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When is OK for a man to cry?
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Just depends, every guy has different emotions we are all not the same when it comes to crying and showing emotion
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eh, just cry when something hurt you or you are suffering :'c
it's not good to bottle up your emotions. crying is not a sign of weakness! </3
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Judging a man for crying is like judging a man for not crying. Men are not carbon copies of each other either--pretending they are makes one appear a fool within knowledge of biology and genetics.

Additionally, it's psychologically destructive to condition a male into withholding his display of emotion. The emotions have to be relieved, and if they are repressed relief comes in the form of alcohol, verbal or physical aggression, etc. Females have more communicative methods and are more verbally able to defuse their emotional outlets, additionally they are evolutionary pressured to cry in order to lower the testosterone of surrounding males during distress to induce their empathy.

Think of the extreme, autism has well documented reduced ability to socially communicate, and people with the disorder resort to self stimulation methods to diffuse their emotional states--be it excitement, anger, sadness etc. The body and biology of a human requires an outlet for emotional distress and stripping a male of his healthy preferred means of relief often lends to destructive (including self destructive) means of doing so. Males that are forcibly emotionally repressed are much more prone to psychological disorders.

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TheAngryLittleAlchemist wrote:


karatecowboy wrote:


TheAngryLittleAlchemist wrote:

I always found it weird that a lot of the toxic masculine ideas people expressed have never been said around me, even when living in a south western conservative state. Id say its ok any time


I cried reading this.

For shame...


What? im just saying crying any time is fine...


Well, if that's true, then it's OK for me to cry at this poisonous ideology about "toxic masculinity" being embraced, right?

Out of curiosity: Would you say that toxic femininity exists? If so, how would you describe it, and it's negative effects?
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PrinceJudar wrote:

Judging a man for crying is like judging a man for not crying. Men are not carbon copies of each other either--pretending they are makes one appear a fool within knowledge of biology and genetics.

Additionally, it's psychologically destructive to condition a male into withholding his display of emotion. The emotions have to be relieved, and if they are repressed relief comes in the form of alcohol, verbal or physical aggression, etc. Females have more communicative methods and are more verbally able to defuse their emotional outlets, additionally they are evolutionary pressured to cry in order to lower the testosterone of surrounding males during distress to induce their empathy.

Think of the extreme, autism has well documented reduced ability to socially communicate, and people with the disorder resort to self stimulation methods to diffuse their emotional states--be it excitement, anger, sadness etc. The body and biology of a human requires an outlet for emotional distress and stripping a male of his healthy preferred means of relief often lends to destructive (including self destructive) means of doing so. Males that are forcibly emotionally repressed are much more prone to psychological disorders.



If you don't rule your emotions then they will rule you. So many people today buy into the foolish idea that displaying your emotions is inherently healthy. It's not. There are a myriad of healthy ways to express your emotions, but an infinite list of unhealthy and destructive ways to express your emotions. Like the old saying goes: nobody cares about your feelings.
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karatecowboy wrote:
If you don't rule your emotions then they will rule you. So many people today buy into the foolish idea that displaying your emotions is inherently healthy. It's not. There are a myriad of healthy ways to express your emotions, but an infinite list of unhealthy and destructive ways to express your emotions. Like the old saying goes: nobody cares about your feelings.


Displaying and verbalizing emotions is healthy, if there's a legitimate problem with frequency then that eludes to an underlying psychological disorder that needs to be treated--the crying is a symptom not the problem.

Repressing the display of emotion and addressing the cause of the distress are two very different ideas. Telling someone to simply 'suck it up' versus telling them how a situation isn't as bad as they are making out to be are two very different things. The former telling the individual to hide their distress and the other addressing the source of distress. As for a myriad of healthy manners of expressing emotion, I clearly agreed with that statement. Verbal communication and crying are such methods--but so too are others which is why I said judging a man for not crying is as foolish as judging a man for crying. Our threshold for tears are biologically and genetically different, and the act alone does not warrant the judgement that one male is more distressed than the other.

It's like having two children and the girl is crying--and then assuming the boy isn't upset as well or is less so because he's not crying and is instead furiously rubbing his arm with a down turned expression.

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Maybe when you find that really sad anime and then THAT moment comes up.
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I do believe men should be encouraged to cry more, however I do not believe every situation is the right moment to cry. As for when that is the right and wrong time, I suppose that is out of our control.

Edit: I personally don't cry often and I'm sure some around me would like to see me cry more. I honestly do believe I do have tears to be shed, I just do not know when they will be shed. Giving up control is not something that can be forced. When it happens, it will happen.
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depends on the time and place if for example as one of the examples used you see a friend die in combat you shouldn't laydown and start crying like a baby or similar situation. but if not endangering yourself or someone else like at the funeral of a loved one then sure cry as much as you want though personally i do a see a pattern where guys generally aren't so prown to full blown tears which i think is a bit more biological then culture despite what some people claim for one thing male tear ducts are larger so its takes more to produce enough tears to really get a river flowing.
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Tbh I dunno how a guy could avoid crying after watching anohanna, clannad afterstory or angel beats
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When ever he feels like crying geesh.
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karatecowboy wrote:

Well, if that's true, then it's OK for me to cry at this poisonous ideology about "toxic masculinity" being embraced, right?

Out of curiosity: Would you say that toxic femininity exists? If so, how would you describe it, and it's negative effects?


My point was literally that toxic masculinity is an overblown concept that does not exist on the same large scale most people believe it to be... You would have known that if you'd learn how to read.

Stop making this thread about gender dynamics. Yes, Men and Women have differences but that does not mean that Men should not be able to cry when they feel like it. Even though the original question was considering gender dynamics, you are going around slinging a bunch of pointless arguments like " UGH, "toxic masculinity"" or "lmao ya men can cry its not like different genders have different feelings" . God, Anti-SJWs can be just as sensitive as Sjws

and Yeah toxic femininity can be a thing. Any idea can be used toxicly.
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Crying to cartoons is the only thing that is okay
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when he takes a difficult shit, it finally comes out and then they cry tears of joy
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I'm crying right now.
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