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Posted 4/5/17

Ryulightorb wrote:

fair enough but the majority also know a thing called compromise so it's not a big deal :3


...not a big deal...wow...i'm done.
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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Ryulightorb wrote:

fair enough but the majority also know a thing called compromise so it's not a big deal :3


...not a big deal...wow...i'm done.


well it's not people do things that don't like doing in relationships as compromise that's how they work out in the long term.
it's not a big deal touching people even if you hate it imho is worth it if it makes the other happy.

Everyone i know who has had lasting long relationships has learnt to compromise with what they hate or dislike :).
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17
Aren't you the guy that says he's been cheated on a bunch of times? I don't really even see how you can say you're in a relationship with someone if you're not even willing to touch them. All animals need physical contact to feel love. If you're not willing to touch these girls, of course they're going to leave you for someone who will.

It really sounds like you have some sort of anxiety or phobia that you need to get over if you ever want to be in a long term fulfilling relationship.
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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Aren't you the guy that says he's been cheated on a bunch of times? I don't really even see how you can say you're in a relationship with someone if you're not even willing to touch them. All animals need physical contact to feel love. If you're not willing to touch these girls, of course they're going to leave you for someone who will.


yes i have but those were just bad people they cheated on people other then me also i found out.

People don't "Need" it most of us do want it though which is fair and why people like me will do it even if we dislike it.
The relationships i was cheated in were long distance the girls were just shitty people who probably will keep doing it as cheaters usually do

I don't have a phobia (unless you count a phobia of death ) or anxiety either i just dislike touch due to my sensory issues it feels awful and i hate it.

as i said above its something you need to compromise on and touch your partner even if you hate it
Which is fine as you said most people want touch which is normal everyone must make their sacrifices and do things they heavily dislike in a relationship for me that's physical contact
Posted 4/5/17

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Wonder how many people are like me i love head pats or hugs (at times) but in general i hate physical touch in real life whether i love the person i'm in or not.

So for me i have always seen dating long distance as superior in that sense as there is no stupid "push" for you to touch kiss and have sex etc with your partner even though you dislike such things.

I just find it silly myself when people say a relationship without physical touch is a bad relationship as i don't see touch as a pre-requisite.

whats your opinions anyone else like this?


nonsense. it's like saying you love pizza but won't eat it.
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Posted 4/5/17

Ryulightorb wrote:


DrunkKanti wrote:

Aren't you the guy that says he's been cheated on a bunch of times? I don't really even see how you can say you're in a relationship with someone if you're not even willing to touch them. All animals need physical contact to feel love. If you're not willing to touch these girls, of course they're going to leave you for someone who will.


yes i have but those were just bad people they cheated on people other then me also i found out.

People don't "Need" it most of us do want it though which is fair and why people like me will do it even if we dislike it.
The relationships i was cheated in were long distance the girls were just shitty people who probably will keep doing it as cheaters usually do

I don't have a phobia or anxiety either i just dislike touch due to my sensory issues


I'm sorry, but you CAN'T have a romantic relationship without physical touch. Those girls who "cheated" on you probably didn't even consider you their boyfriend. People have needs. Even women enjoy sex and have urges. If you turn them away because you "don't like to be touched" they're going to assume you're not sexually attracted to them. They're going to assume you don't think they're beautiful enough for you. And of course, they're going to go looking for someone who will appreciate them and make them feel pretty again. I don't see how you can with good conscious call these women "bad people" when you're the one withholding affection.
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Posted 4/5/17

Ryulightorb wrote:

Wonder how many people are like me i love head pats or hugs (at times) but in general i hate physical touch in real life whether i love the person i'm in or not.

So for me i have always seen dating long distance as superior in that sense as there is no stupid "push" for you to touch kiss and have sex etc with your partner even though you dislike such things.

I just find it silly myself when people say a relationship without physical touch is a bad relationship as i don't see touch as a pre-requisite.

whats your opinions anyone else like this?


Alright so to start my point Im going to assume by relationship you mean someone you are more than just friends with.

Now to explain some things so what Im about to say is clear.

Unknown: A person, you have never seen, walked past or spoken to in any way.

Background Character: A person you have seen or walked past but never met or spoken to.

Person you know of: A person you have been told about but have never met them.

Aquantance: A person you have met but you have no special connection to them.

Friend: A person you care about to some degree varrying depending on person and you have a special connection with

A Person you are in a relationship with: A friend you are intimate with

Meaning you CANT possibly be in a "Relationship" without intimacy and intimacy means being sexual in some way shape or form... So if you love the person care about them spend lots of time with them share everything with them and live with them you are AT MOST best friends and room mates...

So your problem isnt physical touch its you missunderstand what a relationship is. So you want a best friend not a relationship.



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Posted 4/5/17

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Ryulightorb wrote:

Wonder how many people are like me i love head pats or hugs (at times) but in general i hate physical touch in real life whether i love the person i'm in or not.

So for me i have always seen dating long distance as superior in that sense as there is no stupid "push" for you to touch kiss and have sex etc with your partner even though you dislike such things.

I just find it silly myself when people say a relationship without physical touch is a bad relationship as i don't see touch as a pre-requisite.

whats your opinions anyone else like this?


nonsense. it's like saying you love pizza but won't eat it.


How is that so?

Relationships and touching aren't exactly one in the same all the time there are people out there that like relationships with minimum touching.

though for the average person i would agree it probably does seem like nonsense since there seems to be a need instead of a want to be touched (never understood it myself im more the opposite after all)

Each person is different in the end so it makes sense not everyone wants a relationship where touching is as a big factor as many people seem to put it.

I see it personally as one of the lesser required things most people see it as highly important but it goes to show not everyone has the same requirements
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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Ryulightorb wrote:

Wonder how many people are like me i love head pats or hugs (at times) but in general i hate physical touch in real life whether i love the person i'm in or not.

So for me i have always seen dating long distance as superior in that sense as there is no stupid "push" for you to touch kiss and have sex etc with your partner even though you dislike such things.

I just find it silly myself when people say a relationship without physical touch is a bad relationship as i don't see touch as a pre-requisite.

whats your opinions anyone else like this?


Alright so to start my point Im going to assume by relationship you mean someone you are more than just friends with.

Now to explain some things so what Im about to say is clear.

Unknown: A person, you have never seen, walked past or spoken to in any way.

Background Character: A person you have seen or walked past but never met or spoken to.

Person you know of: A person you have been told about but have never met them.

Aquantance: A person you have met but you have no special connection to them.

Friend: A person you care about to some degree varrying depending on person and you have a special connection with

A Person you are in a relationship with: A friend you are intimate with

Meaning you CANT possibly be in a "Relationship" without intimacy and intimacy means being sexual in some way shape or form... So if you love the person care about them spend lots of time with them share everything with them and live with them you are AT MOST best friends and room mates...

So your problem isnt physical touch its you missunderstand what a relationship is. So you want a best friend not a relationship.







Best friends are not what i want because a best friend is friends with someone else i want someone who is there only for me and loves me and i love them and we are only for eachother.

I'm fine with kissing or hugging sometimes personally but i would never be ok with the person i love kissing another person and would hope they feel the same (otherwise i wouldn't date them) i have best friends it's not what i want.

A relationship doesn't entail it needing to be sexual you can have a romantic relationship that is not sexual by all means it's a step up from a best friend and focus's on the feeling of love both people share and show eachother.

Your saying a relationship cannot exist without sexual feelings or sexual intimacy which is actually not true as that's only one form of romantic relationship.

" In the context of romantic love relationships, romance usually implies an expression of one's strong romantic love, or one's deep and strong emotional desires to connect with another person intimately or romantically."


Personally myself i would not want another "Best friend" i have enough close friends i myself am searching for a partner to spend my life with which i feel i will find in the next 10 or so years i have high hopes on that front


I don't misunderstand what a relationship is i know what an intimate relationship is i don't want one of those i want a romantic relationship which is different then being just friends or close friends.
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Alright so to start my point Im going to assume by relationship you mean someone you are more than just friends with.

Now to explain some things so what Im about to say is clear.

Unknown: A person, you have never seen, walked past or spoken to in any way.

Background Character: A person you have seen or walked past but never met or spoken to.

Person you know of: A person you have been told about but have never met them.

Aquantance: A person you have met but you have no special connection to them.

Friend: A person you care about to some degree varrying depending on person and you have a special connection with

A Person you are in a relationship with: A friend you are intimate with

Meaning you CANT possibly be in a "Relationship" without intimacy and intimacy means being sexual in some way shape or form... So if you love the person care about them spend lots of time with them share everything with them and live with them you are AT MOST best friends and room mates...

So your problem isnt physical touch its you missunderstand what a relationship is. So you want a best friend not a relationship.


Exactly. If you're not having some kind of sexual contact with them (whether it be kissing or anything else) at most you're just really good friends.
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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

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MrEnder1337 wrote:
Alright so to start my point Im going to assume by relationship you mean someone you are more than just friends with.

Now to explain some things so what Im about to say is clear.

Unknown: A person, you have never seen, walked past or spoken to in any way.

Background Character: A person you have seen or walked past but never met or spoken to.

Person you know of: A person you have been told about but have never met them.

Aquantance: A person you have met but you have no special connection to them.

Friend: A person you care about to some degree varrying depending on person and you have a special connection with

A Person you are in a relationship with: A friend you are intimate with

Meaning you CANT possibly be in a "Relationship" without intimacy and intimacy means being sexual in some way shape or form... So if you love the person care about them spend lots of time with them share everything with them and live with them you are AT MOST best friends and room mates...

So your problem isnt physical touch its you missunderstand what a relationship is. So you want a best friend not a relationship.


Exactly. If you're not having some kind of sexual contact with them (whether it be kissing or anything else) at most you're just really good friends.


No you can still have a romantic relationship.

A relationship is not only a relationship due to sexual contact.
There are many different forms of relationships.

Also if your friends you don't mind if they go and date other people in my case i would definitely mind as i would not like the person i am dating to see someone else now would you?

Then again i'm not into the whole sharing the person you want to marry kind of thing if others are that is fine personally i would want to be with the one person who dedicates their life to being with me and me the same to them and just living out that romantic relationship.
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Posted 4/5/17

Ryulightorb wrote:
A relationship is not only a relationship due to sexual contact.
There are many different forms of relationships.


Yes, there are many different types of relationships. The one you're describing isn't romantic though. It's platonic.


Also if your friends you don't mind if they go and date other people in my case i would definitely mind as i would not like the person i am dating to see someone else now would you?

Well, that's pretty selfish of you don't you think? You want that person to never have physical contact with the opposite sex just because you can't? And to answer your question, if I'm not having sex with the girl then yeah she's free to do whatever makes her happy.



Then again i'm not into the whole sharing the person you want to marry kind of thing if others are that is fine personally i would want to be with the one person who dedicates their life to being with me and me the same to them and just living out that romantic relationship.


How do you ever expect to marry a girl if you won't even touch one? I really think if you're that uncomfortable touching girls maybe it's time to explore your sexuality a little bit (not trying to be a dick or call names as I'm bisexual myself, but it's something you might need to think about).

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Posted 4/5/17 , edited 4/5/17

DrunkKanti wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:
A relationship is not only a relationship due to sexual contact.
There are many different forms of relationships.


Yes, there are many different types of relationships. The one you're describing isn't romantic though. It's platonic.


Also if your friends you don't mind if they go and date other people in my case i would definitely mind as i would not like the person i am dating to see someone else now would you?

Well, that's pretty selfish of you don't you think? You want that person to never have physical contact with the opposite sex just because you can't? And to answer your question, if I'm not having sex with the girl then yeah she's free to do whatever makes her happy.



Then again i'm not into the whole sharing the person you want to marry kind of thing if others are that is fine personally i would want to be with the one person who dedicates their life to being with me and me the same to them and just living out that romantic relationship.


How do you ever expect to marry a girl if you won't even touch one? I really think if you're that uncomfortable touching girls maybe it's time to explore your sexuality a little bit (not trying to be a dick or call names as I'm bisexual myself, but it's something you might need to think about).


1. Romantic doesn't require sex or touch either that's a bonus romantic requires feelings of love also platonic relationships are not exclusive iirc
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. No i never said i wouldn't do it i just wouldn't enjoy it personally and who says i would date someone who isn't like me also i don't think it's selfish for wanting your partner not to cheat on you or have sex with others.

3. I don't want to touch one but i will i hate touching people why is it wrong for me not to like it? it makes me feel ick due to my sensory issues i think that's a fair reason to dislike touching people in general.

I'm bisexual however i'm very rarely sexual infact i honestly dislike sexual things in general it's not exactly my cup of tea but again i have been with partners with high sex drives and things went fine compromising with things you don't like is part of a relationship.

My last ex (we broke up due to her being a distant person and me being clingy we just weren't compatable) was super sexual like every day all the time i talked to her we figured stuff out if i was there irl (we lived a tiny bit away) i would of happily helped her out compromises are important i learnt that early on in life
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Posted 4/5/17

Ryulightorb wrote:


TartanButterfly wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

fair enough but the majority also know a thing called compromise so it's not a big deal :3


...not a big deal...wow...i'm done.


well it's not people do things that don't like doing in relationships as compromise that's how they work out in the long term.
it's not a big deal touching people even if you hate it imho is worth it if it makes the other happy.

Everyone i know who has had lasting long relationships has learnt to compromise with what they hate or dislike :).


Yeah but touching(not just sexually) is such a big requirement of a relationship, to compromise it for someone else is bound to leave to cheating or just a divorce.
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