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qualeshia3 wrote:

For example: Janice likes the new movie featuring her favorite actors but Dennis hates the movie a lot. Janice gets upset and defensive over the fact that Dennis hates the new movie. But Dennis doesn't care


...what Janice likes.

Because Dennis doesn't care about Janice.

Dennis is certainly entitled to his opinion, but it has consequences. If he doesn't like them, he needs to keep his damn mouth shut.

Let's genericise this.

Janice: "I feel good about a thing."
Dennis: "I do not feel good about it at all, because of reasons."
Janice: "But I feel good about it. I wish you felt good about it."
Dennis: "I do not feel good. I am not going to feel good. I don't care if you feel good. You can't make me feel good."

Janice certainly doesn't feel as good as she started out feeling, and might not feel good at all any more. It's almost like Dennis said "I don't feel good, and you're not allowed to feel good either." Isn't Dennis a jerk? I sure think he's a jerk.

Compare this conversation!

Janice: "I feel good about a thing."
Dennis: "I'm glad you feel good about it, Janice. Let's go have a sandwich."

Hey presto, not a jerk. Maybe he could do that more often.

General rule, nobody cares what you don't like. Nobody wants to hear about it. Especially not anyone who likes it.
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All humans have a need to be superior in some way, even if joking about how bad your friend's hair is. When someone disagrees with them then he/she will argue with them because they want to prove they are right and being right about something gives you a sense of superiority.
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Posted 4/29/17 , edited 4/29/17

MasterBismuth33 wrote:

I don't have a need to feel superior over anyone. Everybody has something unique with themselves that they are good at that others are not that good in.

Are you really that autistic that you would ask a question like this? You really don't now how to answer this question on your own? Are you that isolated and disconnected, Qualeshia?

Do you actually don't get that others would get upset that you insulted their hobby? Are you that dense? Do you have any empathy to able to tell that someone is mad at you for saying something out of line? It does not look like it. It looks like the vaccines have destroyed the brains of children and made them autistic.



I just asked a simple question. Calm down, dude.


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I have no idea. It's always been a meme between me and any group of people I interact with that my taste is shitty hipster trash that no one likes, so I'm just used to my things getting shit on (and also shitting on others' interests in return).
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I don't know why people are like that, but the older I get, the more I don't give a shit. I like what I like, you like what you like. Sometimes we like the same things, sometimes we don't, and I honestly don't care. Makes life so much easier.
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Posted 4/29/17

MasterBismuth33 wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


MasterBismuth33 wrote:

I don't have a need to feel superior over anyone. Everybody has something unique with themselves that they are good at that others are not that good in.

Are you really that autistic that you would ask a question like this? You really don't now how to answer this question on your own? Are you that isolated and disconnected, Qualeshia?

Do you actually don't get that others would get upset that you insulted their hobby? Are you that dense? Do you have any empathy to able to tell that someone is mad at you for saying something out of line? It does not look like it. It looks like the vaccines have destroyed the brains of children and made them autistic.



I just asked a simple question. Calm down, dude.




I am calm. I am always in control of myself. You just got intimidated.



While I think Qualeshia asks some pretty obvious questions, your line about her being dense was uncalled for, especially with the follow up implication of her "autism".

Seriously, you are 36, supposedly. Cannot we all be nice?
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Some people are too sensitive?

My friend hates anime and I love anime but we're still friends.

My other friend likes Trump and I don't like Trump but we're still friends.

People are entitled to what they like or don't like *shrugs*

I think most people rather be around people who thinks the same as them but for me I prefer diversity and learning new perspectives.
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Sammy_Doo wrote:

Some people are too sensitive?

My friend hates anime and I love anime but we're still friends.

My other friend likes Trump and I don't like Trump but we're still friends.

People are entitled to what they like or don't like *shrugs*

I think most people rather be around people who thinks the same as them but for me I prefer diversity and learning new perspectives.


Same Here.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I do this some times too and I hate it.

For example: Janice likes the new movie featuring her favorite actors but Dennis hates the movie a lot. Janice gets upset and defensive over the fact that Dennis hates the new movie. But Dennis doesn't care and feels he is entitled to his opinion. This causes tension between both Janice and Dennis.

Why are there people like Janice? Like what is so wrong with Dennis hating something we like? Dennis never stated he hated Janice. He just wasn't a fan of the movie. Janice just thinks that the movie she likes is special and should be loved by everyone.

I just find it silly and childish that me and some people get this way. I see it all the damn time in the anime fandoms and even other fandoms.

Is it because when a person insults something we enjoy we take it as the person insulting us indirectly? Is that really it?

Please tell me.




I guess the It's Always sunny refrence didn't click with anybody.

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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17

Ashliet wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

I do this some times too and I hate it.

For example: Janice likes the new movie featuring her favorite actors but Dennis hates the movie a lot. Janice gets upset and defensive over the fact that Dennis hates the new movie. But Dennis doesn't care and feels he is entitled to his opinion. This causes tension between both Janice and Dennis.

Why are there people like Janice? Like what is so wrong with Dennis hating something we like? Dennis never stated he hated Janice. He just wasn't a fan of the movie. Janice just thinks that the movie she likes is special and should be loved by everyone.

I just find it silly and childish that me and some people get this way. I see it all the damn time in the anime fandoms and even other fandoms.

Is it because when a person insults something we enjoy we take it as the person insulting us indirectly? Is that really it?

Please tell me.




I guess the It's Always sunny refrence didn't click with anybody.




Nope. It didn't.
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Well, I certainly don't like when I go to comment on something I like (an episode of an anime, like on mal) and then see a bunch of people saying they hate the show, and that's what half the comments are. So yeah, I hate it. It shouldn't even be a question imo.
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