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i've been bustin my ass workin out for the past 4 years i'm swole asf lost 60 lbs and i'm 6'3 and 170-something pounds

and like the problem is here is that i don't really have a social life, if i did i wouldn't be on here

but my main problem is with girls, they never talk to me they seem spooked of me and they (especially the super attractive ones) only talk to nerds, fat people, manlets, and the really scrawny kids

wtf am i doing wrong here ever since i figured out women hated me it's been making me sad
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Might want to move this one to advice/recommendations.

Attractive girls talking to nerds? Where do you live and how do I move there?

On a more serious note, a lack of a social life well, there's your problem. Can't exactly attract anyone if you aren't going out and meeting people.
Gotta start finding some hobbies or activities where you can meet someone with similar interests, that way you can meet someone who you actually know before dating them. Seems much easier to me imo.
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wow thanks for the support no replies so far and i get this
http://i.imgur.com/Ch43rYJ.png?1
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it's really hard people in general hate me
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Posted 3/26/17

kevz_210 wrote:

Might want to move this one to advice/recommendations.

Attractive girls talking to nerds? Where do you live and how do I move there?

On a more serious note, a lack of a social life well, there's your problem. Can't exactly attract anyone if you aren't going out and meeting people.
Gotta start finding some hobbies or activities where you can meet someone with similar interests, that way you can meet someone who you actually know before dating them. Seems much easier to me imo.

it's hard man people in general just hate me especially at my school
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Posted 3/26/17
Personality matters 1000x more then looks.

Socialise in some corners even if it is with nerds you will find someone in the places you socialise.

I have a lot of girls like me and i even have gotten asked out quite a bit and i'm fat (116kg) and ugly as fk.

Personality and intelligence is key.
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Posted 3/26/17

dickkickem wrote:


kevz_210 wrote:

Might want to move this one to advice/recommendations.

Attractive girls talking to nerds? Where do you live and how do I move there?

On a more serious note, a lack of a social life well, there's your problem. Can't exactly attract anyone if you aren't going out and meeting people.
Gotta start finding some hobbies or activities where you can meet someone with similar interests, that way you can meet someone who you actually know before dating them. Seems much easier to me imo.

it's hard man people in general just hate me especially at my school


I got that i was bullied and hated in school by everyone however i found my place on, online games and around those with the same interests.
Look in places that you want to be and talk to people with the same interests.
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Contrary to popular belief (especially on here) being swole isn't the sole factor in building relationships with women. If women are spooked of you, then you need to identify what specific things you're doing that are turning them away.
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everyone heres got the right idea. finding people that share common interests is important. the reason you see women talking and hanging out with "nerds" is because they must be actually interesting and fun people to hang out with. it sounds cliche but its cliche for a reason; beauty goes beyond the mirror.
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This is very simple but trust me it will work, all you have to do is focus on you and build yourself up, not just your body but also your goals, your hobbies, ect ect. eventually if you continue to do that and move forward with confidence enjoying just doing you ,girls are gonna come. The most important key is confidence women are highly attracted to confidence and if you have an interesting personality to go with that confidence then your set my man it just takes time. I was having the same problem till i just stopped giving a damn and doing me and eventually females just came.
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Posted 3/27/17 , edited 3/27/17
I advise that you sort out this "woe is me" train of thought and cease leeching off of other people. You're demanding an unreasonable amount of attention and reassurance, whilst actually having little regard for the well-being of others. So long as it's all about what "you" want/need, other people will pick up on the attitude, and you will likely make very little hedge way in intimate relationships. Work on your self-confidence and whatnot before you focus on interpersonal relationships.
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First, you need to relax. The first impression is the most important. Smile! Be friendly and helpful. Put others needs before your own. Be a gentleman! Also, don't be afraid to compliment someone you find attractive. If you see a young lady who catches your eye, tell her and tell her why, and I don't mean "hey babe I love those big tits of yours" because that will get you nowhere fast... even if they are freaking awesome... Tell her that her nails look great, tell her you like her hair style. Everyone loves to hear these things, and that will open the door to deeper conversation. Anyway, this is where the confidence in yourself comes into play. Don't be cocky or narcissistic! If the attraction is mutual, then you will know it. The body language will be there. Oh, and if you are in high school then my suggestion is don't waste your time trying to hook up with girls from your own school. Go to a dance or club, and test your social skills where nobody knows you. At least, if you have an epic fail, nobody will know who you are and in a couple weeks you can try again. Good luck!
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Posted 3/27/17
step 1 be attractive
step 2 don't be unattractive
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I'd be spooked too if a giant muscle was awkwardly walking up to me. You don't have a social life so you're probably super awkward when you DO talk with a girl, tack that on to the ignorance of thinking you being.. "swole" makes a difference, or better than "nerds, fat people, etc" people probably just sense that.. false sense of confidence and steer clear.
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Posted 3/27/17

Cardamom_Ginger wrote:

I advise that you sort out this "woe is me" train of thought and cease leeching off of other people. You're demanding an unreasonable amount of attention and reassurance, whilst actually having little regard for the well-being others. So long as it's all about what "you" want/need, other people will pick up on the attitude, and you will likely make very little hedge way in intimate relationships. Work on your self-confidence and whatnot before you focus on interpersonal relationships.


^ This.

Funny enough once i started putting others below me (raising my self confidence) people wanted to be around me more.
i definitely don't recommend doing it the way i did but self confidence does alot.
I am not a confident man but fake it till you make it
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