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Posted 1/31/17

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They knows this because I have my PC in my room and I stay in my room most of the time. They are bothered because of me not doing normal things like going outside or meeting up with irl friends (as I have none nor want any at the moment really) they are also annoyed over me not doing a few chores but I fixed that and am doing chores already more often so that isn't much of an issue. They want me to go to sleep sooner because 3 days ago you may recall I slept for too long due to staying up for more than usual while this holds true my normal routine of doing school at night doesn't affect me in terms of me sleeping for too long while staying awake for a day does. If that made any sense.


Would it be an option if you told them that you were going to accept their wishes and act as if everything was alright? That would include going outside for at least a whole hour daily. Now, I do not know if an hour would be enough, but I am trying to say that they will probably change their view on this if you keep up the act for a little while. This decision seems to have come out of the blue. It sounds unrealistic that they are going to monitor your activities all the time now because they have not done that before (that's how it looks to me). That coupled with taking care of your oversleeping issue could allow you to bypass your parents' restrictions until they stop paying attention.


I can't really accept what they are doing because its affecting my grades in a negative manner. I could set aside time to go outside for like an hour daily sure that way they can just stop being annoyed but I need to get my routine back.
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Posted 1/31/17

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Nalaniel wrote:


LunaTakimoto wrote:

They knows this because I have my PC in my room and I stay in my room most of the time. They are bothered because of me not doing normal things like going outside or meeting up with irl friends (as I have none nor want any at the moment really) they are also annoyed over me not doing a few chores but I fixed that and am doing chores already more often so that isn't much of an issue. They want me to go to sleep sooner because 3 days ago you may recall I slept for too long due to staying up for more than usual while this holds true my normal routine of doing school at night doesn't affect me in terms of me sleeping for too long while staying awake for a day does. If that made any sense.


Would it be an option if you told them that you were going to accept their wishes and act as if everything was alright? That would include going outside for at least a whole hour daily. Now, I do not know if an hour would be enough, but I am trying to say that they will probably change their view on this if you keep up the act for a little while. This decision seems to have come out of the blue. It sounds unrealistic that they are going to monitor your activities all the time now because they have not done that before (that's how it looks to me). That coupled with taking care of your oversleeping issue could allow you to bypass your parents' restrictions until they stop paying attention.


I can't really accept what they are doing because its affecting my grades in a negative manner. I could set aside time to go outside for like an hour daily sure that way they can just stop being annoyed but I need to get my routine back.


Have you tried speaking to a school counselor about this? Sometimes it may help to have another adult on your side to weigh in on the fact that they're actually hurting your grades with the change. Parents are sometimes quick to dismiss their kids thinking of it as "embellishing drama" but when spoken to by an equal in the field they're commenting on may tend to listen more and learn to understand.
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I have been unable to do such as I go to an online school and have the busiest homeroom teacher. They can't really do anything to help since they run like 4 of the classes.
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Hmmmm. if you're 16 and living with mom & dad you're still under their house, their rules. You're their child and you're gonna have to meet them halfway or at least indulge them a little.

Think of an exist strategy. Are you going off to college? That's how I got away. I moved out at 18, lived in a dorm and never looked back.

I have a friend who's still living with their parents at the age of 26 and they're miserable. Don't be that person.
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Posted 1/31/17

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I can't really accept what they are doing because its affecting my grades in a negative manner. I could set aside time to go outside for like an hour daily sure that way they can just stop being annoyed but I need to get my routine back.


Would you be able to give me a quick rundown on how your daily routine looks and what changes have been imposed on it by your parents? Perhaps looking at the psychological aspects of your habitual behaviour could help find the reason and solution to your problem. At the end of the day, you will have to change at least one thing in order to appease your parents.
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Hmmmm. if you're 16 and living with mom & dad you're still under their house, their rules. You're their child and you're gonna have to meet them halfway or at least indulge them a little.

Think of an exist strategy. Are you going off to college? That's how I got away. I moved out at 18, lived in a dorm and never looked back.

I have a friend who's still living with their parents at the age of 26 and they're miserable. Don't be that person.


I don't intend to stay with my parents however I don't have any real intention of going to college.
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Posted 1/31/17 , edited 1/31/17

Nalaniel wrote:


LunaTakimoto wrote:

I can't really accept what they are doing because its affecting my grades in a negative manner. I could set aside time to go outside for like an hour daily sure that way they can just stop being annoyed but I need to get my routine back.


Would you be able to give me a quick rundown on how your daily routine looks and what changes have been imposed on it by your parents? Perhaps looking at the psychological aspects of your habitual behaviour could help find the reason and solution to your problem. At the end of the day, you will have to change at least one thing in order to appease your parents.


Mostly it goes...

9 am Wake up

9:30 am - 3:00 pm just doing whatever on the computer

3:01 pm - 4:00 pm Chore stuff

4:01 pm - 5:00 pm take care of animals

5:01 pm - 7 pm Just editing or talking on discord

7:01 pm - 7:30 pm Chore stuff

7:31 pm - 11 pm Just editing or talking on discord

11:01 pm - 3 or 4 am Work on school for the next day

4:01 am - 9 am Sleep

Normally it is less sleep.

My parents intend to completely remove everything beyond 11 and add more chores and do school during the day which adds more stress and gives me less time.
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Do you think you're being a bit selfish? The older you get you the more responsibilities you gain and sacrifice more.

Are doing chores and school work that stressful? This is stuff you should be doing anyways.

And its giving you less time for what? Dicking around on the computer?
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zangeif123 wrote:

Do you think you're being a bit selfish? The older you get you the more responsibilities you gain and sacrifice more.

Are doing chores and school work that stressful? This is stuff you should be doing anyways.

And its giving you less time for what? Dicking around on the computer?


Quite a rash way to put it. Investing time into learning editing is quite important. While also working on other projects is quite important. More time to do things is always important. While adding more chores is fine as that is mild. However removing a lot of time from my day makes things more difficult as I lose time to do other things. On top of that I do worse in terms of school as I have even less time to do it and I have other things I want/need to do which can build up stress.
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Yeah, my post was a bit too harsh. I apologize. I just can't relate to the things you find stressful. With that said you only got a few years. Hang in there sister.

BTW what do you edit? I'm in TV myself and was an editor for a little bit. I really didn't enjoy it and went to being behind the camera.
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Yeah, my post was a bit too harsh. I apologize. I just can't relate to the things you find stressful. With that said you only got a few years. Hang in there sister.

BTW what do you edit? I'm in TV myself and was an editor for a little bit. I really didn't like it and went to being behinf the camera.


Currently its just messing around with multiple programs to get used to it. I plan on learning editing for TV, Movies, Jokes, or some other type of media. At the moment I'm still trying to find what clicks and what doesn't. For the most part I make "jojokes" which are simple edits but amusing and people seem to enjoy them. However, I've been working on learning more about effects in such to make more... unique AMVs per say. I also was considering putting some time into learning camera work as that'd be something at least. I was also considering putting some more time into musical or sound editing however I don't really see myself being able to do such.;
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I'm also a REALLY introverted person. I'd also spend a lot of time on my computer too and my parents would also say things about that. I really enjoy bike riding to my nearby library and the pet store to see all the cute animals! Maybe try volunteering? Thats what I'm doing, and I don't really have to talk a lot. Maybe theres something you enjoy doing, or maybe you could try something new?
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LunaTakimoto wrote:


zangeif123 wrote:

Yeah, my post was a bit too harsh. I apologize. I just can't relate to the things you find stressful. With that said you only got a few years. Hang in there sister.

BTW what do you edit? I'm in TV myself and was an editor for a little bit. I really didn't like it and went to being behinf the camera.


Currently its just messing around with multiple programs to get used to it. I plan on learning editing for TV, Movies, Jokes, or some other type of media. At the moment I'm still trying to find what clicks and what doesn't. For the most part I make "jojokes" which are simple edits but amusing and people seem to enjoy them. However, I've been working on learning more about effects in such to make more... unique AMVs per say. I also was considering putting some time into learning camera work as that'd be something at least. I was also considering putting some more time into musical or sound editing however I don't really see myself being able to do such.;


Goof luck girl friend,

Do what ya love.
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LunaTakimoto wrote:

And I wanted to ask if you had any other ideas for money making perhaps? As that would help quiet them since I'd have you know. Money to pay for my own things so they can't really take anything of mine.


Hmm, I can't think of anything. Maybe think of things that you can handle and people are willing to pay for. Stuff like cleaning or walking dogs. The kind of things that people don't have time to do and are willing to pay others to do it for them.

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