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Is it normal not to text your gf/bf everyday?
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Posted 12/28/16 , edited 12/29/16

Kira0309 wrote:

I find it annoying so I hope its normal


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Why do some girls not like to initiate the text like pretty much ever? Evrn when they like the guy? lol


Because girls want to be chased.

Yeah that makes sense.

But what if a guy takes it the wrong way and think she doesnt like him? Sending a text or message once in a while can be nice though. And how come some of them dont carry on the conversation? Sometimes theyre just really shy right?

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Partners are for normies
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Posted 12/28/16 , edited 12/29/16
Yeah it is. Usually when the relationship is new... you'll get a ton of attention, and when you're both comfy things can calm down. The fluctuation depends on the two people and how they work.
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Posted 12/30/16 , edited 12/30/16

TopPercentRaticate wrote:


Kira0309 wrote:

I find it annoying so I hope its normal


TopPercentRaticate wrote:

Why do some girls not like to initiate the text like pretty much ever? Evrn when they like the guy? lol


Because girls want to be chased.

Yeah that makes sense.

But what if a guy takes it the wrong way and think she doesnt like him? Sending a text or message once in a while can be nice though. And how come some of them dont carry on the conversation? Sometimes theyre just really shy right?



Ya that happens. Problem with women these days is they are becoming too independent so they don't really care too much if they are in a relationship or not. Plus its easy to bounce from one guy to the next.

They can be shy but for me I find it super annoying to hold a conversation through texting. If you want to have a conversation try calling them or taking them out.

Women that are not into you though probably won't initiate texting. Once you get them to having feelings for you and in a stronger relationship I am sure they will initiate the conversation more. However, until you get to that point they probably still expect you to put in the effort to make them like you.

**** This isn't true for all women. There are girls out there that will make the first moves. This is just advice for those that won't.
**** Plus every girl is different. They all think differently. So my advice isn't 100% fool proof.
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Posted 12/31/16 , edited 12/31/16

Kira0309 wrote:


TopPercentRaticate wrote:


Kira0309 wrote:

I find it annoying so I hope its normal


TopPercentRaticate wrote:

Why do some girls not like to initiate the text like pretty much ever? Evrn when they like the guy? lol


Because girls want to be chased.

Yeah that makes sense.

But what if a guy takes it the wrong way and think she doesnt like him? Sending a text or message once in a while can be nice though. And how come some of them dont carry on the conversation? Sometimes theyre just really shy right?



Ya that happens. Problem with women these days is they are becoming too independent so they don't really care too much if they are in a relationship or not. Plus its easy to bounce from one guy to the next.

They can be shy but for me I find it super annoying to hold a conversation through texting. If you want to have a conversation try calling them or taking them out.

Women that are not into you though probably won't initiate texting. Once you get them to having feelings for you and in a stronger relationship I am sure they will initiate the conversation more. However, until you get to that point they probably still expect you to put in the effort to make them like you.

**** This isn't true for all women. There are girls out there that will make the first moves. This is just advice for those that won't.
**** Plus every girl is different. They all think differently. So my advice isn't 100% fool proof.


I agree with pretty much everything you said.

The guy should generally make most of the moves at first then once theyre in a stronger relationship she could make bolder moves on him.

On dating sites pretty much every woman stays in invisible mode all the time because they dont want the guy to know she checked him out. I find it pretty funny. Most of them expect to be chased but there are some women who will be bold enough to like the guys photo for one lol.





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Posted 12/31/16 , edited 12/31/16
it depends really, on the relationship itself and factors. For example, a long distance relationship would acquire you to communicate more maybe through messages and such. If you live close to each other, then texting everyday doesn't really seem as necessary because you can meet physically more often. sending random love messages is nice though or just a simple, "hope your day is going well" can do wonders to let the other person know you're thinking about them.
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When my wife and I started out we were on opposite ends of the north american continent (me on Canada's eastern end, she on the US's west). We would text daily, more or less throughout the entire day while we were both awake. Obviously when I went there we didn't text any longer because we were physically together, but the first few times I went and had to go back for work we'd revert to texting/Skyping daily. Now that we're married and living together we'll toss each other a few messages while we're at work, usually about stuff that needs doing, errands that need running on the way home from work, etc. Maybe once a day we'll share a sentimental type message.

Communication is key. If you see your significant other every day, perhaps texting is unnecessary. If you don't, especially during the early formative period of your relationship (and of course this never ends, it just evolves), you'll probably want to be talking in SOME way daily, or else be looking at a failed relationship somewhere down the line. Not texting daily works for some, but remember that in a relationship, if it doesn't work for both parties, there's going to be trouble.

That said, if we're talking about someone who expects that you reply to them right away, and gets upset if they don't get a response within minutes of sending you a message, that's not normal. It's not necessarily bad, but it does belie a high level of emotional neediness that the other party may be unable or unwilling to provide, which is perfectly fair.

Relationships are complicated!
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