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l'll break this down in point form.

Girls have needs. They want to be in a relationship and feel they are loved. Physical contact and caring shows that. If your going to be in a relationship and want to do your own thing, think again. You have to account for her NEEDS or she will leave you.
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Ryulightorb wrote:
I am and they are wrong to think all people are like that.

Not everyone has the same standards or needs in a relationship.

Again what you're describing is a very close friendship. Not a romantic relationship.


There is nothing wrong with wanting a romantic relationship without much touch and it is completely possible.
What people are saying goes against all logic and suggest not having sex or touch in a relationship makes it not a relationship which is factually false.

Sexless relationships are completely fine and personally i think are the better form of relationship but that's just my opinion.


Yeah, if you think friendship is more important than romance. And there's nothing wrong with that until you get all possessive and not let them pursue a romantic relationship with someone else, someone who doesn't find touching them "gross."


Why should i touch people when it makes me feel gross?
why should that hold me back from having love?


Because being in love with someone means WANTING to touch them, WANTING to be close to them. If you think touching that person is GROSS and express your feeling to that person (that touching them is gross) they're not going to feel loved by you and they're going to search for that feeling in someone else.

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Proved you wrong though

Oxford dictionary

Relationship :1. The way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected.
2. The state of being connected by blood or marriage.

Romantic: (of a person) readily demonstrating feelings of love. , Relating to love or to sexual relationships. (SEE THE "OR")

Passionate: Having, showing, or caused by strong feelings or beliefs.
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-Array- wrote:

l'll break this down in point form.

Girls have needs. They want to be in a relationship and feel they are loved. Physical contact and caring shows that. If your going to be in a relationship and want to do your own thing, think again. You have to account for her NEEDS or she will leave you.


Not all girls have the same needs this is a misconception alot of people here are making of course some girls need touch not all however.
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if you don't like the physical aspects then breakup.
There's no point in trying to beat around the bush.
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DrunkKanti wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:
I am and they are wrong to think all people are like that.

Not everyone has the same standards or needs in a relationship.

Again what you're describing is a very close friendship. Not a romantic relationship.


There is nothing wrong with wanting a romantic relationship without much touch and it is completely possible.
What people are saying goes against all logic and suggest not having sex or touch in a relationship makes it not a relationship which is factually false.

Sexless relationships are completely fine and personally i think are the better form of relationship but that's just my opinion.


Yeah, if you think friendship is more important than romance. And there's nothing wrong with that until you get all possessive and not let them pursue a romantic relationship with someone else, someone who doesn't find touching them "gross."


Why should i touch people when it makes me feel gross?
why should that hold me back from having love?


Because being in love with someone means WANTING to touch them, WANTING to be close to them. If you think touching that person is GROSS and express your feeling to that person (that touching them is gross) they're not going to feel loved by you and they're going to search for that feeling in someone else.



1. Disagree

2. No Romance is more important but Romance doesn't equate to anything sexual you can be in a romantic relationship with them and not be sexual also if they want to leave that's fine and their choice anyone who would stop them is a dick

3. No it doesn't mean that by defenition maybe to some buy you are just assuming all people are the same i want to be close to someone i love i just don't want to touch them as it messes with my sensory issues.

Nothing wrong with that also yes most people will search for someone else but not everyone is the same way which is a big point people seem to miss here.

May i also state i said i have no problem with touching someone out of relationship neccesity i just dislike it personally and that is not something i can change i was born with sensory issues it's a trait that is unchanging and is completely fine to have.
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Ryulightorb wrote:


-Array- wrote:

l'll break this down in point form.

Girls have needs. They want to be in a relationship and feel they are loved. Physical contact and caring shows that. If your going to be in a relationship and want to do your own thing, think again. You have to account for her NEEDS or she will leave you.


Not all girls have the same needs this is a misconception alot of people here are making of course some girls need touch not all however.


By all means, continue the way your going BUT dont expect a girl to come looking for your kind of relationship or seek comfort from your freinds. YOU have to change, they will not come for you. If your not invested in your relationship or trying to further it, she will drop you dead on the spot. It only makes it easier for her because you haven't made a single move.

Good luck
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Ryulightorb wrote:

I am and they are wrong to think all people are like that.

Not everyone has the same standards or needs in a relationship.

There is nothing wrong with wanting a romantic relationship without much touch and it is completely possible.
What people are saying goes against all logic and suggest not having sex or touch in a relationship makes it not a relationship which is factually false.

Sexless relationships are completely fine and personally i think are the better form of relationship but that's just my opinion.

Why should i touch people when it makes me feel gross?
why should that hold me back from having love?

Answer it shouldn't and won't.

Lets be reasonable and logical people this is 2017 the global intelligence rates are quite well these days.


THEY DON'T ALL THINK PEOPLE ARE LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!

relationship
NOUN

1The way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected.
‘the study will assess the relationship between unemployment and political attitudes’

1.1 The state of being connected by blood or marriage.
‘they can trace their relationship to a common ancestor’

1.2 The way in which two or more people or groups regard and behave towards each other.
‘the landlord–tenant relationship’
‘she was proud of her good relationship with the staff"

1.3 An emotional and sexual association between two people.
‘she has a daughter from a previous relationship’

Pay particularly close attention to the part in red.


Bravo!!! We were on the same train of thought!

Id also like to point out your profile pic is of my fantasy gf 0.0

Are you me as a woman?
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eggrollsama wrote:

if you don't like the physical aspects then breakup.
There's no point in trying to beat around the bush.


But you don't need the physical aspects to be in a relationship if both people want a relationship without physical aspects.
There are people like me who can't touch people or else it makes them feel gross due to sensory issues and we generally don't feel the need for human touch.

We generally end up in relationships with people like us who also are like that and it works out fine.


MrEnder1337 wrote:

Bravo!!! We were on the same train of thought!

Id also like to point out your profile pic is of my fantasy gf 0.0

Are you me as a woman?



One of the three possible meanings doesn't mean it has to be both mate.
an emotional association between two people can be a relationship on its own if enstated for example said two people asking eachother out and begin dating.


-Array- wrote:

By all means, continue the way your going BUT dont expect a girl to come looking for your kind of relationship or seek comfort from your freinds. YOU have to change, they will not come for you. If your not invested in your relationship or trying to further it, she will drop you dead on the spot. It only makes it easier for her because you haven't made a single move.

Good luck



I can't change my needs mate the reason i hate touch isn't because im scared of it or some shit i have a sensory issue which is not possible to fix unless you are suggesting lobotomy and genetic manipulation?

Keeping a relationship is easy (so long as you don't date bad people which i have a habit of doing even though people warn me not to date them but thats a problem of it's own) as i said earlier most people aren't like me thats why if you are like me you compromise you touch them even if it makes you feel gross and ick.

Nothing wrong with being how i am i know people have needs and hence is why i believe in compromise even if you hate something.


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This guy is pure out trolling everyone its time to ignore him. No one would missuse a dictionairys context that badly and so obviously unless they were trolling so hes a fake its all fake he just wants attention
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I have seen this irl among 40- & 50-somethings who already have an established lifestyle, are financially secure but do not wish to become embroiled in the psychological turmoil determining whether it's them or their assets that attract the interest. Several years ago I think I would've looked for a relationship along these lines back when I had the bucks but not now.

I can see certain benefits: nice significant other / 1 person friend who can converse, accompany, associate without the messiness of hot or not sex, mind games. Fucking is hard work. And if you're out of shape it's really, really hard work unless compromises are made early in the relationship re technique. Foreplay leading up to fucking is also challenging. Strike 1 bad chord in that symphony unfolding up the ascension to orgasm and it's possible to lose 50% participation instantly. Phew! These setbacks / disappointments take a toll on the psyche if this becomes a pattern rather than the exception depending upon who is igniting that fire .

Risking sucks, you know. Yeah, this option does have certain advantages over "in the moment": clothes remain unwrinkled, tell-tale hickeys get avoided (in event of 2-timing), no cosmetic redo, no stained sheets or carpet or sofa does say something positive about remaining obediently platonic and focused toward 1 individual. There is no need for rubbers, planned parenthood meetings, hospital visits, pre-natal care. Shit, what's not to like.
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Ryulightorb wrote:

I can't change my needs mate the reason i hate touch isn't because im scared of it or some shit i have a sensory issue which is not possible to fix unless you are suggesting lobotomy.

Keeping a relationship is easy as i said earlier most people aren't like me thats why if you are like me you compromise you touch them even if it makes you feel gross and ick.



I'm trying to be nice here. That experience is from YEARS of seeing women and what they want in a guy. Touch is very high on there list and l have never met the kind you are looking for. Go ask all the girl friends you have and ask how high touching is in a relationship or even hugging/cuddling. I bet you that 9 or 10/10 will say that it is very important. The 1/10 might be the person that is to shy to answer and lie to you.
Posted 4/5/17

MrEnder1337 wrote:

Bravo!!! We were on the same train of thought!

Id also like to point out your profile pic is of my fantasy gf 0.0

Are you me as a woman?


I mean i'm so over this thread now, i want it to end.

She's my fantasy gf too, i don't mind sharing though :P

Omg haha quite possibly!
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