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Is it normal not to text your gf/bf everyday?
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Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
Depends on the couple and individual. For some people it's weird not to hear from their SO for 24 hours. While with others they either meet frequently or they only text a couple times a week. Everybody's communication style is different. There is no "normal".
Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
Personally, I do not think it's not normal. Like you don't have to carry out a conversation everyday, but at least an indication that you're still there, doing fine. If it's a long distance relationship, then I would want to text everyday. If we were to see each other everyday then probably not as often, but maybe like a dozen texts through out the whole day, idk.
Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16

starshots wrote:

I wouldn't want to text everyday, I'd find that annoying.


yeah same
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Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
As others have said, this is something you'll need to establish with your SO-- communicating about communicating, as it were. If there are needs and expectations, best get them out in the open between you two. Mind games and misunderstandings might make for entertaining rom-com anime, but even in rom-coms the collateral damage from lack of communication can be maddening.

Me, I texted my last GF, who's now my wife, at least once a day during the initial long distance phase of our relationship. I've kept it up every day since then, even after we were married and living in the same house (5th anniversary a few months ago). When at work, I'll text her at her work just to let her know I'm thinking of her. Sometimes she texts me first instead. It's sort of "our thing" and I foresee it continuing until death do us part, or something else replaces texting. It's just a way to say "you're important to me."
Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
If your bf/gf loses their shit everytime you don't text them within 24 hours, that should be a red flag not to date them.
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Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
I mean I've been in a relationship where we didn't communicate every day due to both of us having busy careers, but we did talk a lot when we did so it didn't really matter much.

I don't really believe in texting as proper communication. Sure if you want to use it to make plans or minor communication, fine but any long conversation voice chat only.
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Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
I think it's important to communicate at least once a day. Even if it's a simple text message. Unless you're going somewhere isolated/no signal for a few days.
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Posted 12/26/16 , edited 12/27/16
depends on how serious and close you are.
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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
Some folks may want different things and have different relationship needs. I would get irritated pretty quickly if my gf or bf expected to hear from me every day or expected me to immediately reply to every text message from them.
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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
I think you need to look at the question in this way. It matters not whether you contact your partner everyday but the amount of time spent per day engaging in texting/calling your significant other. If a majority of your time is spent texting them instead of work or some other priority than that could pose an issue. For some couples that may be different because not everything is not black or white but instead various shades of gray.

However I would try looking at it this way and discuss it once more.

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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
I'd say it depends on how close you are, there's nothing wrong with contacting each other everyday and talking about random shit. But if my GF expected me to call or text everyday then that would probably lead to me being irritated and ignoring it on purpose as I don't think there's any trust in a relationship where someone demands you to have constant contact with them.

But with that said I'd probably talk to my GF so she understands how I wanna keep in contact with her.
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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
i always texted my (ex)boyfriends (like saying good morning, good night, asking about their day etc) and they seem to hate it and find me annoying

so i guess the answer is, yeah it's normal not to text them everyday?? ' -'
Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
I only take voice calls so can't answer this.
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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
I would say its fine, i dont always txt my bf and if i'm having a bad day with my depression then i completely shut my self off from the world and he understands that and gives me space.

But if they txt you i think its only polite to reply to them, you dont have to have a full convo with them if you dont feel like it.
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Posted 12/27/16 , edited 12/27/16
There's not always new things to talk about every day. Heck, sometimes even a whole week.
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