How to deal with girls you don't like?
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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16
Alright hear me out, back when I was 18~20 I was cool, I treat all girls equally with a normal face since I don't really have a need to get a girlfriend. But now that I need a girlfriend I am extra nice to the good looking girls, as for the average or not good looking ones I tried to be nice as well but I can't help but sort of has this I don't want to be with you expression on my face and girls read me like a book. Now I don't want to sound superficial like Fredreload only likes girls that are good looking, which is true. But I mean at least let the girl be decent looking since most of the good looking girls are bought off and packaged somewhere = =. Now how do you deal with girls you don't like without being hypocritical?
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but that is superficial... no matter how you put it, it will always sound superficial since you're admiting you'd rather have decent looking or attractive female friends. In my opinion since you're looking for a girlfriend be nice to all your female friends (no matter how they look) and actually flirt/drop hints with the ones you like more. No need to stop being friends with a gal, just make it clear you just want to be friends and put some distance between you two at times
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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16
Really?


Now if your talking about what you do about women you're not attracted to? How hard can this really be? Seriously.

How can you say you only like attractive women? That's absolutely shallow as fuck. Some of the nicest and loving women might not be supermodels, so what. Most attractive women are just eye candy, and that's fine with me, but women you actually want to be with are attractive to you no matter what.

Maybe start looking on the inside my friend, because if you always look for attractive women, what the fuck do you think attractive women are doing?
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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16
You can't really pretend to be kind to women you are not attracted to. They read you like an open book. And I hate hurting their feelings especially when they are nice = =
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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16

fredreload wrote:

You can't really pretend to be kind to women you are not attracted to. They read you like an open book. And I hate hurting their feelings especially when they are nice = =


How can you even say that xD

If someone's nice to you, do the same in return. If you aren't attracted to someone, you can still be nice to them as a friend.

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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16
fredreload, you have no right to be shallow when this is you:

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-957553/feeling-awkward-around-girls
Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16

fredreload wrote:

You can't really pretend to be kind to women you are not attracted to. They read you like an open book. And I hate hurting their feelings especially when they are nice = =


Yes you can. Me I'm a good liar people that know me tell me I'm a manipulator I can be nice to unattractive girl and have them fall for me and often have doesn't mean I fall for them nor do I lead them on and I make it clear and openly state I'm superficial and shallow.

Get a better poker face. I also have a hard time believing what you say though.
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starshots wrote:

fredreload, you have no right to be shallow when this is you:

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-957553/feeling-awkward-around-girls


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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16
Are you only nice to guys you find attractive? How about family members--only nice the ones you are attracted to? What about animals?

It seems like you are going into every interaction with a girl thinking "If I can't get in a relationship with her, then there is no point in hanging out with this person." You (hopefully) don't go through the rest of your life like that. So don't approach your relationships with girls like that either.

If you make friends with girls, without any ulterior motives, you'll eventually find one that you find attractive. And that's how long-term relationships start. Because girls that aren't especially cute when you first see them will become cuter as you get to know them. Also, girls hang out with each other, and usually those friendships are not based on attractiveness. If you piss off the nice-but-ugly ones, you'll get a bad reputation in your social circles and the nice-but-cute ones that do exist will want nothing to do with you.
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Posted 12/22/16 , edited 12/22/16
To me love doesn't really exist there's only sexual attraction if you ask me. Women should be treated fairly even if it's one who might not be so attractive in appearance.

Usually a woman would make a 'dream type' list of what she wants in a guy. You could try do the same. If you find someone fulling most of the list then just go for it. Not all 'beautiful women' have a kind personality. Most are just dumb no offense(I am woman myself). If you're looking for the whole package I'd say you gotta wait for a long time. If you start bonding with a girl who is not attractive you might find out that she has a good personality just saying. Just do whatever you want but I do advice not to treat all women the same way. We will notice it very quickly and it's not something we're fan of.
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Posted 12/22/16 , edited 12/22/16
You treat them like people.
Posted 12/22/16 , edited 12/22/16
In all honesty, if you're 30 and "need" a girlfriend you must be doing something wrong. Change your mindset and I'm sure you'll find someone. I don't really understand why you can't be nice to someone just because you don't find them attractive. That's pretty fucking stupid. Everyone has feelings you know.
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Posted 12/22/16 , edited 12/23/16

Apholo wrote:

In all honesty, if you're 30 and "need" a girlfriend you must be doing something wrong. Change your mindset and I'm sure you'll find someone. I don't really understand why you can't be nice to someone just because you don't find them attractive. That's pretty fucking stupid. Everyone has feelings you know.




Agreed, I have plenty of female friends, I don't why it has to be either date me or leave me alone entirely. That being said, if you are in a situation where someone is interested in you, you're not interested, you make that clear and they don't give up eventually you have to cut them off. Not out of spite of course, but rather so that they can find someone else.

Now look, when a was younger I saw felt a so called need to have a girlfriend (since it felt like I was out of place/doing something wrong) which ended up dragging me down and neglect other things going on in my life and looking back I quite regret it.

As the above poster said unless you change your outlook on such things and snap out of this phase you are going to have quite the rough road ahead of you.
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