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Posted 1/11/17 , edited 1/14/17
What do you do when something becomes awkward? Are you awkward in social situations? What has your experience been with awkward situations?

I seem to be awkward when it comes to social situations in specific. (I'm similar to Hifumi from New Game "She is especially shy to the point of avoiding talking to people or looking at them directly. So as not to make her feel uncomfortable the other employees interact with her through the company's computer messenger system. When she's communicating this way she is very lively and outgoing.") I find it quite uncomfortable to speak with voice so when it comes down to me being in a social situation I come off as extremely awkward, stiff, and uncomfortable. Pretty much anything involving voice to communicate will end up with me being extremely awkward and uncomfortable. To deal with such situations I just do my best to try and escape from the situation as fast as I can.

What do you do when something is awkward? Are you awkward in social situations? What has your experience been with awkward situations?


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You have to be aware of people finding you to be awkward to find yourself awkward. Otherwise it is just a lot of stuff silences and stilted repetitions.
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I feel pretty awkward when people I'm just meeting for the first time are overly charismatic when they talk to me. I'm much more comfortable when I talk to someone that has to warm up to me as well.

After doing some thinking I realized that whenever I end up in an awkward situation sometimes I'll unintentionally ramp up the awkward-ness and make a stale joke that makes everyone else feel awkward, instead of making them all laugh and forget about the awkward thing that happened. The upside to this is that now that everyone else feels awkward, it's alot easier to make the transition out of the awkward situation.

I'm pretty much the same as far as the computer communication thing goes as well. The charisma has always been there, and sometimes it'll resurface around certain friends, but it's been worn dull from high school (being weird, not being liked by people, etc. etc.)








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I seem to be awkward when it comes to social situations in specific. (I'm similar to Hifumi from New Game "She is especially shy to the point of avoiding talking to people or looking at them directly. So as not to make her feel uncomfortable the other employees interact with her through the company's computer messenger system. When she's communicating this way she is very lively and outgoing.") I find it quite uncomfortable to speak with voice so when it comes down to me being in a social situation I come off as extremely awkward, stiff, and uncomfortable. Pretty much anything involving voice to communicate will end up with me being extremely awkward and uncomfortable. To deal with such situations I just do my best to try and escape from the situation as fast as I can.



^That describes me to perfection.
I always avoid talking because I know it's gonna get awkward. I just respond to people in as few words as possible.
I thought it was because of the language (English is not my first language), but it also happens when I talk in Spanish. My awkwardness increases exponentially when I get near someone I find attractive. I learnt how to live with the awkwardness. It's just the way it is.
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The key to growth is embracing the discomfort. Exercise, education, what have you; if it doesn't make you feel uncomfortable then you are probably not putting enough stress on your body or brain to stimulate real growth. I used to be terribly awkward until I forced myself to eat lunch with a different person every day for a month. It was hugely uncomfortable, but now I feel only mildly awkward in social settings

Just remember, the brain is plastic, you can change!
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my experience with awkward situations has been that i tend to create them.
Posted 1/12/17 , edited 1/12/17

LunaTakimoto wrote:

What do you do when something becomes awkward? Are you awkward in social situations? What has your experience been with awkward situations?

I seem to be awkward when it comes to social situations in specific. (I'm similar to Hifumi from New Game "She is especially shy to the point of avoiding talking to people or looking at them directly. So as not to make her feel uncomfortable the other employees interact with her through the company's computer messenger system. When she's communicating this way she is very lively and outgoing.") I find it quite uncomfortable to speak with voice so when it comes down to me being in a social situation I come off as extremely awkward, stiff, and uncomfortable. Pretty much anything involving voice to communicate will end up with me being extremely awkward and uncomfortable. To deal with such situations I just do my best to try and escape from the situation as fast as I can.

What do you do when something is awkward? Are you awkward in social situations? What has your experience been with awkward situations?



Have you considered sign language?


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I can't recall a single awkward moment, mainly because I don't socialise. When I have to talk to people, I'm not that awkward. Most of the time, I'm just a jokester, so even if things get awkward, it's all part of my comedy routine.

I'm too apathetic to care if things genuinely turn awkward. Feeling awkward means you care about the situation being in good condition, but I don't, because I'm edgy.
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I can easily feel uncomfortable. I think it's because you care about what they think.When someone isn't acting like themselves people can usually tell something is off. Then you will notice that they also feel awkward because of it. Humans are very receptive creatures lol.
Posted 1/12/17
I'm a straight up person.... if you are acting weird or suspicious, I immediately asked them if they are ok or why they acting weird, with no regrets...
Posted 1/12/17
Hmm ,the awkward that comes to mind are those paper gowns i hate in doc's offices and the
fact i gotta wait so long to be seen.
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I'm certainly quiet in person, I have a soft voice; but I'm far from awkward. I'm chill about conversations usually am fine with small talk and joking around. However, I make a lot of use out of facial expressions and body motion and gestures to get my points across, it can be better than saying anything.
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Awkward is just a useless, negative, destructive self judgement/ judgement. I'd suggest taking that word out of your vocabulary.

When people label you as awkward, they are just really projecting how they would feel if they were doing said action that they are judging (by abstract means) as awkward. And when they keep calling you awkward, you eventually start to call yourself that, or are at least more likely to. Now you become your own negative critic.

It reminds me of a time in high school where a friend of mine told me that me and her boyfriend were weird (or maybe it was crazy. It was along time ago). When she said that, what that really meant underneath it all, was that she was too afraid to be different and think outside the box like me and her boyfriend, so she had to judge it with those negative labels.

Remember, human beings are social animals, and it's easier to go with the flow and follow the sheep and attack the outsiders than it is to be the outsider being attacked.

Anyways, I'd rather be my true, authentic self, than be a part of the zombie horde, sheeple, lemming majority that can't think for themselves and let mainstream culture and media dictate how they live and think. If being my true self is what being awkward/crazy/weird/etc. is, then I don't ever want to be "normal".
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I never normally encounter awkward situations now.

I used to as a teenager a lot before i worked on my speaking and communication skills. God when i think back i was so bad at talking.

If something gets really awkward you just change the subject or joke it off, if you make a big deal of it its going to just get worse.
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It's only awkward when people force me to do something.

I'm a grown man, if I want to talk to someone I'll talk to them myself.

It's only awkward because I suck at starting a conversations. Don't get me wrong I like talking to people, but it's hard for me to push a conversation, because all I do every day is draw, write, play music, watch movies, and the occasional gaming. If you like to talk about that, ok, I don't have a problem. If people also bring up anime, I can talk a little anime.

Then you have everyone else wanting to talk about celebrities, politics, history, yadda yadda, party, drinking, whatever. Like I suck at information, because i'm only focused on what I can come up with, and I pretty much force myself to just say something.

I'm telling you guys, I don't care about talking, I can sit in a corner for hours sometimes I just don't want to talk, its almost irritating to talk to people

But when I'm online, I can talk for a long time, because I can sit and not have to focus on someone, just their words. Words make sense to me, sometimes people just don't make sense to me.
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