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You know something ive noticed recently.... both male and female nerds have rather outlandish standards.. You cant ask either male or female to keep a beach bod, work a full time job i.e 40+ hours a week and still enjoy their various geeky and nerdy hobbies. Now im not saying everyone needs to date someone who's clearly at risk for health issues im saying lower your standards not everyone needs to have a beach bod or be in peak physical condition physical and sexual attraction is not everything and should not rule your choices for partners.... All im saying is that nerds in general may be missing out on some amazing people simply because your standards are outlandish for people with hobbies that require mostly sedentary positions to enjoy. All Im saying is that lower your standards a bit and actually get to know people and dont make snap judgments merely on someones outward appearance.


What are you talking about? I work full time and go to the gym 5 days a week after work and still have time to play videogames and watch anime. While I don't have outlandish standards I'd at least like if if the other person put as much effort into being healthy as I do. Saying you don't have enough time is just an excuse for you being lazy.
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I am a nerd, or so I think I am. Playing games and watching anime all day and whatnot!
Me? I don't really care about the looks of women, I look for a great personality and common interests!
(As long as you are not obese, that is not healthy!)
I find most of the women that are "hot" to be rather meh... A shy girl with a cute face and beautiful eyes is everything I need ^-^
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As someone who's preference is towards the thicker lady (think Christina Hendricks) I actually don't want "a beach bod"; I want marshmallow and cuddliness.

Do note there is a big difference between cuddly/thicc and fat. You can be a bit soft in the middle without muffin topping or cake shelving in jeans and it's the former I like.

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Every time I see this, I want to say something about carbon dating.
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Posted 3/21/17 , edited 3/21/17

TaichoXD wrote:


kevz_210 wrote:


TaichoXD wrote:

You know something ive noticed recently.... both male and female nerds have rather outlandish standards.. You cant ask either male or female to keep a beach bod, work a full time job i.e 40+ hours a week and still enjoy their various geeky and nerdy hobbies. Now im not saying everyone needs to date someone who's clearly at risk for health issues im saying lower your standards not everyone needs to have a beach bod or be in peak physical condition physical and sexual attraction is not everything and should not rule your choices for partners.... All im saying is that nerds in general may be missing out on some amazing people simply because your standards are outlandish for people with hobbies that require mostly sedentary positions to enjoy. All Im saying is that lower your standards a bit and actually get to know people and dont make snap judgments merely on someones outward appearance.



Idk what you are saying, if you are out of shape hit the gym that's what I'm doing.
Hey the world is shallow, it is what it is, gotta work within that system.

On the flip side, can you really fall in love with someone you are not attractive to? What one person finds attractive another may not. Finding someone who you like and who also likes you often just comes down to dumb luck: being at the right place at the right time. No need to feel down over something that most of us have little control over anyway, if it's meant to happen it will, if not so be it.



um not sure you got my point sure im not in 100% best physical shape but im not in the worst either...

I think you all have missed my point... Alot of people set the bar high and do not even meet their own standards is my point. Secondly kiddies 25 hours a week and school is nothing try working 10 hours a day 6 days a week with fewer than 12 hours in between shifts when you remove drive time ... not to mention trying to fit time at the gym in there along with chores and your various hobbies in there its not exactly easy.... so when you do have free time last thing you wanna do is go wear yourself out at the gym


Yeah, I understand that, used to work 2 full time jobs (90+ hr weeks) to swing college tuition bills when off school and destroyed my physical health in the process, although paid the bills. I understand it is not easy or even doable given somebodies circumstances, but rather I was saying that society doesn't care about excuses and its better and simpler just to accept that fact than yelling out to the wind in frustration.
In reality you have 2 choices: either play within these "rules" or quit the game entirely.
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Posted 3/22/17 , edited 3/22/17
1. Time Management.

2. People are allowed to have standards.

3. There are different standards. Why would I have the same standard for myself than I would another person? I generally have lower standards for other people than I do myself because people have proven to be unreliable and stupid. Relationships are obviously a bit different. But I still hold my boyfriend to a different standard than me because he is older than me and should be at a different place in his life. Body wise, as long as he doesn't have too much of a belly, I do not care. But for me??? I fucking want a six pack, toned arms and legs...and I promise you, I work out everyday and eat well to get there. My boyfriend holds himself to his own standard to be fit. I don't care if he has a six pack or not. POINT IS. We have different standards for different people. Get over it.

4. Society doesn't give a shit about any excuse you have for anything.

5. Going to the gym is energizing. It boosts your serotonin levels.

6. Of course society has a bunch of stupid expectations. Get over it and find someone who doesn't have ridiculous expectations.

7. People tend to chill on the expectations once in a relationship. Just be hot at first, then you can go back to being a blob lol.
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Glad i'm not having to stress on dating anymore looks like a lot of
shallow people out there in the world.
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Boys especially are very visual so it's quite normal to be attracted to someone who's good looking.

In any case, looks shouldn't be the deciding factor in any relationship.
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Kikiest wrote:

Going to the gym is energizing. It boosts your serotonin levels


works the opposite to me makes me mad and stressed and makes me tired.
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I am a nerd, or so I think I am. Playing games and watching anime all day and whatnot!
Me? I don't really care about the looks of women, I look for a great personality and common interests!
(As long as you are not obese, that is not healthy!)
I find most of the women that are "hot" to be rather meh... A shy girl with a cute face and beautiful eyes is everything I need ^-^


me too actually but it's too hard to find a date for me since I have social anxiety (I'm also a nerd in terms of playing games)
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yamiyugi99 wrote:

me too actually but it's too hard to find a date for me since I have social anxiety (I'm also a nerd in terms of playing games)


Good on you! Nice to see someone that isn't super shallow when it comes to looks. And yeah, tough to find someone with social anxiety, trust me on that one
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Mrcreepday wrote:


yamiyugi99 wrote:

me too actually but it's too hard to find a date for me since I have social anxiety (I'm also a nerd in terms of playing games)


Good on you! Nice to see someone that isn't super shallow when it comes to looks. And yeah, tough to find someone with social anxiety, trust me on that one


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I'm not really contributing to this thread, just dropping this off here...



+ a couple comments I like


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gornotck wrote:

Every time I see this, I want to say something about carbon dating.


Wouldn't this be mostly water dating though?
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