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I don't really get why majority of people view loners and introverts as abnormal. Is there really something wrong with wanting to be alone for no reason? Some people tend to do better alone but others can't see that. So why do people see loner or introverts as such a oddity?


What do you think?
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Oh gawd. A post I can directly relate to.

But seriously I think a lot has to do with the fact that introverted folks are the minority. Of course, this depends on where you are. But, as far as I can see, we are the minority. And, in general, if you see someone behave a little differently from everyone else, then you might think that person is odd.

Plus, I do think introverts can be a bit awkward if they're truly loners. Less time spending with people means you're less likely to know social rules or how to behave in certain situations.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I don't really get why majority of people view loners and introverts as abnormal. Is there really something wrong with wanting to be alone for no reason? Some people tend to do better alone but others can't see that. So why do people see loner or introverts as such a oddity?


What do you think?


Honestly bro, I prefer to be left alone and just do my own thing. Though it is still good to still have a close circle of friends.
Then there are certain situations you can't do alone.
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I honestly think this is more of an American problem. Having visited many western countries I can honestly say Americans are louder in general. I think we glorify individualism and personality to the point of it being a bit of an extreme. A lot of people don't like American tourists because of how used to outwardness we are. It's not a bad thing, it's just, unique.
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I agree with what thelandofgiants says, I don't really talk a socialize a lot so I do see myself as an awkward person lol

I also like to be left alone

The other day I went to the museum and was the only one there! It was so weird but I loved it!!!

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I think its fairly simple, even Introverts like myself like to talk to people. We just require much of our downtime to be alone and doing our own thing. Which even to other introverts becomes a problem.

Bonds and friendship require contact. Communication. Introverts naturally are giving out less information. If you were choosing what book to read, one with a completely blank cover, or one with art on it, title, description on the back, etc, what do you choose? We don't like what we don't know, and introverts are withholding information. Who are you more likely to talk to, the boss that hides in his office that you don't even know his name, or the supervisor you see daily who tells you how his weekend went? Information! Communication!

The problem is some extroverts are so extreme and unaware of their condition they damage themselves socially. The same goes for introverts. We should make efforts to steer away from the worst excesses of introversion and be able to function. No man is an island, and just because we're fine not making contact, doesn't mean everyone needs to be accepting.

It then becomes important that we introverts in our brief inspirations of social activity do our utmost to be able to communicate. Personally I hold panels at conventions.

its all about Communication!
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I don't really get why majority of people view loners and introverts as abnormal. Is there really something wrong with wanting to be alone for no reason? Some people tend to do better alone but others can't see that. So why do people see loner or introverts as such a oddity?


What do you think?


As others have said, we introverts are a minority. Cultural conditioning leads to expectations of extroversion for most people, and when people like myself just aren't that way, we are snubbed. Some people have difficulty understanding that there's nothing wrong with wanting time to yourself to recharge, or simply being quiet.

If you want a fascinating read on what introverts are capable of, I highly recommend this book: https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153

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I think the loudmouths are odd. many times they literally spend their time talking in circles or about nothing.


mxdan wrote:

I honestly think this is more of an American problem. Having visited many western countries I can honestly say Americans are louder in general. I think we glorify individualism and personality to the point of it being a bit of an extreme. A lot of people don't like American tourists because of how used to outwardness we are. It's not a bad thing, it's just, unique.


Most tourists are the loud ones. The interoverts don't leave the country much or are not very noticeable.

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They..don't?

Introversion is very normalized nowadays.
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Processing a thought is like trying to guess what's inside a bag. Introverts can feel the object through the bag. They keep their idea in their head and can identify it while it's still "hidden".
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I think it's because a lot of people are assholes and judge for no reason at all.
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I don't think people really think that :/
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People who think that are clueless.
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I think the world needs both types of people equally there are pros and cons to both sides of the spectrum. I'm an introvert and enjoy being one i also do best on my own. Know I'm not saying i want to be single for the rest of my life but I don't think that just cause you're an introvert you need to change into what society would have you be. The world needs introverts just as much as it needs extroverts. But if you are an introvert and want to make some changes to try and be more social, go for it. Don't let anything stop you, but don't feel like you have to change you're identity as a person to do so. YOU DO YOU! Plus extroverts tend to say a lot while saying nothing at all and introverts say a lot while saying very little.
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It's because they don't understand why loners are the way they are. As an introvert myself it's something I deal with all the time. I'm either deep in thought about something or busy with something or just not interested in the people around me at that time. People can be exhausting to deal with as well which is something introverts can't bare to deal with, myself included. I don't hate people (not all the time) I'm just an unsociable cunt. I enjoy being on my own and I will never feel ashamed of it.
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