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zangeif123 wrote:

Have sexy time and eat KFC. As is tradition.


that sounds 100% spot on, and this is funny to me.
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Yes, these are pretty much the norm. Although, the woman would likely bring snacks (cookies/sweets that she's baked or bought) and perhaps dinner (depending on the plans). The rest, generally, yeah - the guy would be paying for in this situation.

Although, I would say that the vast majority of these dates are one-off dates. Working or not doesn't really matter on the financial aspects solely; though, I'd be lying if there isn't some aspect of the guy's financial affairs being calculated into the situation (as we all know).


I remember that the last time I was in Japan, I ran into a woman with a bag that said "I love rich men". No joke. While it could have just been a case of "Yay, English on a bag!", I'm guessing with Google being what it is, she looked up the meaning and was totally cool with it. And that didn't sit well with me. It's an incredibly shallow attitude to have. Yeah, I'm just looking for someone to buy me stuff and give me the life I think I deserve.

Assuming that neither party has met, I really think that both party's finances should be taken into account. If the woman expects the man to pay and he's working at the FamiMart, expecting to go to a 20,000 yen/diner establishment is a bit much for a first date.

I think both men and women need to have more realistic expectations when it comes to finding a partner. Men need to stop expecting that a woman will look and act like some anime/manga/movie/eroge heroine and women need to stop expecting that they'll end up with some fabulously wealthy, dashing man. For the most part, that just does not happen.
Posted 12/19/16

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I remember that the last time I was in Japan, I ran into a woman with a bag that said: "I love rich men". No joke. While it could have just been a case of "Yay, English on a bag!", I'm guessing with Google being what it is, she looked up the meaning and was totally cool with it. And that didn't sit well with me. It's an incredibly shallow attitude to have. Yeah, I'm just looking for someone to buy me stuff and give me the life I think I deserve.

Assuming that neither party has met, I really think that both party's finances should be taken into account. If the woman expects the man to pay and he's working at the FamiMart, expecting to go to a 20,000 yen/diner establishment is a bit much for a first date.

I think both men and women need to have more realistic expectations when it comes to finding a partner. Men need to stop expecting that a woman will look and act like some anime/manga/movie/eroge heroine and women need to stop expecting that they'll end up with some fabulously wealthy, dashing man. For the most part, that just does not happen.


To be fair, I've met people in America that have the same sort of accessories/bags and they proudly boast about only going after men with six figure salaries. Japan has similar people from time to time; especially those who follow strict, old-fashion logic about marrying a wealthy person. It is horribly shallow; alas, we can't really change the mentality of the world - only ourselves and hope to inspire those around us (in some way or another).

On the date that I was on we were both students and agreed to keep it simple. She brought dinner and some sweets - I bought a Christmas cake and paid for any entertainment (which was basically travel and a few rides). Just like in any culture, some women expect the man to pay for everything and at a premium (to impress them). Not all women in Japan (or any other culture) are like this; just that those who are tend to be quite boisterous about it in some way or another. :/

I will say that the majority of females in Japan had higher expectations of males (at the student level) in my experience there. But your comment about expectation falls on all societies when it comes to relationships and dating as a whole. These dates aren't always the monstrosity as they appear to be (see my own, for example). Yet, I made sure to avoid the girls who acted like money was the root of all pleasure in life.
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Basically, Japanese women are coming to grips with what we know in the west--
WE don't know how the heck their whole "Christmas date" idea started in the first place (apart from misinterpreted "Fireplace" images from western movies/TV), and they don't see any point in it either.
Last October, some Japanese girls complained that they "couldn't find their Halloween Date".

Now, that leaves only the whole Valentine's Day/White Day "chocolate" thing, and the "Christmas KFC" things to work out.
Posted 12/19/16
Lol "Christmas KFC", that's the best
Posted 12/19/16
I break up with people around Christmas so I don't have to buy them a a present
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