Post Reply I have extreme paranoia, and don't know how to deal with it.
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Don't know where else to post this, just have to get it out. I'd appreciate some tips regarding my problem.

So my paranoia isn't something crazy like me thinking I'm being hunted, or that I feel like the world is against me. It's simply that even after 5 months in a relationship, I still don't trust my girlfriend's affection towards me. I somehow believe in my mind that she's faking it, even though the most skilled actor can't fake the love she's given/shown me. I'm completely aware of how stupid this is, but I can't change the way I think of it.
Every time I ask her over, and she says no (for various logical reasons), I instantly believe that she doesn't like me anymore, and my day/week is literally ruined by me being in conflict over it.
I haven't told her about it, in fear that she thinks I'm crazy, and I wasn't aware myself of this before now, since it's my first girlfriend.

So people of crunchyroll, anyone else felt like this before, and know how to deal with it? I'd rather avoid going to a therapist for something this stupid..
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Communication. That is all.
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Paranoia like that is often symptomatic of a mental issue. I would recommend you do actually see a therapist if it's ruining your relationships--unless you think this is exclusive to this particular relationship and instead a symptom of distrust.

I certainly feel that way sometimes, but I also have a chronic anxiety disorder.

Best thing you can do on your own is get a healthy amount of sleep and exercise.

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Ryuouka wrote:

Don't know where else to post this, just have to get it out. I'd appreciate some tips regarding my problem.

So my paranoia isn't something crazy like me thinking I'm being hunted, or that I feel like the world is against me. It's simply that even after 5 months in a relationship, I still don't trust my girlfriend's affection towards me. I somehow believe in my mind that she's faking it, even though the most skilled actor can't fake the love she's given/shown me. I'm completely aware of how stupid this is, but I can't change the way I think of it.
Every time I ask her over, and she says no (for various logical reasons), I instantly believe that she doesn't like me anymore, and my day/week is literally ruined by me being in conflict over it.
I haven't told her about it, in fear that she thinks I'm crazy, and I wasn't aware myself of this before now, since it's my first girlfriend.

So people of crunchyroll, anyone else felt like this before, and know how to deal with it? I'd rather avoid going to a therapist for something this stupid..


I've moved this to the Advice, Info, Recommendations forum.

I don't have much advice, but one thing I will say is , tell your girlfriend about it. That' s because if your paranoid feelings show for no reason she's probably going to be able to handle only so much of that and you could lose her. But if you let her know you have the problem, are aware it's a problem, and are trying to figure out a way to resolve it, she'll probably be more patient and and can become more of a real partner helping you work things out and find a solution.
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I think that what you are feeling right now is pretty normal, because she is your first girlfriend and you are "Crazy in Love."

"Got me looking so crazy right now
Your love's got me looking so crazy right now (your love)
Got me looking so crazy right now
Your touch got me looking so crazy right now (your touch)..."



I remember my first long time ago *sigh*, it was really really intense what I felt back then, and what I learnt from the experience is that you shouldn't let your emotions get out of control, which is what I think is happening to you right now.

So, I suggest you to relax a bit I don't think to much about it, and to just enjoy what I believe is one of the best experience in life of any person: the First Love.

Now if you excuse me I'm gonna watch some porn to recover my masculinity.
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