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Is there a such thing as being too honest?
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Posted 1/7/17
no thier isn't such a thing as being to honest the only exception i can think of is to avoid actual danger or perhaps when talking to a employer though i personally if had one would be honest with the person not that i would be purposely rude but i wouldn't be dishonest ether since i consider lying to be quite rude and such
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Posted 1/7/17
Yep. Sadly I'm not one of those people. I'm too damn nice.
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Posted 1/8/17
No, honesty does not exist on a spectrum, you are either being honest, or you are lying.

The problem lies in not knowing how to filter what you are saying, or not knowing when to speak out.
Posted 1/8/17
No, I don't believe that there's a scenario where one can be "too honest". The issue is that people mistake honesty with bluntness. You can tell the truth in a tactful way without being offensive in the majority of scenarios.At work, I was frequently told that my honesty can be abrasive and unprofessional. I fixed this by removing profanity and stating things more tactfully/professionally. Personally, people are put off by my openness and honesty (usually when I speak of my own life, as people think there's some type of taboo against some of the things I've experienced). It's all about reading the situation and understanding the best way of phrasing things.
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Posted 1/8/17
Rather than being too honest it's being too blunt when being honest
Posted 1/8/17

paul25454 wrote:

Yep. Sadly I'm not one of those people. I'm too damn nice.


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There is such a thing as having a poor choice of words.
A negative phrase can be paraphrased.
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Posted 1/8/17
I get in trouble for my honesty all the time.
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Yeah, you don't gain too many friends by being too honest.

I have that problem, I'm honest with people and they don't appreciate it because they are used to being lied to. But, what can you do? i am not going to stop because it's just how i am, you just have to balance it and not be rude.
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Posted 1/8/17 , edited 1/8/17
"Never trust an honest man." - Alias Smith and Jones

There's a good reason for that. Well two actually, you can be direct or too honest and you take advantage of it.

And for the naive, it's all about control what you say, you need to know when to lie and to be honest, creating smooth process of the situation. This is why your parents tells you off for swearing, it's all about time and places.

At least, that's what i think. Can I have my old man badge now?
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Posted 1/8/17
Yes.

A person's degree of honesty is best measured by the receiver's ability to handle that honesty. That being said, some can have exceptional difficulty interpreting whether the other person can or cannot.

This is also separate from degree of tact--as being rude and honest is not equivalent to being tactful and honest.

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Ocale wrote:

There's always a time for tact and playing nice. It's for the sake of everything moving more smoothly. Sometimes lies can help someone more than the truth, and if you genuinely care about someone, your sense of honesty and general morality does not have to be the dominant factor in deciding whether or not you should tell a lie.

Honesty is only valuable if the other person genuinely absorbs it, so you must determine if the other person is in the position to listen properly. Some people you don't get along with will never listen, so being honest with things such as how you feel about them is a decision between making things run smoothly vs the self satisfaction of telling that one asshole is an asshole.

If we're talking about how honest a certain thing you say is, I don't think you can be too honest. If you are going to tell the truth, tell the proper truth, and do not sugar coat it. I think it is better to wait to tell something 100% truthful if the time is not currently right for it. Either lie or be perfectly honest, I believe. In this regard, there is no "too honest".

Sorry if this is hard to follow.


This is honestly the best answer, in my opinion. And no, this isn't hard to follow. Sure, you can respond to the OP's question with a general answer. However, in reality, you need to mix prudence with tact and then respond according to the situation, not solely based on some general principle.

I like to think in terms of the end result. Based on what I know about this person, would being tactfully honest response get me closer to my end result? Would being brutally honest achieve a better result? Would straight up lying be better? There's no simple answer.
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There are just some things you would do well to keep to yourself.
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It's not the degree of honesty, but how it's delivered.
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Xuhybrid wrote:

I am too honest. After much testing i've decided people don't want to hear the truth. They're much happier being ignorant. Relationships are complicated beasts so i won't presume to explain the rest.

For me as a person, i want the truth. If i made bad food, or i did something wrong, tell me. If i don't know the truth, i can't possibly begin to fix or change anything. See, this is why i am too honest. I expect honesty in return.


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