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The same times it's okay for anyone to cry: when in extreme pain, when confronted with loss of something dear, or during the episode of Futurama with Fry's dog.
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The expectation that you can't show emotions in order to be a "real man" is harmful to both you and your loved ones (and the health of any future romantic relationships you may have). You can look up "toxic masculinity" on Google for more information. If your parents are telling you that there are "wrong times" to cry (or to express any other emotion you feel), you should seek guidance from someone more in touch with how emotions work and the science of psychology. There is no such thing as a wrong emotion and suppressing your emotions will hurt your mental health. It is better to find positive, healthy outlets to talk about and express your emotions. If you are having trouble doing this, a therapist may be able to help.

I'm a man. I don't believe in thinking anyone is "not manly enough." This is a poisonous concept, part of the patriarchal nature of our society in which it is accepted (by some people) that women are weak and too emotional (the opposite of men) and to give men an excuse for supporting a cruel society in which leadership rolls are only assigned to men and women can be freely abused, seen as property, objectified as sex objects, paid less, and have their reproductive choices controlled by someone else.

I highly recommend researching this topic yourself and talking about it with the women in your life (remember to listen respectfully to what they have to say, even if it is contrary to your world view and try not to "mansplain". There are also many college courses you can take on the subject within the field of women's studies.
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everytime you read a h-doujinshi
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Crying is for women.
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Funerals, when laughing, dog dies.
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I think a man should cry when ever he feels like it. It takes a real man to show his feelings and not give a damn about social norms.
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Crying is the body's way of getting rid of excess emotion. Tears from different emotions have different chemical makeups (which is super cool but that's not the point). People cry because they are feeling so much that they simply can't hold onto it all. That's why you feel better after crying!
Crying is natural. Crying is important. It's stupid that people teach boys and men not to cry! It's always okay to cry. This goes for anyone and everyone! There's no shame in having emotions. There's no shame in being a human being.
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All this "toxic emasculated attitude" is almost distracting.
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When ever they feel like crying.
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When Gandalf dies.
When Seymour dies.

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Unless he's being a spoiled brat that is the only time the cry of a man is not OK.
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I've never seen a man cry before.
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starshots wrote:

I've never seen a man cry before.


It's a truly undignified display.
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I agree the passing of a loved one might very well be the only good reason. Even then guys I know including myself, do not shed tears at the funerals. The family is looking at us to lean on and give them re-assurance. It sucks, we want to let it all out, but that is the role of a man in the family. And shedding tears will not help a difficult situation.
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Well, technically, I know a man ain't supposed to cry, but these tears I can't hold inside--
Losing you would end my life you see, 'cause you mean that much to me.

(And why do I suddenly have a craving for raisins?)
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