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Post Reply Is it better to have an idealistic or a realistic relationship?
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/2/17
What do you think?

Give me your honest and personal opinions!



It's great to have an ideal spouse. But I am talking about an ideal relationship where a person standards are high and superficial. Just my opinion though.
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17
thats hot.










and realistic is better. marriage is one person doing all the work. in a good marriage, the two switch off caryying it all.
in a bad marriage, only one ever works at it.
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17

nemoskull wrote:

thats hot.





......How hot?
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17

ronin99 wrote:


nemoskull wrote:

thats hot.





......How hot?



Werina hot.
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Posted 6/1/17
a realistic relationship can be ideal too
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17
I think it's best to not lower one's expectations, (provided they aren't unobtainable expectations to begin with), but I think it's also important to have a real relationship over one that is merely playing out a fantasy for individuals involved.










mind you, this comes from a man who refuses to lower his expectations and has been (contently) single for a long long long time...
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Posted 6/1/17
2D > 3D
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17
why not both?
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probably more realistic to have a realistic one but if can have idealistic one then why not of course what counts as such varies from person to person
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Posted 6/1/17
Well, if you want to be miserable definitely shoot for the unrealistic goal of an idealistic relationship.

So in most cases, I would say realistic.
But I would say if you are the kind of person who isn't looking for something long term, and just kinda want to have someone for a part of your life, then perhaps having that ideal person would be it. Cos usually idealistic relationships are great during the romantic period, but once life crashes it the cracks will begin to show... But for a brief period, an idealistic relationship would be quite fun.

However, morally it's a little grey, as you are then using someone with no intention of moving on, which can be kinda messed up. Also once the relationship is over and you've had your fun, trying to find the "realistic" person you can spend your life with is just gonna be harder. (You now have someone to compare to; which being a short-term ideal relationship, the bar in your mind would be very high still)
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I don't understand your question. Are you saying that you have an ideal partner in mind and you won't stop searching until you find a person that checks all of these idealistic boxes?
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I think people can be unrealistic in different ways.

They can be unrealistic about what kind of partner is compatible with them. This might affect who they choose to date.

They can also have unrealistic expectations of a relationship in progress.

I think for a relationship to make it past the forty year mark and beyond, there have to be many, many compromises--with your partner, with reality, and with your own expectations.

That said, I don't have much experience.
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Posted 6/1/17 , edited 6/1/17
I dated a girl who thought real relationships should be like the ones in every single romantic comedy she ever saw.
Today we are not together. Wanna guess why?
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Posted 6/1/17
idealistic, that way i can live with my waifu forever
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Posted 6/1/17
I prefer idealistic, but that's mostly because my idea of an idealistic relationship isn't too much of a challenge to obtain, especially since I won't have to date women.

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