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So months ago i was banned from my favourite discord due to a misunderstanding and standing up for myself and i made a discord and posted it here.... only one person joined aside from my friends :/

I haven't been able to talk to all my friends in one group since then.
I wanna know how to make a big discord so i can get back and talk with my friends and people.

I have tried joining clouds discord but it's not the same.
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Can't tell if you're just trying to get attention or genuinely asking ...

either way it's too ironic to make a thread directly asking for tips on how to make a popular discord. For starters, you're getting the word out i guess...but you're doing it in a kind of whiny way. I mean you literally failed at the first step : LINK YOUR DISCORD!!!
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Generally asking as im thinking of rebuilding it again.

I haven't remade it but i want tips in this thread to what i can do so i can then use those tips to build one from the ground up.
Posted 2/19/17
I have no idea as why people won't join it. All I can say is just keep advertising that you have one and hope someone joins. You could also go through your buddy list on here and invite people, or mention that you have a Discord.
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will try that then thanks Apholo!
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You're welcome. Glad I could help somewhat.
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feed it with lots of food.
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You haven't really shown a type of maturity that I believe would be appropriate for socializing and downright moderating a potentially boisterous group.

I suggest that to have friends, to be a friend.

A small tip, try this method I use. Apologize and mean it. Think about what you did. Use the outline "I am sorry for doing _______." Make sure that you will try that it doesn't happen again. They are not obligated to accept it, but you will have your pride, respect from good people, and a clean conscience.Try to better yourself so that people will want to be your friend.

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Posted 2/19/17 , edited 2/19/17

PeripheralVisionary wrote:

You haven't really shown a type of maturity that I believe would be appropriate for socializing and downright moderating a potentially boisterous group.

I suggest that to have friends, to be a friend.

A small tip, try this method I use. Apologize and mean it. Think about what you did. Use the outline "I am sorry for doing _______." Make sure that you will try that it doesn't happen again. They are not obligated to accept it, but you will have your pride, respect from good people, and a clean conscience.Try to better yourself so that people will want to be your friend.



Most moderators of groups are no more mature then i am and i did apologize iirc even though i was the one who was wronged.
I'm always a friend to my friends ^^

being friendly and understanding and always a forgiving person is vital to maintaining relationships imo.
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Be a hot girl and post nudes.
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Ryulightorb wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

You haven't really shown a type of maturity that I believe would be appropriate for socializing and downright moderating a potentially boisterous group.

I suggest that to have friends, to be a friend.

A small tip, try this method I use. Apologize and mean it. Think about what you did. Use the outline "I am sorry for doing _______." Make sure that you will try that it doesn't happen again. They are not obligated to accept it, but you will have your pride, respect from good people, and a clean conscience.Try to better yourself so that people will want to be your friend.



Most moderators of groups are no more mature then i am and i did apologize iirc even though i was the one who was wronged.
I'm always a friend to my friends ^^

being friendly and understanding and always a forgiving person is vital to maintaining relationships imo.


Luna was the most Draconian of the ones I frequented, but I think her judgement is usually apt, even in this case. In any case, large ones tend to have an assortment of people as moderators who can make reasonable calls. I admire Cloud-Lee for his iron fist, alongside those of Velvet_Crowe and such others.

Though I won't blame it entirely on you. I am in 9 or 10 discords. The forums are getting saturated with dozens of available, already established chatrooms. Very few of these chatrooms are dying off, many more currently running by veterans of CR. A possible chance you may have is that many of these chatrooms are closing off due to themselves being more populated than necessary.

I believe the incident in particular that you mentioned with our Discord was quite messy, though from what Luna has shared with me, it seems a brunt of it is your fault.

This is not the only particular incident I have heard of concerning you and less than savory behaviors that border on a sort of emotional manipulation.

In any case, I would argue the best move is to postpone this discord and reexamine yourself as a person in relation to other people. If you are ready to start, I think you should make a thread, bait the hook, and wait.

There's always new blood to be found.



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This advice may not be worth much -- Even though I work in Marketing, I am terrible at promoting myself or my own things (though I guess I've never really tried doing much that I would need to promote).

Start by reaching out individually to some of the folks you consider friends or friendly acquaintances. Maybe you've already established some level of friendship here in PM or GBs; maybe they are are someone you admire or want to get to know better based on things they've posted.

Give them the link, tell them some specific things you are hoping for/planning for with the Discord, ask them for things they would find interesting to discuss in the Discord. Maybe phrase it up front as "if you aren't interest in joining, could you let me know why?" That could be valuable into to have but if you wait to ask until someone declines it could look pushy and whiny.

If they join, then encourage them to suggest the Discord to other people they know who might be interested.

Think about things in the Discord you got banned from that seemed to keep people interested there. Think about how your Discord could be similar to or different from it (folks might be more interested in being part of both if you have something a little different to offer). Advertise those different things in a positive way (not a bashing-the-other-group-kind-of-way) in a forum post here or other places you socialize online.

Periodically post updates here about what's happening with the Discord. For example if you add a new channel, or have some kind of special "discussion of the week" or "discussion of the day" then let folks know that is going on.

Basically, remind people of the link somewhat often (but not too often) and when you do, offer some reason for people to join up and stop by.
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Posted 2/19/17

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

You haven't really shown a type of maturity that I believe would be appropriate for socializing and downright moderating a potentially boisterous group.

I suggest that to have friends, to be a friend.

A small tip, try this method I use. Apologize and mean it. Think about what you did. Use the outline "I am sorry for doing _______." Make sure that you will try that it doesn't happen again. They are not obligated to accept it, but you will have your pride, respect from good people, and a clean conscience.Try to better yourself so that people will want to be your friend.



Most moderators of groups are no more mature then i am and i did apologize iirc even though i was the one who was wronged.
I'm always a friend to my friends ^^

being friendly and understanding and always a forgiving person is vital to maintaining relationships imo.


Luna was the most Draconian of the ones I frequented, but I think her judgement is usually apt, even in this case. In any case, large ones tend to have an assortment of people as moderators who can make reasonable calls. I admire Cloud-Lee for his iron fist, alongside those of Velvet_Crowe and such others.

Though I won't blame it entirely on you. I am in 9 or 10 discords. The forums are getting saturated with dozens of available, already established chatrooms. Very few of these chatrooms are dying off, many more currently running by veterans of CR. A possible chance you may have is that many of these chatrooms are closing off due to themselves being more populated than necessary.

I believe the incident in particular that you mentioned with our Discord was quite messy, though from what Luna has shared with me, it seems a brunt of it is your fault.

This is not the only particular incident I have heard of concerning you and less than savory behaviors that border on a sort of emotional manipulation.

In any case, I would argue the best move is to postpone this discord and reexamine yourself as a person in relation to other people. If you are ready to start, I think you should make a thread, bait the hook, and wait.

There's always new blood to be found.




It was more 50/50 imo

Also I have changed since then back then I couldn't help it I was clinically depressed and was not in the right mind and did a lot of stupid shit.
Been through a lot of therapy and stuff since then.
Problem is people seem to hold grudges and forget people change :/

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Ryulightorb wrote:

So months ago i was banned from my favourite discord due to a misunderstanding and standing up for myself and i made a discord and posted it here.... only one person joined aside from my friends :/

I haven't been able to talk to all my friends in one group since then.
I wanna know how to make a big discord so i can get back and talk with my friends and people.

I have tried joining clouds discord but it's not the same.


Simple, you have patience and wait.

Just like I did.

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Posted 2/19/17

LunaTakimoto wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

So months ago i was banned from my favourite discord due to a misunderstanding and standing up for myself and i made a discord and posted it here.... only one person joined aside from my friends :/

I haven't been able to talk to all my friends in one group since then.
I wanna know how to make a big discord so i can get back and talk with my friends and people.

I have tried joining clouds discord but it's not the same.


Simple, you have patience and wait.

Just like I did.



Not really simple as I waited a long time when I last tried.

Waiting alone obviously doesn't pay off.
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