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Posted 12/16/16
I guess money is an issue to some people. I think it's normal to just take turns paying. As in, it's always your turn unless she wants a turn.
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Posted 12/16/16
It should always be the person who asks. Think of it like this: if you invite someone to a party, do you expect them to pay? Not unless you specifically arrange for this, no. You're inviting the other person to an event. Unless there's already some kind of understanding or you explain to the other person, that person should only expect to bring him/herself.
Posted 12/16/16
Just pay what you ordered and I will pay what I ordered.

That's it.
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As a male, I was raised to take care of the bill when it arrives, so I always move to do so without being prompted.

Should my date interject that she wants to chip in or foot the bill then I'd allow it and thank her. I'm not going to start arguing over who pays what out of some misplaced sense of pride.
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Posted 12/16/16

kinga750 wrote:

If I offer take someone out, I expect to pay for both of us. In any case I always insist on at least paying half, but if someone really wanted to get the bill on principal, I wouldn't argue. You have to know how to accept kindness.


I agree.
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Posted 12/16/16
I always paid. Nothing wrong with that. Haven't you ever paid for a friends lunch? All my friends take
turns treating each other. Would be weird to ask a girl out and not pay for things. Guess thats just
old way of thinking. To me, if I'm not paying, its less of a date and more just people hanging out.
And anyone can just hang out even people that don't like each other.

Its not something I insist on though. If the girl likes that whole independent thing I'm sure I'll know
that before I even ask for the date. So things will still work quite nicely.
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SHE  PAYS. 
I  BE  THE  BREAD  WINNER  SHE  NEED  TO  PAY  SOMETHING.
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Posted 12/16/16 , edited 12/16/16
I usually have expected to pay, but I've never turned down going dutch.

But I grew up believing if you invite anyone to anything you should pay, not just dates.
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Posted 12/16/16
I would have said going dutch but actually whoever asked sounds more correct.
However the generosity for someone to want to pay without being asked is appreciated.
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Posted 12/16/16 , edited 12/17/16
in the era of equality.. pay for your own food should be the new standard

stop playing the woman card when it's convenience

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Posted 12/16/16 , edited 12/17/16
Half and half that way its fair
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Posted 12/16/16
How about some home cooking?

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Posted 12/16/16

Ny0 wrote:




The one that asked and planned for it.


But isnt it that guys are usally the one who ask and plan first dates?
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Posted 12/16/16
If the one that invites should pay, but isnt it that guys are the one who asks and invites for first dates?
Posted 12/16/16


Yes
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