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eu7eka 
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Posted 1/19/17

TartanButterfly wrote:

i used to dislike myself alot...then i got put on meds, went to therapy and it took a few years but i see myself in a different way now. There is no point in disliking myself because of things i imagine are wrong with me, i've come to the conclusion that im amazing and i will always appreciate myself even if nobody else does.


I think it's wonderful you came to that conclusion.

In the back of my mind, I know that's the case for myself. But another part of me that goes into hiding after it makes me feel awful says that I'm not as great as I think I am.
But we gotta realize that everyone has flaws. Even people we may look up to or our authority figures - ourselves as well! We all have flaws. And that makes the feeling a bit more manageable. We just have to see ourselves and others for who they really are, flaws and bad traits encompassed, and look at the big picture. Flaws can be overlooked if we learn to accept they are a natural part of being.
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Lifthrasir wrote:

there are qualities i'm trying to improve on


That is a great way to put it. You're in a good place.
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FutileMasquerade wrote:

I like myself, I just hate some of the things I have done.


Same, same. The things I've done....but I've mostly gotten over them. But it's when I do them again, now that's a doozey.
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Posted 1/19/17

Lancelight wrote:

I don't dislike myself but I hate the things I do.


Likewise.
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Atm not particularly or at least it's never been chronic. I have my weaknesses but I've learned to live with them and improve on those areas when I can, I can usually see that and be fine with myself though not always. I'm all I have, can't change that.
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eu7eka wrote:


astralrainexmode wrote:

I dislike myself, but not as much anymore. I mainly hated being shy, not being able to speak up when needed, being considered "weird" by others, etc. But now I accepted those parts a part of me, so my hatred of myself has lessened over the years.


That's really great to hear.
I'm the same way, actually. I tend to wait around for others to do something, to talk first, but that's pointless. Gotta be assertive. But then when I try to talk to other people, they always give me this look like they don't understand or that I'm an alien / weird. And I dislike that. Makes me feel even more singled out than usual. You ever get that?




Yeah, I get that a lot since I'm terrible at explaining things properly to people which has led to many misunderstandings and is the source of my more recent disdain towards myself. That's why I don't tend to speak in large groups so that the rampant misunderstandings ever happen.

(edit: sorry about that, I accidentally forgot to select the post i was trying to quote. My apologies for any confusion.)
Posted 1/19/17

eu7eka wrote:

Hey, me too, high five. What's even worse is when someone, such as your parent, compares you to themselves or others and unnecessarily reminds you something you think every day, that you are behind.

Aye. That and the someone not really being supportive of your decisions. Take my dad for instance, he knows I have a college degree but I'm having a tough time landing a job. So you know what his advice was? Give up, because I probably won't find a job to my suiting. Stuff like that really puts you down, you know? The struggle is real.
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Pretty much. I do not think I have a good reason to like myself. While I do think that having a reasonable amount self-confidence is necessary, I do not dislike myself to the point where it would affect most of the decisions that I make in life. I can confidently say that the disdain I feel towards myself stems from the fact that I have grown up in a social environment that does not value any of my traits. That coupled with other circumstances has led me to believe that I could have been a much better person if I had tried harder. Admittedly, the future is still ahead of me and change is inevitable, but I am currently not pleased with myself and my personality. That's all.
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Nope. Because I'm contented what God gave to me.
Posted 1/19/17

eu7eka wrote:


TartanButterfly wrote:

i used to dislike myself alot...then i got put on meds, went to therapy and it took a few years but i see myself in a different way now. There is no point in disliking myself because of things i imagine are wrong with me, i've come to the conclusion that im amazing and i will always appreciate myself even if nobody else does.


I think it's wonderful you came to that conclusion.

In the back of my mind, I know that's the case for myself. But another part of me that goes into hiding after it makes me feel awful says that I'm not as great as I think I am.
But we gotta realize that everyone has flaws. Even people we may look up to or our authority figures - ourselves as well! We all have flaws. And that makes the feeling a bit more manageable. We just have to see ourselves and others for who they really are, flaws and bad traits encompassed, and look at the big picture. Flaws can be overlooked if we learn to accept they are a natural part of being.


Exactly, your flaws are part of what makes you the unique person that you are so what is the point in disliking yourself for them?? Also in some cases the things you dislike about yourself might be the things someone else likes about you, for example people who dislike themselves for being shy, i personally think shyness is cute af. Everyone is amazing in their own way.
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Not really, no. There are some characteristics that I might dislike about myself and need to change or rather should change, but eh. After all that's what makes me, well, me.

But why disliking yourself in the first place? Because you're not part of the so called "normal" or the way society wants you to be? Guess what, normal doesn't acutally exist, it's just a combination of things that fits at most parts to a greater degree of population and even then you need to specialize what population you even mean, our 'normal' is way different to that in an other country with another culture, so why disliking yourself about stuff like that?
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Depends on the day. Or mostly my mood. Today, I feel like I'm pretty great.
Posted 1/19/17
Yeah. Most people don't like themselves though, so whatevs.
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Posted 1/19/17
Quite the contrary--I'd fuck me.

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i'm sure we all dislike parts of ourselves to some degree. don't hate yourself, and see where you need improvement ... or just ignore it with distractions so you don't have to admit you're a garbage person on some level. personally i've been doing the self-improvement thing for years, depression can force your hand. i like myself fine, just certain things need some tweaking.

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