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Post Reply Do you have too many friends/buddies on CR?
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Posted 2/8/17 , edited 2/9/17
I have a habit of adding a lot of people as friends but barely talk to them. I don't want to be rude and turn them away either. But to be honest, I don't even hardly talk to them which is rather sad. I feel like if I were to converse with them I'll be bothering them or something. Thinking about it I have too many buddies on CR and I feel bad. Like I barely talk to some of these people and when I do it's only a few words. I'll feel awkward if I were to make the first move. People just want to be friends with me and I feel a bad. I never go out of my way to be friends with someone who didn't friend me first. That would be weird. So, what do you think? Does anybody else feel like this? Am I being silly?


What do you think?
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I think you should delete them if you really don't think the connection is there. If there is no connection then I'm sure they won't take it that badly.
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Posted 2/8/17 , edited 2/9/17

llunga wrote:



I think you should delete them if you really don't think the connection is there. If there is no connection then I'm sure they won't take it that badly.


I'll feel bad. Because they went out of their way to be my friend. God, I'm being silly.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


llunga wrote:



I think you should delete them if you really don't think the connection is there. If there is no connection then I'm sure they won't take it that badly.


I'll feel bad. Because they went out of their way to be my friend. God, I'm being silly.


Well feeling like you might be bothering them isn't a good feeling either.
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llunga wrote:

Well feeling like you might be bothering them isn't a good feeling either.


Yeah, I know. I wish I didn't have to feel that way.

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Posted 2/8/17 , edited 2/9/17
...What is this friend thing you are speaking of?
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You can add me as friend and then delete me as a warm up for deleting the rest of your "friends". By the end of clearing out your friends list you will be numb like me. We all dead inside anyways.
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I mean... most of my CR buddies have either nuked and or in my discord and we talk on there. So I don't feel I have too many.
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I don't go out of my way to buddy people here either, though I also feel no guilt ignoring buddy requests from anyone I don't recognize (which... has been basically all of them). I do think you're perhaps over-thinking it a bit, or being overly conscientious.

Relationships are a two-way street. If you want to be more involved with the people on your buddy list, I'd recommend picking a few of them who you feel more comfortable with to start and send them a PM. You could make it something personal, i.e. "I saw your post in such and such thread and thought.." or it could be a generic, "Been a while, how you doing?" sort of message.

If you never get a response, or it's a terse one, so be it. Perhaps you don't want such people on your friends list in the first place. Most people (even those that don't respond) aren't going to be annoyed unless you were to start spamming them.

"Nothing ventured, nothing gained," as it were.
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Posted 2/8/17 , edited 2/9/17
The thing is, and I've mentioned this elsewhere before, is that the friend function in CR doesn't really do much of anything.

There are hardly any friend-specific features like "following" where if a friend gives permission for another friend to follow, then the other friend could get updates to where the person have posted.

It's kinda sad but the functionality itself is largely useless.
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'I used to have a lot. Back in the ED days, no matter what side we battled on we all respected each other. And even was friends. Just ask digs. If he still around.. As of now most my friends left or got banned do to one thing or another.
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Posted 2/9/17 , edited 2/9/17
Might be better to see this friend list as more of acquaintances, as friends are generally people you'd be happy to talk to daily on a regular basis, look at it this way CR friends list is a trail to either move them to like discord/skype or what ever.
If they make the cut keep them on or if they go silent/vanish for what ever reason remove.

Though in truth I'm new to CR and have no friends here yet so take what i say with a pinch of salt, I be such a lonely weeb
Posted 2/9/17 , edited 2/9/17
I purposely keep it small.
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My buddy list is pretty tame, I don't get a lot of requests, I accept the requests of others but I admit I talk to them for a while and then it just stops, CR isn't the best website for conversing with strangers, it's bothersome compared to FB, Twitter and steam
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I accept anyone and anything, but I rarely write to anyone.
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