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Wonder how many people are like me i love head pats or hugs (at times) but in general i hate physical touch in real life whether i love the person i'm in or not.

So for me i have always seen dating long distance as superior in that sense as there is no stupid "push" for you to touch kiss and have sex etc with your partner even though you dislike such things.

I just find it silly myself when people say a relationship without physical touch is a bad relationship as i don't see touch as a pre-requisite.

whats your opinions anyone else like this?
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If i was dating someone whether it's long distance or whatever if they don't express a desire to touch/kiss me then i would feel unwanted and unloved and i would dump them. By all means have a relationship without touching but its never going to be a fulfilling relationship imo
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TartanButterfly wrote:

If i was dating someone whether it's long distance or whatever if they don't express a desire to touch/kiss me then i would feel unwanted and unloved and i would dump them. By all means have a relationship without touching but its never going to be a fulfilling relationship imo


depends if both people don't like touch then there is no reason it won't be fulfilling
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depends if both people don't like touch then there is no reason it won't be fulfilling :o


I'm pretty sure most people like to be touched by their partner, and i'm not just meaning touching in a sexual manner i'm also meaning simple things like hand holding.
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My thinking is i want to be touched i want to feel a warm female hands on my body i would not want it any other way.
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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Ryulightorb wrote:

depends if both people don't like touch then there is no reason it won't be fulfilling :o


I'm pretty sure most people like to be touched by their partner, and i'm not just meaning touching in a sexual manner i'm also meaning simple things like hand holding.


true but not all people are like that hand holding is ok to put up with not enjoyable but a minor thing to put up with.
i personally would do it but i would never enjoy it at all xD
Posted 4/5/17

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true but not all people are like that hand holding is ok to put up with not enjoyable but a minor thing to put up with.
i personally would do it but i would never enjoy it at all xD


That's just horrible, if you don't wanna hold someones hand then don't because doing it only because you feel like you have to is even worse. I don't think you understand how important physical touch can be, for example if your partner was crying you wouldn't just sit there and stare at them would you? You would hug them because it is comforting!
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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true but not all people are like that hand holding is ok to put up with not enjoyable but a minor thing to put up with.
i personally would do it but i would never enjoy it at all xD


That's just horrible, if you don't wanna hold someones hand then don't because doing it only because you feel like you have to is even worse. I don't think you understand how important physical touch can be, for example if your partner was crying you wouldn't just sit there and stare at them would you? You would hug them because it is comforting!



But what if one hates touch they are expected in the world to touch the person they love.
Touch and hugging someone you love is expected and something that you have to do whether you want to or not.

If my partner was crying i would hug them i wouldn't like it but i would if it calmed them down if they were like me though i would make them something nice to eat instead

The problem here is your saying you shouldn't do something if you don't want to but you are then expected to do said thing you don't want to which sends mixed messages to the person
Posted 4/5/17

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But what if one hates touch they are expected in the world to touch the person they love.
Touch and hugging someone you love is expected and something that you have to do whether you want to or not.

If my partner was crying i would hug them i wouldn't like it but i would if it calmed them down if they were like me though i would make them something nice to eat instead

The problem here is your saying you shouldn't do something if you don't want to but you are then expected to do said thing you don't want to which sends mixed messages to the person :o


No the problem here is you're trying to argue with me about something we have previously argued about What i'm saying is if you don't want to touch your partner then don't but don't expect the relationship to last because people want to be touched and if you don't want to touch them then you clearly don't love them imo.
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Posted 4/5/17

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Ryulightorb wrote

But what if one hates touch they are expected in the world to touch the person they love.
Touch and hugging someone you love is expected and something that you have to do whether you want to or not.

If my partner was crying i would hug them i wouldn't like it but i would if it calmed them down if they were like me though i would make them something nice to eat instead

The problem here is your saying you shouldn't do something if you don't want to but you are then expected to do said thing you don't want to which sends mixed messages to the person :o


No the problem here is you're trying to argue with me about something we have previously argued about What i'm saying is if you don't want to touch your partner then don't but don't expect the relationship to last because people want to be touched and if you don't want to touch them then you clearly don't love them imo.



That's what im saying there xD that's an opinion there are people out there like me who hate touch :3 you can love without touch i just wanted to point out the flaws in your statement my apologies!
Posted 4/5/17

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That's what im saying there xD that's an opinion there are people out there like me who hate touch :3 you can love without touch i just wanted to point out the flaws in your statement my apologies!


What flaws? How can you tell a person you love them but also say that you don't want to touch them?
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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Ryulightorb wrote:

That's what im saying there xD that's an opinion there are people out there like me who hate touch :3 you can love without touch i just wanted to point out the flaws in your statement my apologies!


What flaws? How can you tell a person you love them but also say that you don't want to touch them?


because touch isn't a requirement to everyone not everyone is the same.
some people dislike touch and that's ok they should be allowed to go without touch and have a happy relationship without needing to touch their partner if their partner is ok with it.

some of the people i know who are Autistic don't like touching people and touch their SO only because it's neccesary and makes their SO happy.

There is nothing wrong with being like that and it shouldn't be said those types of people who don't want touch or to touch shouldn't get to have happy relationships.


Loving someone doesn't mean you want to touch them you can love someone and still not want to touch them.
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because touch isn't a requirement to everyone not everyone is the same.
some people dislike touch and that's ok they should be allowed to go without touch and have a happy relationship without needing to touch their partner if their partner is ok with it.

some of the people i know who are Autistic don't like touching people and touch their SO only because it's neccesary and makes their SO happy.

There is nothing wrong with being like that and it shouldn't be said those types of people who don't want touch or to touch shouldn't get to have happy relationships.


Loving someone doesn't mean you want to touch them you can love someone and still not want to touch them.



I believe what i said was that if you don't want to touch someone then don't!?!?! There most likely are people that would happily be in a relationship with no touching, what i am saying is that the MAJORITY of people want to be touched!!! I personally do not want to be with someone who won't touch me because that to me sounds horrible but you can do what the hell you want!
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Ryulightorb wrote:

because touch isn't a requirement to everyone not everyone is the same.
some people dislike touch and that's ok they should be allowed to go without touch and have a happy relationship without needing to touch their partner if their partner is ok with it.

some of the people i know who are Autistic don't like touching people and touch their SO only because it's neccesary and makes their SO happy.

There is nothing wrong with being like that and it shouldn't be said those types of people who don't want touch or to touch shouldn't get to have happy relationships.


Loving someone doesn't mean you want to touch them you can love someone and still not want to touch them.



I believe what i said was that if you don't want to touch someone then don't!?!?! There most likely are people that would happily be in a relationship with no touching, what i am saying is that the MAJORITY of people want to be touched!!! I personally do not want to be with someone who won't touch me because that to me sounds horrible but you can do what the hell you want!


fair enough but the majority also know a thing called compromise so it's not a big deal :3
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