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Wife gains 65 pounds, husband no longer attracted to her.
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If your significant other gained 60-100 lbs would you start to find them unattractive/less attractive? Would you consider leaving them if they got fat enough?

Is drugging your significant other into finding you attractive even moral? Could it be considered a type of rape?
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I wonder what she weighed at the start. 65 pounds though that's a large gain.
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Ashliet wrote:

I wonder what she weighed at the start. 65 pounds though that's a large gain.


Dunno but that is a big change. Personally I can't date fat people because I find fat to be disgusting.
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I might consider them unattractive/less attractive physically, it all really depends on the circumstance (Initial size, etc) but 60-100 lbs is indeed quite a bit. Now, I don't want to get swarmed by 100 angry internet fists, so to clarify i'm strictly talking about physical attraction/sexual attraction. This by no means directly attributes to loving them any less as far as their persona/way of being goes. I also wouldn't leave someone solely for that reason, now if that happening caused other things to transpire from it indirectly, I just might.

Essentially, if the sole thing that changed was their size, I probably wouldn't be leaving them for that, although I can not control what I am/am not attracted to physically.

P.S. This is speaking from the circumstance if I were to be married.
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I say she should dump him and get herself a real man
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Hell, I'm losing weight before I go out on the hunt for a date... and I'm a straight guy. Most straight guys don't give a fuck....

And here she is bitching about him not being attracted to her anymore because she put on what I am trying to lose...

I feel like I fell through Alice's looking glass reading that article.

Shit, 65lbs being added on... unless she was like 100 lbs before hand... she's likely in the medically established morbidly obese range by now.

I don't blame her husband at all on this one.

As for rape... I think people need to cool it with that word. Some people using it out there clearly don't understand what it means. They are the equivilant of the fat dude from Princess Bride using the word Inconceivable all the time.
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I say she should dump him and get herself a real man


No.... she should lose some weight. 65 lbs of weight gain is not healthy for almost anyone. Unless she was thinner than a rail beforehand... she is likely morbidly obese now, and no one should force that on their significant other.

She's lucky he was honest with her at all what with the way he probably knew how it would turn out.
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I might consider them unattractive/less attractive physically, it all really depends on the circumstance (Initial size, etc) but 60-100 lbs is indeed quite a bit. Now, I don't want to get swarmed by 100 angry internet fists, so to clarify i'm strictly talking about physical attraction/sexual attraction. This by no means directly attributes to loving them any less as far as their persona/way of being goes. I also wouldn't leave someone solely for that reason, now if that happening caused other things to transpire from it indirectly, I just might.

Essentially, if the sole thing that changed was their size, I probably wouldn't be leaving them for that, although I can not control what I am/am not attracted to physically.

P.S. This is speaking from the circumstance if I were to be married.


I think the main thing to take away from here is that he still loves her for her, but she is now ugly to him because she turned herself into an ogre...
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She can do whatever she wants with her body, but yelling at your husband and forcing him to have sex with you sounds suspiciously like spousal rape.
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Hell, I'm losing weight before I go out on the hunt for a date... and I'm a straight guy. Most straight guys don't give a fuck....

And here she is bitching about him not being attracted to her anymore because she put on what I am trying to lose...

I feel like I fell through Alice's looking glass reading that article.

Shit, 65lbs being added on... unless she was like 100 lbs before hand... she's likely in the medically established morbidly obese range by now.

I don't blame her husband at all on this one.

As for rape... I think people need to cool it with that word. Some people using it out there clearly don't understand what it means. They are the equivilant of the fat dude from Princess Bride using the word Inconceivable all the time.


What I am referring to is the fact that the guy does not want to have sex with her. In order to get him to want to have sex with her the guy needs to be drugged. Only after being drugged does he want to have sex with her. If they weren't married, and the sexes were reversed, this would be a rape case right away.

Also good for you trying to lose weight! You feel so much better without it on. 20-30lbs made me feel like shit. Idk how people can stand more than that.
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CrownedSonofFire wrote:


uncletim wrote:

I say she should dump him and get herself a real man


No.... she should lose some weight. 65 lbs of weight gain is not healthy for almost anyone. Unless she was thinner than a rail beforehand... she is likely morbidly obese now, and no one should force that on their significant other.

She's lucky he was honest with her at all what with the way he probably knew how it would turn out.


It doesn't say how much she weighed at the beginning what if she had been unhealthy under weight with a eating disorder she said she was miserable and I would bet money he was no prize catch either

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Yes? It's a valid reason.

You are attracted to something, it changes significantly, you may not be attracted anymore. You don't change what you are attracted to. That's one good advice we can take away from good ol' gay conversion therapies.
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uncletim wrote:


CrownedSonofFire wrote:


uncletim wrote:

I say she should dump him and get herself a real man


No.... she should lose some weight. 65 lbs of weight gain is not healthy for almost anyone. Unless she was thinner than a rail beforehand... she is likely morbidly obese now, and no one should force that on their significant other.

She's lucky he was honest with her at all what with the way he probably knew how it would turn out.


It doesn't say how much she weighed at the beginning what if she had been unhealthy under weight with a eating disorder she said she was miserable and I would bet money he was no prize catch either



It's kind of pointless guessing these things without knowing these people. Your better off assuming they were average weight as a starting point.
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CrownedSonofFire wrote:

Hell, I'm losing weight before I go out on the hunt for a date... and I'm a straight guy. Most straight guys don't give a fuck....

And here she is bitching about him not being attracted to her anymore because she put on what I am trying to lose...

I feel like I fell through Alice's looking glass reading that article.

Shit, 65lbs being added on... unless she was like 100 lbs before hand... she's likely in the medically established morbidly obese range by now.

I don't blame her husband at all on this one.

As for rape... I think people need to cool it with that word. Some people using it out there clearly don't understand what it means. They are the equivilant of the fat dude from Princess Bride using the word Inconceivable all the time.


What I am referring to is the fact that the guy does not want to have sex with her. In order to get him to want to have sex with her the guy needs to be drugged. Only after being drugged does he want to have sex with her. If they weren't married, and the sexes were reversed, this would be a rape case right away.


Oh, I totally agree. It's just... as a victim of it myself as a child, I just don't really care much for the constant use of the word by society in general. Shitty as that may sound to some people, I feel I have earned the right to not give a fuck...

Not saying I think it's okay to rape or anything like that. I just... think people need to learn to move on and focus on more important things. Like the continued existence of the world wide cancer known as the human race.

Hate me all you will internet. People are starting to care less about others problems because you all gripe about them too much. By simply making an issue out of something terrible all the time you desensitize people to the issue itself to the point where the word loses meaning.

But I do agree with you. If the roles were reversed, it would be rape charges all over the place... which just goes to prove that I am right and that people should learn to just chill and deal with the problems as they happen instead of trying to proactively keep them from happening in the first place. Not ideal for some people because their fee fees can't handle it, but again, rape victim here. So I earned my right to have my say in the matter.
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uncletim wrote:


CrownedSonofFire wrote:


uncletim wrote:

I say she should dump him and get herself a real man


No.... she should lose some weight. 65 lbs of weight gain is not healthy for almost anyone. Unless she was thinner than a rail beforehand... she is likely morbidly obese now, and no one should force that on their significant other.

She's lucky he was honest with her at all what with the way he probably knew how it would turn out.


It doesn't say how much she weighed at the beginning what if she had been unhealthy under weight with a eating disorder she said she was miserable and I would bet money he was no prize catch either



Then you didn't thoroughly read the article posted. Read again. I'll wait for you to make the corrections you need to make to your errors here.
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