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Posted 4/21/17 , edited 4/22/17
Thanks for the comments, cool peoples.
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Posted 4/21/17 , edited 4/22/17
You know, it is still possible to love things with obvious flaws, accept them for what they are, and even joke about them.

Too many people feel they need absolute justification for their feelings.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I do this some times too and I hate it.

For example: Janice likes the new movie featuring her favorite actors but Dennis hates the movie a lot. Janice gets upset and defensive over the fact that Dennis hates the new movie. But Dennis doesn't care and feels he is entitled to his opinion. This causes tension between both Janice and Dennis.


Assuming Janice is of a certain age, it's probably because she's invested too much of her identity into believing she's one of many fans of her favorite movie, and now to pick on the movie is to make judgments on HER..And that to stick up for herself is to stick up for her fandom, and vice versa, and that her individuality as part of this "persecuted" fandom is her one weapon against an uncaring world.

If she's older, she may have learned a little enough perspective to tell the difference, or at least stopped reading DC Comics.
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Posted 4/22/17 , edited 4/29/17
Low intelligence, typically.
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I don't hate people who hate what I like so long as they don't shove the idea of why they hate it in my face. If they don't like it, they should discuss it with people who have the same opinions unless they want a discussion like, asking me why I like it and all that and then we can talk properly. But if for some reason they decide to come up to me out of the blue and just state 'I hate this stuff because...', I'd be defensive because I didn't ask for your opinion and didn't ask for you to insult what I like. This is one of the reasons I don't recommend my favorite shows to my close friends because I don't want us to have an argument about it.

In other cases, if it happens in a forum discussion or something, people tend to me more defensive if the way things are worded are harsh, rude, or just really offensive sounding.

Like, I can ignore it when people say: "I don't understand why people like _____. I didn't see what was so good about it. (states everything they didn't like that actually makes sense)." because they're stating their opinion and I know how they feel because there are things I don't like as well.

But when people say this: "I hate _______. It's pretty f*ing stupid and those who like it are stupid, too. I mean (says everything they hate about the thing).", I tend to get offended really badly. There are better ways to say it and you don't have to insult the fandom. Everyone likes what they like, you know. While I, too am guilty of the same thinking (thinking there's probably something wrong with those who like something I hate), I usually keep that part to myself because it's rude.

The worse case is people hating on something and posting about it to intentionally offend the fans. There are people like that who would word it in the most offensive way possible while insulting people who like it. It feels terrible. It's worse when they start an argument, I give my own opinion and they just ignore and shoot me down.

Like, I like this pairing in an anime but they'd insult that pairing with the stupidest reason like one of my OTPs happen to be childhood friends who consider each other family but isn't in any way or form blood related or even related in a legal way but the haters say it's 'incest' to justify their hate. Me or someone else in the fandom would stick up for what we like and explain why it isn't incest but the haters would ignore all of our points and continue saying the same thing. Look, we know you hate this pairing, we know you support something else but please, don't use that reasoning because it's wrong. It's worst when they call us 'disgusting supporters of incest' and that there's something wrong with us. *sigh* Sorry, I guess I went overboard with that...

Although I do understand that nothing is perfect and I know that there are things people could hate about something I like so in other cases, I might actually agree with the haters on some points but it doesn't mean I'd start hating my likes because of what others say.
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Why do some people get upset if someone else hates what they like?
it is a simple case of 'slippery slope' perceived existential threat.
Normally, if only one or few others hate it, it doesn't matter, and you wouldn't even normally care what they think.
However in today's society of 'trending' topics on social media, a few people who express their hate for something can gather a very large number of like-minded vocal individuals behind them, thus creating an almost insurmountable wall of hatred for something you like .

Similarly, if enough people express that hatred and successfully influence their political representatives to legislate against something you like, you have the situation where having or doing what you like, becomes a criminal act.

e.g. The right to same-sex unions recognised by the state.
e.g. The right to self-medicate with marijuana for pain relief
e.g. The right to determine the time and method of your own pain-free dignified end-of-life
e.g. The right to abortion
e.g. The right to worship a faith without prejudice and persecution.

Is it any wonder why 'some people' get upset when others hate what they like?

Given the enablement of activism and social media bullying tactics (even a U.S. President whose entire career has been achieved through the pursuit of bullying tactics),
it is a small miracle that anyone feels safe to express what they like anymore, unless it fits within an already established narrow set of accepted values.
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Personally, it's a bummer hearing negative responses to something I enjoy or approve of. I don't hold it against them but it would obviously make things easier and cooler if we happened to have similar opinions on the matter.

It could also be that they have a hard time finding someone who likes what they like and it makes it more disappointing.
Posted 4/24/17
I think some people believe that what they enjoy is entertainment of a fine quality so when someone else insults it, they are angered over their belief. I'm not saying this is bad, I've done it before, I'm just explaining it.
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because its demotivating
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kimbeey13 wrote:

For me it more about the respect. I don't mind if someone doesn't like the same things I do, it is something I expect, but when they start disrepecting me for what I like, trying to put me down or forcefully make me conform to their views is when I start to have a problem.

For example, I love the harem genre which tends to get a lot of flake, which is completely understandable as the same formula is used over and over and there generally (not always) a lot of depth to them. I can step back from my own like of this particular genre and see the why of the other said. Yet, when people let their dislike get the best of them and start saying things like: "People who like harems are all pervs." or, "There most be something wrong with you if you like harmes. Where's your taste?"

Things like that. Where people whom dislike something are twisting that dislike onto the people who do, acting like those people are beneath them. So, in short, I don't usually mind when people hate on or make fun of something I like, but when they start attacking me for liking it is when I start to feel a little, if not a lot defensive. It's okay to dislike something, even say why that is and what not, but be respectful of those that do like it? The feeling of belittlement is never fun.

I have no idea if I made any sense here.


This! Exactly! I don't care if someone doesn't like what I do but when someone attacks me for liking it it truly pisses me off. It's just as bad as people who dislike a show on TV so start a drive to boycott it. It's them telling you that they respect no one else's opinion but their own.

And yes, I feel the same about harems as you .
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Cus they forgot there chill pill.
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People are just passionate about stuff, fam.

I don't mind someone disliking stuff but when it's "I don't like xx because it's shit" and there's not really any context or explanation, it's just like - 'so you're a negative SOB yeah?'. The same thing goes if someone starts insulting me for liking something, that gets on my nerves.
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A lot of it has to do with whether somebody is being a jackass when "expressing an opinion".

You see, there a difference between expressing an opinion and being a jackass WHILE expressing an opinion..........
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OP, I think in your given situation, perhaps it's just the lack of communication between the two people that has made some tension between the two of them? They wouldn't outright hate each other just because of this small difference.

I've met people like that.

I think belittling someone of what they want to share with you is not the right thing to do. At least be grateful that they want to open your eyes to something new.
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