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Post Reply Is there a such thing as being "too nice/kind" ?
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Posted 3/17/17 , edited 3/17/17
no


smashman42 wrote:

You can be nice to people, even horrible people, and still stand up for yourself. They aren't mutually exclusive options, it isn't a zero sum game.


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Posted 3/17/17
I like cliched quotes, because there is often truth in them...

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

"If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change."

"Love is the only force capable of turning an enemy into friend."


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You can be too nice. There are people out there who go to extreme lengths to help others but neglect themselves. Some of them have self-esteem issues but others are incapable of thinking about how their selflessness affects their own well-being.
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Posted 3/17/17
Some people say it's possible to be too nice and too kind and get takin advantage of but you can be nice and kind and stand up fer yourself ya know? There's strength in kindness and ya gotta believe in yourself and stand up for yourself and your friends and your space. Niceness/kindness and strength aren't mutually exclusive like the body improvement club from Mob Psucho 100 ya know?
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Posted 3/19/17
No.
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Posted 3/19/17
yes. one person giving too much is bad for a relationship.
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Posted 3/19/17
You guys are confusing me.
Look both ways before crossing the street and play ball ya filthy animals
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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/20/17
No there is no limit. We need more unlimited kindness in the world.

However, it's different if you are oblivious or a push over at the same time. Kindness should never be limited, but you also have to know when it is good to stand your own ground.
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Posted 3/19/17

Don't overly fake nice if you don't have too. Not everyone will appreciate it.
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Posted 3/19/17
I don't think its more of... "Too nice" or "Too kind" but rather of... "Too trusting"

Someone who is overly nice can be annoying but its not too harmful. However, being too trusting can be harmful.

In my experience I used to be a bit naive and too trusting in others and well... those others turned about to be two faced people using that to their advantage.

I suppose being too nice is a harmful thing when your good will gets taken advantage of and you are too giving.

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Posted 3/19/17
Tell me what you mean by "nice" and I'll tell you whether you can have too much of it.

Seriously, a lot of people have used the word "nice" to mean a lot of different things. OP, or anyone else, can you tell me what you mean when you ask if you can be too "nice"?
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Posted 3/19/17
Well, for some perspective, there are people who are completely selfless, live on only what the grace and magnanimity of others can supply, and ask for nothing in return except to be occasionally listened to. I am currently in Asia, and I am referring to Buddhist monks.

For everyone else, being that nice is probably not practical.
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Being nice or kind doesn't make you an easy target necessarily ... At least not if you screw up nicely and in a polite way to ppl who try to take advantage of you.
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Posted 3/20/17
I get that all of the time! I need to make my heart turn stone! So i can be evil! Wahhahahah
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Posted 3/20/17
YES

listen

If you are being treated like shit & don't stand up for yourself then you are being too nice.
Lay down the fuc*n Law & do something about it.
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