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I won't call what a girl said being asked out. She said something like this "I've been out with many guys and done all the sexual stuff with them, now I'm bored and I want to know what it's like to be with a girl", she looked at me meaningfully. I glared at her which meant "don't even dare think of using me for a moment of your amusement!" I told her I'm not interested.

Yes I've had guys ask me out. I've asked a guy out once too that was the one I seriously considered marrying.
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HateKillingCamels wrote:

wouldn't know I'm too ugly to do either.


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I had the friend liking me thing happen a couple times. The first time came as a complete shock. I knew the person wasn't straight, but I had no idea that they liked me. It took a random text message one night for me to notice, then they felt too awkward to see me in person for a long time, which eventually led to us losing our friendship

I don't feel like I've "caged" anyone through these situations though. I just can't provide them with what they are looking for and it's up to them to find someone who does. Nobody has to feel awkward either. I can shake of the situation if the other can too, but if someone persists then that might be when the relationship needs to come to an end.
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If you are a guy ask the girl out, If you are a girl BE the one GETTING ASKED OUT
Posted 3/9/17

JanusCascade wrote:

I know the feeling, I use to have best friend admit his feeling for me and I got panic and told him that I'm NOT GAY. :/ This was long time ago, and I told him that I'm a loner type.. and just because I'm loner doesn't mean I'm gay..

Since I got sexual feeling for women proven that I'm not gay..

I remember the look on his face when he got turn down. :/


I hate that when it happens... but I'm glad you were honest with him... >.<

I know that one time my friend asked me out, I didn't turn her down until after a few months later.... And even then she treats me really well still.... But she still gets a little bitter when I talk about the guys that I like.... So I know just not to mention them to her hahaha....
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Sogno- wrote:


HateKillingCamels wrote:

wouldn't know I'm too ugly to do either.


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Garfield is bae though! I promise! Your beautiful gold (orange?) fur is so pet-able! Your love for lasagna is also incredibly attractive!

Wait... am I hitting on a cat? I need to re-evaluate my life...
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Dark_Alma wrote:


Sogno- wrote:


HateKillingCamels wrote:

wouldn't know I'm too ugly to do either.


^


Garfield is bae though! I promise! Your beautiful gold (orange?) fur is so pet-able! Your love for lasagna is also incredibly attractive!

Wait... am I hitting on a cat? I need to re-evaluate my life...


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I'll be quite frank, it is ALWAYS a bad idea to remain friends with someone who wants you as a romantic partner or vice versa if those feelings don't soon after go away, nothing good can come of it.

Took me quite some time to realize this and feel better off because of my change in outlook.

As to the OP's point sometimes its better to cut someone off so that they can move on with their life rather than keeping them around and giving them false hope.
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kevz_210 wrote:

I'll be quite frank, it is ALWAYS a bad idea to remain friends with someone who wants you as a romantic partner or vice versa if those feelings don't soon after go away, nothing good can come of it.

Took me quite some time to realize this and feel better off because of my change in outlook.

As to the OP's point sometimes its better to cut someone off so that they can move on with their life rather than keeping them around and giving them false hope.


Unfortunately, I'd have to agree. I don't think it's impossible to remain friends, but it's very very rare. I've tried to stay friends with most women I used to date simply because I value previous friendships, but pretty much every single one gave an ultimatum of "we're dating or it's goodbye."

There is one woman I used to date that I'm friends with however. But I think that's mostly because we were friends beforehand and we hadn't spoken in over a year, so our feelings had calmed down by then.
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both are fine by me.
Posted 3/11/17
I feel flattered whenever anyone of any sexuality/gender tells me they have feelings for me. As long as it doesn't get awkward, I'm fine with it.
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Usually I am the person being asked out.

But I asked a cute girlfriend of mine out once. She laughed about it. I felt bad for a bit. Like two weeks later she apologizes, says she thought I was joking. Which I kind of was (something funny had just happened and I was taking advantage of the levity to ask her out). Says she isn't into girls. Oh well.

We're still friends.
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Just came off a two year LDR so initially it was a little hard getting past it, but eventually I recovered and moved on.

Been asked by both Boys & Girls. I tend to let others approach me first. It's been a remarkable experience. Now I'm seeing someone, we hit it off pretty well on our date last week. It's always a good sign when you have dinner, need to leave because it's closing time and head to a coffee shop and talk until 3 am
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Never happened to me but I guess if you tell them straight on that you don't like them that way and they understood, they would soon move on and you guys can be friends. Maybe.
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