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Posted 12/19/16 , edited 12/19/16


’Tis the season for potentially very short romantic relationships.


There’s less than a week to go until Christmas Eve, the biggest date night of the year in Japan. Some singles without plans may be feeling emboldened because of a recent survey in which 55 percent of the unattached Japanese women polled said that they’d be willing to accept a Christmas Eve date invitation from anyone with the confidence and courage to ask, but a separate poll from another organization shows some less flowery emotions may be at play.

Wedding planning Internet portal Wedding Park conducted a survey of women between the ages of 20 and 39, asking them what they think of the concept of a “Christmas Eve-only boyfriend,” or, in other words, going out with a guy on Christmas Eve even if they don’t feel like they’re going to want to see him again after that.

Out of the 253 responses received, roughly one in four women said they could see themselves going out with a Christmas Eve-only boyfriend, with 9.1 percent saying “definitely.” Agreeing in a less enthusiastic manner, 30.4 percent said they’d also be OK accepting an invitation from a guy on the unilateral presumption that it’s going to be a one-time-only deal.

However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that these women are simply using the holiday season as a means to an end to satisfy their cravings for attention and pampering. When asked why they’d be OK going out with a Christmas Eve-only boyfriend, more than one woman’s response contained positive sentiments and even-headed logic. “I could go out with a Christmas Eve-only boyfriend if it would help us both not feel lonely. Maybe a romance would even develop between us after that,” said one woman in her early 20s. “If we have fun together, and it feels romantic, that’d be great,” chimed in another respondent in her early 30s.

So while that first date might be a Christmas miracle, it sounds like anything after that is going to depend on legitimate chemistry and mutual attraction.



http://en.rocketnews24.com/2016/12/19/40-percent-of-japanese-women-in-survey-say-theyd-be-ok-with-a-christmas-eve-only-boyfriend/
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Casual dating on one of the most depressing nights of the year, who'd have thought?
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This isn't really abnormal, especially in Japan.
In fact, I had a "Christmas Eve-Only" girlfriend when I was in Kyoto back .. in 2001 (yikes, nearly 16 years ago). But it was a classmate and we both did the "romantic things" that you'd expect on a holiday like Christmas in Japan. Keep in mind that it's more about spreading happiness/being happy with one another than the religious connotations for the holiday in the West (USA/UK/Canada/etc). So the idea of having a temporary boyfriend/girlfriend (casually dating) on a night to avoid being lonely ... makes sense to me.
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A "wedding planning" website is asking visitors if they're keen to be casually dating others? Classy.
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I'd be willing to be Valentine's day gets an upsurge of a nighter than Christmas.
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ninjitsuko wrote:

This isn't really abnormal, especially in Japan.
In fact, I had a "Christmas Eve-Only" girlfriend when I was in Kyoto back .. in 2001 (yikes, nearly 16 years ago). But it was a classmate and we both did the "romantic things" that you'd expect on a holiday like Christmas in Japan. Keep in mind that it's more about spreading happiness/being happy with one another than the religious connotations for the holiday in the West (USA/UK/Canada/etc). So the idea of having a temporary boyfriend/girlfriend (casually dating) on a night to avoid being lonely ... makes sense to me.


The funny thing is, I could see myself doing this and enjoying it. A lot of the OP's post is how I think about relationships in general.

I don't look for it, and if it just happens, it happens. Similar to "If romance may come from the one night date..." I don't know... this kind of sounds fun to me.
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The funny thing is, I could see myself doing this and enjoying it. A lot of the OP's post is how I think about relationships in general.

I don't look for it, and if it just happens, it happens. Similar to "If romance may come from the one night date..." I don't know... this kind of sounds fun to me.


It just seems odd to most of the Western world, despite the fact that we tend to have casual dating on a longer-term (dating several men/women to see which one you mesh with more to start an actual relationship with). It's usually a cute/enjoyable thing one way or another; even if romance doesn't happen (to the point of sparks flying) - you still have had a nice date on a day that you'd otherwise be lonely in your apartment/house/room.
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Dark_Alma wrote:
The funny thing is, I could see myself doing this and enjoying it. A lot of the OP's post is how I think about relationships in general.

I don't look for it, and if it just happens, it happens. Similar to "If romance may come from the one night date..." I don't know... this kind of sounds fun to me.


It just seems odd to most of the Western world, despite the fact that we tend to have casual dating on a longer-term (dating several men/women to see which one you mesh with more to start an actual relationship with). It's usually a cute/enjoyable thing one way or another; even if romance doesn't happen (to the point of sparks flying) - you still have had a nice date on a day that you'd otherwise be lonely in your apartment/house/room.


Yea. When I enter a date, I don't expect anything to really come out of it anyway. I just tend to go with the flow.

Man, I feel like I want to go to Japan for the holidays now! At least I do have family to spend xmas with... though they are nagging for me to get a girlfriend. Ahhh, the dilemma.
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Isn't that what you're supposed to do? Ask a girl to the prom just to have a girl to go to the prom with? I think they've sort of stumbled into what dating is all about. Going out with someone just to see if you like them without knowing too much beforehand.
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Isn't that what you're supposed to do? Ask a girl to the prom just to have a girl to go to the prom with? I think they've sort of stumbled into what dating is all about. Going out with someone just to see if you like them without knowing too much beforehand.


Yes and no, I suppose.
I'm sure someone who currently lives in Japan would be a better person to speak of cultural differences than I am (I was only in Kyoto for about 8 months as a foreign exchange student, well over a decade ago now). These "temporary boyfriend/girlfriend" situations doesn't necessarily mean that romance will stir (just like going on a random date with someone) - it's more so to ensure that you're not lonely when there's a social expectation on you to be with someone.
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I'm presuming said boyfriend would be expected to pay for dinner, Christmas cake dessert and any additional expenses, like movie tickets?

So classy, ladies...yes, I totally want a one day boyfriend to just buy me everything! And if it works out (meaning he pays for everything), I'd be willing to see him again. Wow, just wow.
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ok thats cool
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Oh ok. I'm sure they are just dying to unwrap their gift.


yes I made a terrible joke, but it felt so right
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Have sexy time and eat KFC. As is tradition.
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I'm presuming said boyfriend would be expected to pay for dinner, Christmas cake dessert and any additional expenses, like movie tickets?

So classy, ladies...yes, I totally want a one day boyfriend to just buy me everything! And if it works out (meaning he pays for everything), I'd be willing to see him again. Wow, just wow.


Yes, these are pretty much the norm. Although, the woman would likely bring snacks (cookies/sweets that she's baked or bought) and perhaps dinner (depending on the plans). The rest, generally, yeah - the guy would be paying for in this situation.

Although, I would say that the vast majority of these dates are one-off dates. Working or not doesn't really matter on the financial aspects solely; though, I'd be lying if there isn't some aspect of the guy's financial affairs being calculated into the situation (as we all know).
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