't always get the best opportunities. However, even in a situation like that - you'll realize quick that if you're competing for a position that you're simply not great at doing, you'll be failing against your counterparts (a good example of this is my older brother - he works as an Assistant Manager at McDonald's and it took him almost 20 years to get that position because he isn't that great at the management side of operations).

Just because you want to do something doesn't mean that you'll be able to obtain it easily when it's one of your weakest skills. Yes, you can train that skill and eventually reach that goal, however, that eventually could be much longer than the time that it'd take to reach a similarly paying position that you're actually good at doing (and enjoy, to a degree).

Just because you find out what you're good at doesn't mean that you're only good at doing one thing. I've always been on the endless hunt of "What should I do next?" - I don't have any children (thankfully) and the only responsibilities I have are the day to day bills that can be paid with savings for several years. I've been to five different colleges in my lifetime but have two degrees (BSc in Computer Science, MSc in Mathematics). I've studied Nuclear Engineering (great at it, but life kicked me in the shins), Psychology (not so good at it, mostly because of I "connect the dots" in a mathematical/engineering method on an instinctive level), Computer Science (great at it, since I started coding on a Commodore 64 back in 1990), and Mathematics (awesome at it, since it seems to be something I do with ease).

As you can see, I tried things I was passionate about (I love studying/analyzing people and I'm good at it - just not great at it) and things that I'm good at doing. I'm currently using both of my degrees (sort of) as I'm using my mathematics knowledge to create elaborate encryptions that are proprietary (as the company I work for uses them explicitly as one of their selling points). I handle network infrastructure/design as well as coding these aspects or troubleshooting them when things are going awol for specific customers. It pays well, but I'm getting bored of it. I'm good at it but after an extended period of time doing the same thing, I crave something different.

This is when it goes back to the lack of responsibilities. I don't have other humans relying on me to keep them alive (children) and I can sustain myself without any work for a significant amount of time. However, something my grandfather told me back when I started working when I was 8 - never quit a job before having another one in the works.

Back to "Why do people work in jobs that they hate" - it's primarily due to responsibilities. When you have responsibilities like bills, children, pets, stay at home wives/girlfriends - you have to do whatever you can to make ends meet. No job is flawless. I've left jobs because of them manipulating my work to display incorrect data or because executives simply refuse to accept that they're doing things that will run the company to the ground (which, years later, they're no longer around). But do I leave a job because it's not something I overly enjoy? No. Or what about an annoying co-worker? Of course not, all jobs have annoying co-workers. If it's the actual job title I hate - well, you get used to it.

When you have responsibilities, "you gotta do what you gotta do".


You are still better off though going for something you will enjoy and are able to live off then a job you are good at and never will enjoy.

Personally i would never do a job and have left jobs simply because i was good at them but didn't enjoy it at all.

If you can't do something you are passionate about and have no choice sure but if you can get money out of a passion it's always the better choice.

But you are right about responsibilities which is why i don't have any and don't plan to have any until i get the job i want.

No point in living life if you are gonna work a 9-5 job you hate is my belief personally.
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Posted 12/13/16
They have little to no opportunity to assume any other position at another job.
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gornotck wrote:

The real question is why do we expect work to make us happy? Why is there this incredible faith that work will set us free?


Because money buys happiness.
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Posted 12/13/16
Most people are not always able to quit the job they have now, just to get a new one. Sometimes it's because not everyone goes to college to get a degree, which some places require, but it's important to be able to pay bills and eat, so that's why some people stay with what they have, otherwise many people would not survive in this world. At that rate, the job they have now would be better than quitting. Being grateful for what you have at the moment is something important to do as well! I know there are plenty of people around the world that would rather have a job they hate just to put bread on the table, rather than sit and keep on suffering. Unfortunately, those people aren't able to get a job most of the time. Now I know most people would whine and complain about not having the job they wanted, but that was where they decided to work after all the decisions that could have been made. I've never had a job, but I know life is hard and the things you have to do to survive are troublesome, but it's better to just be happy with what you have. Even if hate it, and you think it's a waste of time.
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Posted 12/14/16
Yeah sometimes i really really hate my job but i know it could be SO much worse. Like less pay, worse conditions, more dangerous, even worse hours, worse traffic, or something like cleaning toilets for instance.
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Posted 12/15/16
Because some people can't afford to quit their jobs.
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Posted 12/15/16
We settle for things like a job that pays well but sucks your life force or a relationship that makes you feel average its human trait
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Posted 12/15/16
I was never good at school so didnt get very good exam results when i left, i did a few course at college but after i finished there was nothing out there that i enjoyed. I worked behind a bar for 4 years and then i got a full time job as doctors receptionist. I currently hate my job and i'm looking for something new but its hard as there isnt much going.

I suffer with depession so it makes a mountain out of a mole hill most of the time but i need the money so i cant just quit.

Being an adult sucks sometimes.
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Posted 12/15/16

lunafangs wrote:

I was never good at school so didnt get very good exam results when i left, i did a few course at college but after i finished there was nothing out there that i enjoyed. I worked behind a bar for 4 years and then i got a full time job as doctors receptionist. I currently hate my job and i'm looking for something new but its hard as there isnt much going.

I suffer with depession so it makes a mountain out of a mole hill most of the time but i need the money so i cant just quit.

Being an adult sucks sometimes.



Being an adult does suck at times.
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