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How well can you deal with people you find too sensitive?
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Posted 1/25/17 , edited 1/25/17
I work mostly with men. There are a couple of women in the office who are sensitive. The conversation that goes on with them around is entirely different than what goes on when they're not around.
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Posted 1/25/17
I usually keep my distance, I can't handle sensitive people too well. Depending on the issue, they could really annoy me. I prefer being uncensored most of the time, not softening things up for people since that's just how life is.
Posted 1/25/17
Sensitive people aren't too bothersome. They have their reasons, at times. I'm careful as to how I phrase things, how I act, and any odd impressions I may give. I'm candid with them, just in a more tactful way than if I were around someone I know who can handle some joshing around.
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I don't usually go out of my way to mention sensitive topics unless I know the person can handle them, so it's usually a nonissue for me.
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I stop deciding that I'm the arbiter of who is and who isn't too sensitive because treating my assumption as reality towards a different person's life is simply arrogant. Then again, I find insensitive people to be far more distasteful than those who I need to tread lightly with, they're always so extra.
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Posted 1/25/17

ClothStatue wrote:

I stop deciding that I'm the arbiter of who is and who isn't too sensitive because treating my assumption as reality towards a different person's life is simply arrogant. Then again, I find insensitive people to be far more distasteful than those who I need to tread lightly with, they're always so extra.


But in the same way, who are you to say if one isn't sensitive enough? Personally, I prefer insensitive people for the most part, they tend to be a lot more straightforward and I can usually be myself because they won't take offense to many things, not that I go out of my way to say things people find offensive.
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Can you please clarify what constitutes someone being "too sensitive"? I have many possibilities.


Pretty much anything you personally find too sensitive.
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TrickedMJ wrote:


ClothStatue wrote:

I stop deciding that I'm the arbiter of who is and who isn't too sensitive because treating my assumption as reality towards a different person's life is simply arrogant. Then again, I find insensitive people to be far more distasteful than those who I need to tread lightly with, they're always so extra.


But in the same way, who are you to say if one isn't sensitive enough? Personally, I prefer insensitive people for the most part, they tend to be a lot more straightforward and I can usually be myself because they won't take offense to many things, not that I go out of my way to say things people find offensive.


Hmm, personally I don't think there is such thing as long as it does not become immediately self-destructive. I'd rather have someone care too much than completely apathetic. One generally creates more initiative for positive change and the other follows more selfish prerogatives. But if, say I were to pass judgement based on how I see such people, would actually say people who are annoyed easily by people they deem too sensitive are the ones being overly sensitive. Isn't the topic of this thread itself being easily riled by people who don't behave or react to your behavior as you want them too? I find it very hypocritical. Being sensitive is a courtesy to your fellow person, and not everyone is created equal or struggles to the same amount, it's forthcoming to make an assertion that someone is being overly sensitive when they may have perfectly good reasons for their feelings. And it is in no way my place to investigate either way, so dismissing people's feelings would be forthcoming.

Not to get all political (though the fact that this can be considered a political issue makes me sigh) but consider those who mock others who claim to have triggers, it's become something of a bad word used to make fun of people who they think are whiny and trying to be a victim, when in fact, those who actually have triggers or traumatic experiences rarely talk about them, either out of fear of not being believed or outright mocked for it. Say the whole college classes with "safe spaces", when people actually have a problem, they usually are responsible and simply speak to the teacher in private beforehand if they have a reason to believe it may trigger memories of a traumatic experience and the professor is expected to help get around this in a way that is as non-disruptive as possible.

It has become something of a joke to make fun of people like this. But why? Usually it's the same thing with rape, people assume they're lying. For some reason. But either way there is no actual way for us to know in those instances. If a person truly went through a situation like this, I would hope that if those who knew for a fact that it was legitimate they wouldn't take to such demeaning behavior, but the fact that they jump so quickly to assume that it is not legitimate is just an unwillingness, or perhaps incapability, to empathize and making a preemptive decision on a topic they have no right finding the truth to in the first place.

I didn't mean to get so extreme on purpose in my little essay here XD, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that being annoyed or judgemental of people being what you deem "too sensitive" is, as I see it, another form of over sensitivity. People who hate the idea of safe spaces so much to speak out against them are in fact craving a safe space of their own by wanting to be able to say whatever they want. The roots of the sensitivity are different, but they are both highly sensitive reactions.

What I'm saying is that the entire argument of someone being "too sensitive" is generally a rather hypocritical argument. You're (not you, ofc) essentially getting highly sensitive to other people being highly sensitive. If people weren't so sensitive of them being in any way inconvenienced by people being what they deem as too sensitive, this thread wouldn't exist in the first place.
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ClothStatue wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:


ClothStatue wrote:

I stop deciding that I'm the arbiter of who is and who isn't too sensitive because treating my assumption as reality towards a different person's life is simply arrogant. Then again, I find insensitive people to be far more distasteful than those who I need to tread lightly with, they're always so extra.


But in the same way, who are you to say if one isn't sensitive enough? Personally, I prefer insensitive people for the most part, they tend to be a lot more straightforward and I can usually be myself because they won't take offense to many things, not that I go out of my way to say things people find offensive.


Hmm, personally I don't think there is such thing as long as it does not become immediately self-destructive. I'd rather have someone care too much than completely apathetic. One generally creates more initiative for positive change and the other follows more selfish prerogatives. But if, say I were to pass judgement based on how I see such people, would actually say people who are annoyed easily by people they deem too sensitive are the ones being overly sensitive. Isn't the topic of this thread itself being easily riled by people who don't behave or react to your behavior as you want them too? I find it very hypocritical. Being sensitive is a courtesy to your fellow person, and not everyone is created equal or struggles to the same amount, it's forthcoming to make an assertion that someone is being overly sensitive when they may have perfectly good reasons for their feelings. And it is in no way my place to investigate either way, so dismissing people's feelings would be forthcoming.

Not to get all political (though the fact that this can be considered a political issue makes me sigh) but consider those who mock others who claim to have triggers, it's become something of a bad word used to make fun of people who they think are whiny and trying to be a victim, when in fact, those who actually have triggers or traumatic experiences rarely talk about them, either out of fear of not being believed or outright mocked for it. Say the whole college classes with "safe spaces", when people actually have a problem, they usually are responsible and simply speak to the teacher in private beforehand if they have a reason to believe it may trigger memories of a traumatic experience and the professor is expected to help get around this in a way that is as non-disruptive as possible.

It has become something of a joke to make fun of people like this. But why? Usually it's the same thing with rape, people assume they're lying. For some reason. But either way there is no actual way for us to know in those instances. If a person truly went through a situation like this, I would hope that if those who knew for a fact that it was legitimate they wouldn't take to such demeaning behavior, but the fact that they jump so quickly to assume that it is not legitimate is just an unwillingness, or perhaps incapability, to empathize and making a preemptive decision on a topic they have no right finding the truth to in the first place.

I didn't mean to get so extreme on purpose in my little essay here XD, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that being annoyed or judgemental of people being what you deem "too sensitive" is, as I see it, another form of over sensitivity. People who hate the idea of safe spaces so much to speak out against them are in fact craving a safe space of their own by wanting to be able to say whatever they want. The roots of the sensitivity are different, but they are both highly sensitive reactions.

What I'm saying is that the entire argument of someone being "too sensitive" is generally a rather hypocritical argument. You're (not you, ofc) essentially getting highly sensitive to other people being highly sensitive. If people weren't so sensitive of them being in any way inconvenienced by people being what they deem as too sensitive, this thread wouldn't exist in the first place.


Jesus, waking up to so much to read lol. So, the topic of this thread being hypocritical is dependent I believe. While I didn't put it in the my post, we all find different things sensitive and different ways of being too sensitive. Does annoyance truly count as sensitivity? Now, one were to get really upset and offended at someone else feeling the same way, that would definitely make this topic quite contradictory and hypocritical. I'll use myself as an example for a bit. I told you part of the reason I prefer to stay away from people I find too sensitive. I actually kinda wanna reword that. I don't have an issue with sensitive people if I know why, that might not be my place to know what goes on in their life but it's a lot better than saying something and having someone randomly get offended. There's also those people who get offended to literally almost everything and start an issue out of it, wouldn't you think it'd be better to leave those types of people alone than to hear the same thing anytime you speak? Also, a lot of sensitive people I know personally will try to force change on the words you use and how you speak so it benefits them, in a way wouldn't that fit with what you're talking about at people being upset because you don't act the way they want?


I like the whole safe space thing you brought up, and I agree. A lot of people on both sides are actually really sensitive and essentially seeking their own spaces, ironically enough. But do you think being upset at not being able to speak freely is TOO sensitive or just some sensitivity? Is it justifiable in any way? While I'm sure you know it's always a personal thing, but I find a lot of any type of safe spaces to be just ridiculous and unneeded. One thing that's hard for me to counter is doubting people instantly. I doubt majority of the time unless I know the person well. That's because I know many cases irl of people falsely accusing of rape and people being falsely accused of rape and other things. I have been falsely accused of rape and a few people I know have been falsely accused of that and other things then I knew people who went to school with me who actually have done those things. I've personally been through a side and seen all sides up close. But I know of more false accusations and than truth so it's hard for me to just believe things. At the same time though, I could easily be lying about the things I just said yet some will believe it, so I can see why it's so hard for actual victims to bring it up to others. Another problem though is when they bring up these things extremely late. Again, I can understand why but it's still pretty hard to believe it fully if they don't bring it up until like 4yrs later or whatever, ya know?

And no need to apologize for making this all so long.

Posted 1/25/17
I generally try and avoid them, and I won't normally go out of my way to set them off for shits and giggles, or anything. I'm not the sort to allow myself to simply be cowed, though, so things may divulge into an argument. I don't have a whole lot of tolerance for people who try and manipulate and/or browbeat me with their "sensitivity."
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I haven't really come across an overly sensitive person in quite a while. But if I do, I respect other people, so I would certainly change my mannerisms and speech to adjust to their needs.

Of course, if they're being a completely unreasonable bitch baby, I would defend myself or just leave them be lmao.
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For me it's more of their general attitude to life and how much they whine about things especially if they don't try to change anything that's making them upset but if the person is just sensitive and doesn't attempt to change what I can and can't say or do in front of them I'm fine with being around them but if not then I guess I'm being the one who is being sensitive because I rather avoid them or tell them to do something instead of just complain.
Posted 1/26/17
I avoid them.
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I try not acosiating with this kind
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