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Posted 5/27/17 , edited 6/3/17
Why is everyone assuming she's suddenly obese? That she's one of those entitled Tumblr people that yell "don't fatshame me!"

She didn't give enough information. Was she 100 pounds before and now she's 165 (a completely normal weight) or was she normal before and now she's morbidly obese (which then I would understand the husband)

She needs to find balance, it's not one or the other, gym everyday no life, never gym eat shit everyday, no. You eat healthy and let yourself go /once in a while/.

Either normal or morbidly obese, the husband should have communicated with her and been straight up, "listen. i don't find you attractive right now, let's talk about what we can do together." And her reaction depends on how much she weighs. If she is obese, she needs to change because her husband is right to not feel attracted to her. If she's in a normal weight, then the husband just married her for her looks and is an idiot.
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165 would be normal if she were between 5 foot 10 and 6 foot 8. We do not know, though, except that she suddenly engaged in Health at Every Size, which glorifies fat people.
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Ashliet wrote:

I wonder what she weighed at the start. 65 pounds though that's a large gain.


Dunno but that is a big change. Personally I can't date fat people because I find fat to be disgusting.


ROFL, and your profile picture name Wendy, named after a fast food place! :p Maybe that where she went to gain 65 pound! lol
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Rujikin wrote:


Ashliet wrote:

I wonder what she weighed at the start. 65 pounds though that's a large gain.


Dunno but that is a big change. Personally I can't date fat people because I find fat to be disgusting.


ROFL, and your profile picture name Wendy, named after a fast food place! :p Maybe that where she went to gain 65 pound! lol


Wendys has some healthier options...
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I personally agree with the husband in this scenario, the wife has no right to expect him to have sex with her or to find her physically attractive. And if it were me I would have left at the beginning of the weight gain, I lead an extremely healthy lifestyle. And a woman who can't put down the sixth helping of pudding deserves only my scorn.

And if she can't get off her over fed behind to hit the gym every once and awhile she is even more deserving of scorn. I mean really what useless bleeding heart thinks she deserves pity. She suddenly decides lard is a perfectly acceptable condiment and I am suppose to cheer for her?

Also as a side note unless the wife is 175 cm (5'9) or taller she is a fat whale assuming she was 45 kg ( 100 lbs) before the weight gain.
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why don't they just go to the gym and eat healthy together?
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why don't they just go to the gym and eat healthy together?


Same reason the woman can't stop eating Big Macs, sheer laziness and force of habit at this point. Overweight people are always lazy and or short sighted.
Posted 5/27/17 , edited 5/27/17

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Robotechy wrote:

why don't they just go to the gym and eat healthy together?


Same reason the woman can't stop eating Big Macs, sheer laziness and force of habit at this point. Overweight people are always lazy and or short sighted.


Ah, I was just thinking it would be more motivational with another person. Also

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hvOEIKmgHow&index=2&list=PLBgPyCITRU0iicOYBJ5crnOjTVviHSiGW

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Posted 5/27/17

Ranwolf wrote:


Robotechy wrote:

why don't they just go to the gym and eat healthy together?


Same reason the woman can't stop eating Big Macs, sheer laziness and force of habit at this point. Overweight people are always lazy and or short sighted.


You've noticed that up in Canada as well? I was wondering if it was just 'Muricans.
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You've noticed that up in Canada as well? I was wondering if it was just 'Muricans.


Nope it's really a first world problem. And a very sad commentary on the first world at that.


Robotechy wrote:


Ah, I was just thinking it would be more motivational with another person. Also

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hvOEIKmgHow&index=2&list=PLBgPyCITRU0iicOYBJ5crnOjTVviHSiGW

cot dammit Elizabeth


Well that was okay until the throwing up part, damn and I thought I've seen some hardcore personal trainers.
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I say she should dump him and get herself a real man


haha yes real men find physically attractive and morbidly obese physiques equally desirable. It doesn't matter if ladylove cuts her hair and looks like a linebacker. He should want her just as much.

And when he puts on eighty pounds, scratches and stinks of sweat, downs a soda and then does his best impression of a bullfrog ... it should turn her on.

Gluttony is a sin, dude.
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it's not surprising that her husband didn't feel physically attracted to her - she was obese after the weight gain.
you don't just gain 65 pound overnight though. makes you wonder what caused the weight gain, and why her husband said nothing until much later.


Um... read the article. She's on the HAES diet. (Heathy at Every Size)

Essentially she is on the see food eat food diet.

Of course she's gonna gain weight.

As for why didn't her husband say anything sooner.

Guys and Gays reading this, please confirm. Would you ever tell your significant other that they are getting fat and not expect it to go horribly?

If you think I am being ridiculous here... I have bad news for you. #1 question to never answer honestly ever, at all, is if a pair of pants make their ass look fat. Gay couples might have this one easier than the straight couples. I'm not sure. I just know that some homosexual males make a bigger deal out of this too sometimes. At least, a few that I know personally and game with.

Shit, I made a mention that one of the fellas was looking a bit bigger lately... that went over about as well as telling a woman that her pants make her ass look fat...

Get my drift?
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Rujikin wrote:


JanusCascade wrote:


Rujikin wrote:


Ashliet wrote:

I wonder what she weighed at the start. 65 pounds though that's a large gain.


Dunno but that is a big change. Personally I can't date fat people because I find fat to be disgusting.


ROFL, and your profile picture name Wendy, named after a fast food place! :p Maybe that where she went to gain 65 pound! lol


Wendys has some healthier options...


Is that with or without a large soda on the side?
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Posted 5/27/17 , edited 5/28/17
She should've restrained her reaction and not blown up the way she did, much less, publicly shame him like this! He literally has to take boner pills to have sex with her. This is hardly a case of someone faking a lack of physical unattraction out of spite, or anything! The fact that he tried to break it to her gently and offered to drug himself should've clued her in on how much he cares about her. Honestly, were I in his shoes, I would scratch this story off as the last straw, and divorce my spouse's selfish ass. I expect a certain amount of anger on her end (after all, it's painful to hear somthing like that); however, airing the dirty laundry like this is beyond the pale, and demonstrates that she has little regard for him.
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Why is everyone assuming she's suddenly obese? That she's one of those entitled Tumblr people that yell "don't fatshame me!"

She didn't give enough information. Was she 100 pounds before and now she's 165 (a completely normal weight) or was she normal before and now she's morbidly obese (which then I would understand the husband)

She needs to find balance, it's not one or the other, gym everyday no life, never gym eat shit everyday, no. You eat healthy and let yourself go /once in a while/.

Either normal or morbidly obese, the husband should have communicated with her and been straight up, "listen. i don't find you attractive right now, let's talk about what we can do together." And her reaction depends on how much she weighs. If she is obese, she needs to change because her husband is right to not feel attracted to her. If she's in a normal weight, then the husband just married her for her looks and is an idiot.


Judging from how she described her previous diet, no she was probably not at 100 lbs. I approached this somewhat like you did, but thinking on it some more, I have come to realize that she couldn't be 100lbs. 100lbs is the size of a child for god sakes.

She would have to have been around 130-140lbs, as is a rather reasonable figure. If she is less than so be it, but assuming for a moment that she was anywhere near a skinny but healthy weight range for anyone 5'6 or so, then it would make sense if she became ugly at 45-65lbs of weight added to whatever she was at.

She would have to be almost 6 feet tall or taller for 45 to 65lbs of weight gain to not make her immediately ugly. With that in mind, she is more likely in the 5 foot to 5 foot 6 inches range. Why this range? It's a fair average height for women, and is a common height for people to become morbidly obese with just 50 or so lbs of weight gain from a healthy weight of like 150.

Plus if the weight is more fat than muscle then it won't have shape, it will just be blob. Which compounds the ugliness.

Seeing as how she went on the Haes diet, meaning eat anything in sight really... she probably just put on fat not muscle.

So, it is fairly safe to assume that she was somewhere in 130-160lbs before the change in diet, as that is a healthy weight range for the average female height, and going from that, 65lbs of extra weight puts her at 195lbs at bare minimum which is well into morbidly obese range. Maybe not "The Biggest Loser" tv show kind of big, but still pretty husky in the belly and the buttsky.

So, unless she is some 4 foot little person which makes anything below 130lbs make sense... but still doesn't help her on the weight gain and thus obese scale... she's likely 5'6" or so. If she's taller and somehow still less than 140lbs at that point, she was starting off skinny as a rail. If this were the case, then some extra pounds wouldn't be so bad if they were added on in a mindful manner so as to not make ones self lumpy...

But seeing as how he lost attraction to her, it's safe to say she made herself ugly. If she made herself ugly, then she was probably shorter than the taller possibility.

Thus, she's probably a 5'6" 220lbs ogre right now, and acting like she expects to be loved like she were still not an ugly troll.
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