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Posted 12/28/16
I have a few insecurities i struggle with daily today has been a bad day.

1. the feeling that no one would ever want me
2. how i look
3. my weight (fixing that)

I don't know how others deal with their insecurities other then thinking about them and grumbling in disappointment and trying to ignore them

How do you deal with your own?
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Posted 12/28/16
i dont
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You set them on fire and watch those insecurities burn


But seriously, I've learned to approach everyone the same now. Especially women. I was really insecure in highschool, which is why at one point I was losing soo much weight, I think the lowest weight was 170 lbs but hey, it didn't take long for girls to see it, because I won't lie, in certain light I'm a pretty decent looking guy

But in all reality, I approach everyone with a calm and collective attitude, because I know I have no insecurities now, I just embrace the fact this is who I am now, and there isn't a fucking thing you can do about it try me bitch.
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i stay out of my house as often as i could.
having my irl friends around me help me forget about my insecurities.
Posted 12/28/16
Meh.
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Keep busy, always best option. Even if it doesn't resolve your problems you'll be more productive and better other aspects of your life in the process so there really isn't a reason not to.
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I have none/apathy
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2 and 3 can be fixed if you tried.

As for 1, don't be weird. Be friendly. People will enjoy you presence.
Posted 12/29/16
Ahhh to be honest I just try not to think about it. Most of these thoughts are anxiety thoughts so I try not to give them too much attention :x
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Number 1 is easy. Just be yourself and just remember you don't have to be the life of the crowd.

Numbers 2 and 3

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I hate myself and bring myself down more than anyone can so no one can get to me.
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Get a hot Russian world champion skater for your coach and boyfriend!


But seriously, there's unfortunately no easy fix to any of those issues. Identifying them is a good first step, although check to see that labeling yourself that way isn't just more low self esteem.

If it feels like too much to deal with on your own, seek professional help. Some counseling can be a really good thing, and again, while not a quick fix, a good counselor should be able to help you identify things you can work on and how to take positive steps to do so. Good counseling isn't always easy to find, and can be pricy, but do an internet search for mental health services in your area. Many counselors and therapists work on a sliding fee scale, there are community counseling services in many areas, etc.

If you're an adult, check your health insurance. Many policies cover some counseling/mental health services, and many have referral services to help you find someone to work with. If you're a college student, there is almost definitely some sort of counseling service at your school, and it may be free of charge to enrolled students. If you're a minor, check at your school. There are likely some sort of counseling services there. That can be weird, I know, schools are notorious gossip mills, and if it's a potential issue for you, you may want to check local laws first to see if school counselors have an obligation to report to your parent or guardian.

There are also smartphone apps to help with diet and exercise issues, and also apps to help with self esteem and related issues. I'm not real familiar with them, but I know they are out there.

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IllIllIIlIllIlIllIlIlIlI wrote:

2 and 3 can be fixed if you tried.

As for 1, don't be weird. Be friendly. People will enjoy you presence.


Problem weird is part of my personality
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Weird is good. Embrace your eccentricities. The people who like you because you are different from every one else are the best people to know.
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Ryulightorb wrote:


IllIllIIlIllIlIllIlIlIlI wrote:

2 and 3 can be fixed if you tried.

As for 1, don't be weird. Be friendly. People will enjoy you presence.


Problem weird is part of my personality


Weird can mean quirky and fun. It's only bad when people are being creepy to other people. Then again... if you're being creepy as a joke and the other person knows it then that's fine but that's only when you're really close friends haha.

Anyway, I have a ton of insecurities but I don't always think about them. The best thing to do is just to keep yourself busy with school/work, hobbies, and spending time with friends and family. When you're busy and you're having fun, you forget about all these things that bother you.

Find something that you're passionate about and focus on that. For example, I spend my free time training myself to draw and my mind is too preoccupied by finding new ways to improve my skills to think about anything else.

Good luck, dude.
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