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How do you deal with the feeling of dejection.
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Posted 12/29/16 , edited 1/2/17
How do you deal with the feeling of dejection.

Dejection is a sad or depressed state; low spirits.

Let's say your in this scenario.

You had a long period in which you were feeling dejected. You just don't know what to do anymore due to having that feeling of dejection.

What would you do to stop the feeling of dejection?

I'm unsure on this myself so I figure I might as well see what other people have to say on this.


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I sleep or watch anime and youtube because it takes my mind of things.
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What I find best is to source the problem, then fix it.
But a lot of problems that cause dejection aren't easily fixable. Take for example me (almost) getting cut off of housing funding due to me forgetting about annual paperwork
In instances like that, it's best to rationalize the problem, see what you can and can't do about it, and damage control the unfix-able parts.

In this case, I stopped worrying about it over the weekend since the housing association was closed. If my paperwork was rejected, I realised I could still keep my house, but I'd have to cut unnecessary expenses. (goodbye Crunchyroll, goodbye heat, and if possible, goodbye internet) and be super frugal till I get the problem solved.

If it involves people, um, that's a lot harder. First off, if you are having paranoia about people doing bad things to you, cut it out, odds are it is all just some over hyped scenario in your head. Example being when I traded my Magearna to my friend to grind it up to lvl 100 faster. But when she found out I messed with her Pokemon's move sets, I got paranoid that she would "release" (aka delete) my rare Pokemon. As for other people problems, if it is someone being toxic to you, and IDC if its a lover or friends (as long as it ain't family, because you don't got much of a choice), don't be afraid to ditch them. Talk to them first though. I've ditch plenty of so called "friends" over the year, even ones I use to like for many reasons, but all boiling down to "This person has been grinding my gears a bit too much..."


Is any of this good advice? IMO, doubtful, this is based off of me, and I'm super logical, but emotionally slow at times. Probably why I'm single:P.
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Lance is spot on. First thing to do is find out what brought you to that state of mind, it could be something recent, or perhaps something much earlier in your life. And don't be afraid of seeking out a therapist/counselor to talk to, they can explore your mind with you if you let them, and help you in your journey. :3
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I've had chronic depression since I was young. I don't have any real solutions. It really sucks sometimes but I'm so used to the feeling, it's like an old friend. I just try to stay busy, and eventually it passes for awhile. Staying busy is really important. If you stop moving it brings you down until it becomes unmanageable.
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Make her very pretty, package her, and sell her off


P.S Try agbadvance's advice, don't be afraid to take medications, I mean I'm taking medications, but they don't know who the crazy one is
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Might sound horrible but burying yourself in work and other commitments might be the cure depending on the reason for it.
If you know exactly the reasons why you're feeling this way then my solution has a good chance of working. Also, if you can identity the problem figure out what is the best way to approach it: directly confront it, get away from it, all situational, of course.

However, if you cannot pinpoint why you are feeling this way then I would look at agbadvance's suggestion and go that route. You might want to seek out friends, family or somebody you can trust to discuss these feelings in a confidential manner as a first resort and if things still don't seem to be getting better then perhaps seeking a therapist or a counselor is the way to go.

Basically Luna, ask yourself why do you feel this way and take things from there.
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I've had MDD since I was fifteen. Dejection is usually a fleeting feeling. However, if you harbor those negative emotions inside they gain the capacity to rule your life, in a sense. Dejection, in my opinion, is akin to a depressive state. Although feeling dejected isn't the same as being depressed and/or having depression. Depressive states aren't known for being around for too long. How you deal with your feelings of dejection is up to your personal discretion. I'd say that hobbies are a good start. Attempt to discover things that enable you to isolate your negative emotions. Activities are a great way to distract yourself, and they can elevate your mood simultaneously.
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Get some hobbies. Some that you can't do all at once. Something that can have some accomplishment at the end. Some ideas:
* Join a PnP RPG group like Dungeons and Dragons or my favorite, Pathfinder.
* Model building
* Knitting, sewing, cosplaying or some other clothing related hobby
* Gardening (difficult in winter)
* Video games
* Learn an instrument

Basically you want something that will keep you occupied, is ongoing so you always have something to look forward to next session, and at some point you can look at what you have done and say 'yeah, that is pretty awesome'.
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Well, if its just being sad or in low spirits, just talk to people, or do whatever will lift those spirits, others have already sort of addressed this, but look at the source of the problem. If its just being down, think about it logically, and know that it'll pass, for there to be happiness, you have to be sad sometimes too, y'know? So yeah, deal with that, come up with things to cheer yourself up, don't beat yourself up too much.

If you think its actual legitimate depression, talk to people you trust, but honestly, try to get professional help. Random people you meet may have the best of intentions, and do everything they can, but they still aren't therapists or psychiatrists, and even if they are, right there you aren't their patient. Bottling it up never really works either, or it'll explode and you and the people you hold close will get hurt, so if you think it's actual depression, seek out the professional help you'd very well need at that point.
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I change the direction of my dejection with reflection and introspection. The key is early detection.
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Usually let it get so bad that I eventually start laughing about it and start listening to hardcore weeb music to pound the stupidity out of my head. Most of the time, I'll end up just moving on because I forget what the problem was.
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Adopting stoic mindset.
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