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Posted 12/21/16
So, how does everyone here handle that crippling anxiety we all get?
I know some people only get it once in a while, and others really live with it almost constantly.
I'm not really the kind of person who usually shows weakness or anything, much less ask for advice in public.
But for curiosity's sake, what usually helps ease the feeling like you are having a heart attack?
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I think back on what I have now and what I would not give in the next 60 years when I inevitably see them go away one after another (unless I go first). Not sure if that's helpful in your case but having experienced loss and speaking with people at the end of their line (I've worked in hospice; still do sometimes), some satisfied and others miserable, has given me the ability to truly appreciate the "now" and let small matters go without a fuss.

Cool avatar btw. I'm currently building a Nausicaa model and it's a pretty calming activity. Maybe you might wanna give it a try?
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Posted 12/21/16
Personally it depends on where I am & how severe it is. Usually breathing exercises/meditating, walking around, listening to music, writing/thinking about it logically or reading will calm me down. Other instances long showers/baths, strenuous exercise or sleep would work. I'd rather not be around people when it happens but if I'm with my close friends or boyfriend then I just need them to hug me & not to say anything.

I guess just simply doing the things you like would help whether you're by yourself or with other people. Just make sure you're enjoying yourself
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That's a very difficult subject to speak on, but, for myself it's a lot of little things. First; try to think of something good in your life or from your imagination and just let the emotions wash away. Second; if you have a pet (cat, dog, or something else) spend some time with them, a lot of times this can help when thing haven't gotten too bad. Third; talk to some one about some unrelated nonsense in your lives, again this is helpful when you're just feeling like it's about to happen. Fourth; play a game that you just find fun to play, if it put a smile on your face it's probably a good choice. Fifth; if it's not an abstract concept try facing it in a safe environment, you'd be surprised just how much it can Lessen the feeling. Lastly if none of the above work see a psychologist and get a regular treatment set up, be it pills and/or therapy so long as it's some that is regular and on a schedule it will help.

I have a lot of trouble with this myself, but after a bit of hard work (and a strong prescription from my psychologist), I've been able to manage it fairly well. The most important thing is just to find what works best for you and stick with it.
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Posted 12/21/16
unless my attack was triggered by thoughts because i was alone in the first place, i usually leave crowded places (like classrooms or hallways) and try to find dark, cool places to just sit down and breathe. when that doesn't work, i start counting - the longest i've had to count for was 4,719 (exactly, i remember it was my first ever quartet exam) and the whole thing lasted half an hour.

but i agree with Azusasaphire: think of something simple, or something good, something that's around you. in psychotherapy, we call it "grounding": when a client is having (or is about to have) an attack, we ask them to look for 5 things they can see, 4 things they can feel, 3 things they can smell, two things they can hear, and 1 thing they can taste. i do this too, when it gets really bad. usually by the time i get to concentrating on what i'm tasting i've calmed considerably to be able to regulate my breathing.

dealing with anxiety and panic attacks is tricky - it's usually a trial-and-error thing, and sometimes one thing that works in one instance won't work the next time you have an attack. the most important thing, i suppose, is to surround yourself with people who understand - who won't force you to talk to them when you don't feel like it, who will stay with you when you need them to.
Posted 12/22/16 , edited 12/22/16

WynterBayumm wrote:

So, how does everyone here handle that crippling anxiety we all get?
I know some people only get it once in a while, and others really live with it almost constantly.
I'm not really the kind of person who usually shows weakness or anything, much less ask for advice in public.
But for curiosity's sake, what usually helps ease the feeling like you are having a heart attack?


make sure you breathe well, that always helps



inhale slowly and deeply, gently, reach your palms into the air - as the inhale completes, turn palms downward and descend them along with the exhale and say a relaxing haahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, and smile not like a sigh but more like the I just started a summer vacation sigh of relief. manifest it for real - its a quantum mechanical world, and you're part of the experiment.

sinusoidal motion, gotta love it, but a flip side practice of this....well, not right here...
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Posted 12/23/16
Many people have already given advice, so I'm not sure I'll be able to help. We'll see.
I have near-constant anxiety as well, and I've begun to take it as a challenge to see how I could adapt.
The best technique so far is to absorb all of my thoughts into something (the same technique I use whenever I feel the pressing desire to do something wrong). This can be a concept, activity, or (if you're like me) you can just "go inside your mind" like a clam in a shell. This might not help your social life, but given I don't have one, it works just fine.
Also, whilst pondering possible solutions to this, I believe it may help to have one or more trusted confidants (friends) to share your troubles with, as it may relieve stress instead of temporarily allaying it as the technique used above does. Keep in mind that this is an untested theory.
Finally, if things go too far south for thought absorbing to work, count to ten using each breath as a marker (inhale=1 exhale=2 inhale=3 etc.). If you lose count, don't worry. Just start over (do this daily if possible, preferably during a small quiet time in the morning as it may help you start the day). Repeat as needed.
I'm sorry if I took up your time/wasted any space, but I hope this helps you.
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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 3/3/17
"that crippling anxiety we all get"

Hmm, not everyone experiences debilitating anxiety. I understand that anxiety disorders are fairly common and are a major issue in many people's lives, but I've never had crippling/overwhelming anxiety or suffered a panic attack, nor ever experienced a level of anxiety that would interfere with living my life.

Apparently, anxiety/panic disorders are highly treatable.

(Of course everyone experiences some stress and anxiety, that's normal.)
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Posted 12/29/16 , edited 12/29/16
i guess i'm in denial if i say i don't have any anxiety.... but then again i use boxing as a form of exercise on a daily basis..

and being a DIY i also enjoy solving problems..

honestly.. worrying about something you have no control over or already happened is meaningless.. just try to do what you can and you will get over it.. if not.. learn from it

a family member got a ticket for turning on left.. and tax season is around the corner..

that's pretty much it for me.. nothing to worry about..
Posted 12/29/16
I just put a game on and kill everything.
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You've probably got all the advice you need. Just to add something which wasn't really stated, but I found simply developing a strong hobby/interests was enough to eradicate the worst bits of my anxiety.
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Just chill, and realize that fate is not always in your hands. Do your best in the face of incomprehensible evil, change what you can, don't agonize on what you can't change, and be wise enough to know the difference, and watch Anime.
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I check my pulse. Remind myself it'll be okay.

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My advice is to just do it. I know it's easier said than done, but you'd be surprised how things change once you take the first step.
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I´ve not experienced the kind of anxiety you´re describing OP. But when I get stressed or worried about something, and feel that I need to mellow out; Music usually helps. Hanging out with my bud too. It´s hard to feel bad when you´re having fun, or doing something that requires your focus and attention.

I think I read somewhere that performing repetitive tasks, like cleaning or washing dishes, or training soothes the mind when dealing with anxiety.

Best of luck
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