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Posted 4/23/17 , edited 4/24/17

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But I do agree older men should not be requesting sex from underaged girls or girls who are under 20 and the age gap is to large.
But younger women should also not be going after older men when they are underage which happens very often as well.


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If it were that easy, CR would be safer. I know of some guys here who make tons of side accounts and lie about their ages.


This conversation is going quite off-topic. Please stop it here.
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I have been dealing with depression and stress for years, I have a boyfriend I'm very close with and parents I text once a day, but I still don't feel like I'm doing enough for myself. I'm in my second year of college & stoped taking classes but my parents don't know that, I'm only 50% done.

I have a lot of problems, I'm really glad I came to CR, I found many different people to talk to on here. But something is really missing from my life. I feel like I'm wasting so much time.


I'm sorry you feel this way, I've felt similar in the past, and I get what you're saying. I never know how to describe that thing that's missing but my best way to describe it is that I feel like there's something I should be doing or somewhere/someone I need to be.

I've talked to multiple therapists and they never help, the only thing that helped me move on is myself. Figuring out things by myself, learning myself more, becoming more in touch with yourself.

If you feel like something is missing then you need to take initiative and figure that out for you. Talk to friends more, get outside and be active more, but other than just taking care of yourself and making yourself happier through health, you also have to learn a lot of things by yourself.

Some things I've learned about my life that have helped me are that:

When I get upset with someone I immediately shut them out and ignore talking to them about anything, and I always look back wishing I had talked to them. I started being more open with people and more honest. I don't get as emotional around people as I used to.

If there's ever a time I feel like my friends or just other people are doing something fun without me a.k.a the feeling of loneliness, I just remember that other people do fun things but so do I. Everyone's life is boring at times, and fun at times. You just have to take those fun times and shape them by yourself. I used to always feel like shit whenever I thought of my friends hanging out but then I realized that's just one time, I can't be there for everything. And other people feel like this too, people are soceial creatures.

I used to think that a lot of people didn't like me, and that made me prone to acting out more often, even in public. For example, in class I would target people and indirectly or passive aggressively attack them making them seem stupider than me or things like that, whereas now I realize I was the reason I thought people disliked me, my behavior. It wasn't me they disliked, it was how I reacted to everything so harshly(I didn't think I was being harsh but everyone has a point of view) and how I would always need to take a chill pill. Now I try to take everything objectively and I'm a lot more of a positive person and while I may still not have very many friends I'm more respected in the places I go than I used to be.

I hope some of these can help you come to some conclusions about yourself but the bottom line is change isn't something that will come knocking on your door, you have to create it, make the change. While it may take time and be a very hard challenge, it's so rewarding in the end. I've been to some very low points in my life, I was placed on a 51/50 hold and that was only a year ago. I'd say that right now is probably the second happiest point in my life though(#1 being Japan 2 years ago.)

Hope some of this information helped
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Posted 4/23/17 , edited 4/24/17

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MrEnder1337 wrote:
But I do agree older men should not be requesting sex from underaged girls or girls who are under 20 and the age gap is to large.
But younger women should also not be going after older men when they are underage which happens very often as well.


EmpressNeroFlowerofRome wrote:
If it were that easy, CR would be safer. I know of some guys here who make tons of side accounts and lie about their ages.


This conversation is going quite off-topic. Please stop it here.


Oh, I'm sorry.
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Oh, I'm sorry.


You're fine. You're on topic. I was just asking the folks veering off in a completely different direction to halt that part of the conversation.
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Thank you everyone for posting, I'm reading all your comments.
To stay on topic I plan on going back to school coming up, I've just dealt with a lot of family problems 2 days ago with my future in-laws.

I was yelled at my my boyfriends mother for no reason and decided to leave, Now that I'm away after next week with a vacation to the keys at the tip of florida, I will move back into my boyfriends apartment with them. Although I will get out more, Whenever he is working I'll be a school studying or doing whatever else.
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you should go travelling .

see the world, broaden your mind , switch a mood.
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What you need is dopamine. Have sex, do excersize, make small goals in your day to day things and achieve them.


Exercise can make someone feel more miserable

If she has a boyfriend she is probably already having sex.... so
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eggrollsama wrote:

I have been dealing with depression and stress for years, I have a boyfriend I'm very close with and parents I text once a day, but I still don't feel like I'm doing enough for myself. I'm in my second year of college & stoped taking classes but my parents don't know that, I'm only 50% done.

I have a lot of problems, I'm really glad I came to CR, I found many different people to talk to on here. But something is really missing from my life. I feel like I'm wasting so much time.




Hmm i think the feeling of missing something is natural humans tend to look for meaning in life when meaning doesn't exist in the first place....you need to find a reason to live or else you will feel forever sad.

Though some of us can't find reason to live and "meaning" in our lives ( i'm one of them) so it makes life hard.

If you don't feel like your doing enough for yourself try to do more if you can't take a step back and keep this in mind.....your going to die in the end anyway no matter how much you try or whatever efforts you make you will be forgotten and it's all worthless in the end.

(whilst this is the exact reason i'm depressed) many people seem to somehow take pleasure and comfort in this as it allows them to take a step back and realise nothing matters so just take things on step at a time and have as much fun as you can and to enjoy your life.

I don't know you personally so i can't help you much whilst i'm good at giving life advice like anyone not knowing someone makes it hard to give advice.

First thing you need to do imo is track down where this discomfort is coming from and you have you feel like your not doing enough well what can you do to solve this do you have any ideas?

If no problem solve and try to think of solutions ask friends if life has taught me anything friends know you better then you do yourself sometimes and they are the best people to goto for problems
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Exercise can make someone feel more miserable

If she has a boyfriend she is probably already having sex.... so


Obviously not very good sex. Make it kinkier.
And explain how exercise can make someone more miserable o.0
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I´m sorry to hear you´ve been through some rough times. Happy to hear you´re making progress. Keep fighting
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HateKillingCamels wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

Exercise can make someone feel more miserable

If she has a boyfriend she is probably already having sex.... so


Obviously not very good sex. Make it kinkier.
And explain how exercise can make someone more miserable o.0


Exercise can make one feel down and just meh.

Everytime i exercise i feel stressed annoyed and moody it's miserable xD
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Exercise can make one feel down and just meh.

Everytime i exercise i feel stressed annoyed and moody it's miserable xD


I mean, you need to get past the initial "I'm an unfit shit and can't even run up stairs excersize sucks" stage, I suppose.
But you've always got the other option.
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HateKillingCamels wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

Exercise can make one feel down and just meh.

Everytime i exercise i feel stressed annoyed and moody it's miserable xD


I mean, you need to get past the initial "I'm an unfit shit and can't even run up stairs excersize sucks" stage, I suppose.
But you've always got the other option.


Luckily for me i'm not at that stage haha.
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Exercise can make someone feel more miserable


Generally this is untrue, obviously everyone is different and each person has their own feelings doing certain things.
http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/exercise-depression#1 this explains that a little bit.

When I go to the gym a few times per week I feel way better in general. A feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction eventhough I am quite the downer as a person.
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