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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/19/17
Lol I aim for someone that takes decent care of themselves and enjoys the same hobbies I do....
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Maybe you've just had a string of bad luck running into superficial women because I've never met any "nerdy" girls that obsess over physiques like that. If anything (in my experience) having an athletic physique makes "nerdy" girls think I'm a jock or meathead when I'm actually a huge anime geek.

Meh, superficial women like that aren't anything to fret over though. Don't let those women get you down.
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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/20/17
I have ASD, chronic anxiety--I'm a recluse, a loner, a nerd--you name it. I work over 40 hours a week as a Computer Engineer. I play video games all day and love anime. I sit on my ass all damn day.

However, none of this is an excuse not to stay healthy.

Jumps on trampoline in bedroom while watching AMV's.

I'm a sexy motherfucker.



It's great not to have superficial standards, but do stay healthy as much as you all are able to.
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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/19/17
It's been over 20 nerdy women
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My issue is that I (almost) never go outside so I can't ever meet anyone superficial like this.
I'm also absurdly skinny for the absolute lack of exercise I get.

However, I'd assume most of a person's initial attraction to someone else would be based on appearance other than personality unless the situation they're introduced would influence it otherwise (coworkers, classmates, something similar).
Some people actually prefer or wouldn't mind people that are not in absolute peak condition, physically (I'd assume).

Personally, I'd prefer someone nearish (nearish because my BMI is 7yrs younger than what I actually am) to my body type. However, I'm a shut-in-ish enough type person that I doubt someone would be happy with me unless they had a similar personality. I'm not opposed to being dragged to places, tho.
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Lack of experience can lead to unrealistic ideals and expectations. I think young people tend to be quite vain as well, but that's obviously a generalization.

It's normal for people to focus more on appearances when they are looking for partners, and relax their standards once they are in a relationship. That being said, first impressions are important. There are surely people who would want to date you if they got to know you, but it's up to you to stand out from the pack.

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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/19/17

kinga750 wrote:

Lack of experience can lead to unrealistic ideals and expectations. I think young people tend to be quite vain as well, but that's obviously a generalization.

It's normal for people to focus more on appearances when they are looking for partners, and relax their standards once they are in a relationship. That being said, first impressions are important. There are surely people who would want to date you if they got to know you, but it's up to you to stand out from the pack.



Hm... I'd say it's true for the most part. I know when I was younger I really only cared about what a woman looked like rather than what her personality was like. As I got older I realized women are a lot more complex/deep than just their looks.
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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/24/17
I'd think it's more common for nerds to have problems even having the self-confidence to flirt with the opposite sex, nevermind holding unrealistic expectations.
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Posted 3/19/17 , edited 3/19/17
Nothing wrong with high standards if you can apply them to yourself.

Though I agree, you miss out on a lot of opportunities and intriguing personalities in doing so.

Their loss.
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XxDarkSasuxX wrote:

Nothing wrong with high standards if you can apply them to yourself.

Though I agree, you miss out on a lot of opportunities and intriguing personalities in doing so.

Their loss.


Most people don't apply them to themselves though and that's the issue you can't be in poor physical shape and only wanna date built dudes/girls
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I have a job, anime and games, a woman wouldn't fit in that schedule even though I wish she would
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Good thing about being a geologist, the only girls in my major are fit, like alcohol, rocks, and often anime and other such things.

On the flip side, there are 3 girls in my class of 30. Dating chances are slim.
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I never wanted to date a nerd. I have my hobbies and I like the fact my women aren't into my stuff.
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Why do people have this idea that only six-pack, model-type, Greek God lookalikes get to be in nice relationships?

I mean attraction certainly does play a part, but some people seem to make it out like everyone is super shallow or something.

And hey, guess what? There are plenty of complete nerds out there who are also super hot in appearance. Who would have thought??
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I don't know what's wrong with high standards. Of course, you are talking about high standards for superficial things. So mabye, its about not being superficial as to being opposed to high standards. I guarantee you that personality and habits always win over looks in the long run. Its just about knowing whether someone is good for you or not, really. Those with high superficial standards probably don't belong in relationships or have many of them for that matter and that's their choice and that's actually ok. It is better to be true to yourself than to try and force a lie about what you want out of life.
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