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Posted 12/26/16

qualeshia3 wrote:


Flovince wrote:

pretend i don't know my ex


It's hard to pretend if you had a very abusive ex.


kill then

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Posted 12/26/16
Tell everyone present you have seen the author naked, and he/she is covered in swastika, racist, and My Little Pony tattoos.
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Posted 12/26/16

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I would just leave once I saw her.

But my just recently ex is a writer. And I will say, just because someone has a book signing, or coincidence created the above scenario of your current gf finding a book your ex wrote and liked it, then showed it to you and you liked it too...doesn't mean she hit it big or became famous. My ex has written several books, and has been in many book signings, but barely makes anything enough to consider her full time writing, just a hobby to me. She makes less in a month usually than I do in a day at my part time job.


But in this scenario your ex became super famous for their work.


No no, reread it. I'm saying, just because she wrote a book and did a book signing, does not mean she is famous or made it big. Like my ex, her books DON'T sell, she does NOT make much....also like I said, I make more in a day than she does in a month. Your ex could be in the same boat, doing a book signing for her book even though it is NOT all that popular. Even if it may be a well written story. Its even more likely if you haven't moved very far since you left your ex.
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I would unload everything off my heart and the three of us would do a group hug!
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Posted 12/26/16

qualeshia3 wrote:
What do you do in this situation?


"Ah, so this is what happens when you use your powers for good instead of evil!"
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Posted 12/26/16

qualeshia3 wrote:


paul25454 wrote:

Walk the fuck out


How do you explain that to your new girlfriend?

with the truth?
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Posted 12/26/16
just tell my current boyfriend "emfg that's the ex i was telling you abouuut" (because i'd probably share stuff about my exes)
and have my book signed anyway and compliment them. o vo

i'm really not one to still get pissy and bitter towards an ex when i already have a new one o:
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7 years is long enough to get over whatever bs they put me through, at least to the point of being amicable. So if I really was a fan of their work I would get my book signed and if it came up I would be honest about our previous relationship. If it didn't come up I would let sleeping dogs lie, no point in starting drama because of an old flame.
Posted 12/26/16
I'm going to backtrack on my earlier statement, only because it was regarding my own ex-girlfriends.
If I were in a situation where I was physically or sexually abused by this person, then I would definitely have to either speak up or disengage. I'd explain to my current girlfriend after the fact.

But going back to my earlier sentiments, I would still strive not to make a scene about it. If I felt it was something that endangered me, my significant other, and/or the author (ex) - then I would try to disengage with the situation as soon as humanly possible. I just think it's not worth causing a scene when the other participants of the book signing were not personally involved in the fiasco of a failed relationship - not their problem, not their lives to deal with at that time. The current girlfriend may be informed of it immediately, via whisper, and asked politely not to cause a scene.
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Posted 12/26/16

likenew wrote:

No no, reread it. I'm saying, just because she wrote a book and did a book signing, does not mean she is famous or made it big. Like my ex, her books DON'T sell, she does NOT make much....also like I said, I make more in a day than she does in a month. Your ex could be in the same boat, doing a book signing for her book even though it is NOT all that popular. Even if it may be a well written story. Its even more likely if you haven't moved very far since you left your ex.


Okay.
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Posted 12/26/16

toxxin wrote:

7 years is long enough to get over whatever bs they put me through, at least to the point of being amicable. So if I really was a fan of their work I would get my book signed and if it came up I would be honest about our previous relationship. If it didn't come up I would let sleeping dogs lie, no point in starting drama because of an old flame.


Not unless your boyfriend or girlfriend was highly abusive. Sure you can get over the violence physical and verbal abuse but there will always be scars.
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Posted 12/26/16

ran76 wrote:

with the truth?


Indeed.
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Posted 12/26/16

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I would unload everything off my heart and the three of us would do a group hug!


I couldn't do it if my ex was extremely abusive to the point I wanted to kill him.
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Posted 12/26/16
Guys, when I say "beyond terrible" I mean your ex was viciously abusive both verbally and physically, obnoxious, vulgar, rude, snobby, mean, nasty, insane, and overall a scumbag. This didn't happen all in one day. It happened over the course of time. Your ex is one of those people who won't change themselves for anyone. Also they always been a writer. It's just something they didn't feel like telling you.
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I'd leave and not get any other book written by this person. You can still like a book but dislike the author. The world is full of artists, writers, singers, songwriters, athletes and or celebrities that are liked for certain reasons but found terrible for bad behaviour or some bad personality traits.

It would be extremely rare of me to be in this position in the first place because I don't put people on pedestals. I see no reason to get autographs at all. I'd only end up at a signing if a good friend or my partner wanted me to come along with them.
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