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Posted 6/28/17

jaragnaros wrote:

A major problem with that is men have a bad rep on this site for harassing women, what started out as that "lets be friends" became "send nudes". Suffice to say the female CR community was not happy about that one bit. Honestly if it hadn't been ruined I'd have been willing to try and find a nice girl on here, alas the chances are too low now.


That's a problem everywhere honestly, so go figure. Simply do what you want and don't let other shit get in the way. As long as you aren't being a douche or creepy. As for nudes, its silly and an embarrassment for everyone.
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I wish there was a actual dating site to find someone that enjoys anime. Like i know there have been some pop up but their garbage and are just bullshit filled spam sites in my experience. Like with crunchyroll having millions of users it would be kick ass if there was some sort of friend finding tab lol. even to find plain friends would be nice too. what yall think on it? i just was thinking about it when i saw movie night with ancient magus bride coming up but then thought that going to that alone being a male of 30 years id look like a pathetic dweeb lol. then i was like that would be a perfect anime date! to bad CR doesnt have anything of the sorts


CR wasn't ever intended to be used for hooking people up, come for anime and hopefully some friendly chitchat. While they could try to add something to the site to meet that criteria it's not really worth it, too many unknowns with internet dating, especially when the male community doesn't have a sparkling reputation on the site.
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Posted 6/28/17

EternalVerity wrote:


jaragnaros wrote:

A major problem with that is men have a bad rep on this site for harassing women, what started out as that "lets be friends" became "send nudes". Suffice to say the female CR community was not happy about that one bit. Honestly if it hadn't been ruined I'd have been willing to try and find a nice girl on here, alas the chances are too low now.


That's a problem everywhere honestly, so go figure. Simply do what you want and don't let other shit get in the way. As long as you aren't being a douche or creepy. As for nudes, its silly and an embarrassment for everyone.


Let's just stick to the old fashioned method, go out and meet a girl, doesn't hurt to dream your destined guy/gal is on CR though, just don't count on it
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jaragnaros wrote:

Let's just stick to the old fashioned method, go out and meet a girl, doesn't hurt to dream your destined guy/gal is on CR though, just don't count on it


Cheers to that, my friend. Keep it simple and in person, or learn to be happily single.

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My biggest issue is in Mississippi i cant mention anime to 90 percent of the women you start talking to. You either get looked at funny or laughed at. Kind sucks especially since anime is slowly becoming more main stream and even being made into hollywood movies some women still look at it like its cartoons lol. i was just wishing upon a star kinda. i know it wouldnt work out easily but it would be great to think you could log in click 10 animes you love 10 you hate and be matched with a few dozen girls within 100 miles to chat with lol...
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Posted 6/29/17 , edited 6/29/17

jaragnaros wrote:


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I mean, you could try to just meet some girls on here and work through a friendship, and see where it goes? I wish you luck, dating websites and online dating is a waste of time anyway, in my opinion.


A major problem with that is men have a bad rep on this site for harassing women, what started out as that "lets be friends" became "send nudes". Suffice to say the female CR community was not happy about that one bit. Honestly if it hadn't been ruined I'd have been willing to try and find a nice girl on here, alas the chances are too low now.


You do realize a large section of this community is individuals under the age of 25. But I feel that issue you spoke of is largely being perpetrated by young males under 20. High school kids with too much time, raging hormones, and ignorance of how to go about speaking to women are not a good combination.

On topic OP I believe that basing a relationship on something as superficial as liking anime will lead to an utter train wreck of a relationship. You should focus on finding a woman that shares the same values as you first. You could always filter out the women by asking them if they are interested in anime. Here's the thing if shes interested in you your like of anime wont matter and you could slowly introduce her to that part of your world. She might resist but it's also possible she will learn to like it after more exposure, but the key point is the foundation of your relationship should be grounded on deeper issues that can and have destroyed many relationships in the past.

So on the other hand say there was this magical DATE ANIME site and you could find someone who was interested in your same likes. Say you do start a relationship and everything is fine during the honeymoon phase. Once the shit hits the fan be it financially, socially, emotionally, etc you guys will be subject to a break in your relationship that the superficial anime interest can not piece together.
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Posted 6/29/17

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PeripheralVisionary wrote:

I've been suggesting a dating subforum, but moderators won't have it.


I think we have that. It's the Chit Chat forum.


What... I love to find a girl who likes anime.... and manga, and into a gamer/anime male. But I am getting old now.. alone and old.
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My biggest issue is in Mississippi i cant mention anime to 90 percent of the women you start talking to. You either get looked at funny or laughed at. Kind sucks especially since anime is slowly becoming more main stream and even being made into hollywood movies some women still look at it like its cartoons lol. i was just wishing upon a star kinda. i know it wouldnt work out easily but it would be great to think you could log in click 10 animes you love 10 you hate and be matched with a few dozen girls within 100 miles to chat with lol...


If you believe the like of anime is the reason those women are rejecting you then I can't give any advice that would help. I do think though that is has more to do with the initial attraction that they feel for you. If that's there then anime should play an insignificant role in how she perceives you and your interests.

If there is no initial attraction then 90% of the time it doesn't matter what you say. You will get looked at funny, ridiculed, brushed off, etc.
It's their bitch shield activating that forces them to react negatively to anything you say. They believe that by being cold/dismissing your interests as childish they will stop your advances at flirting/getting to know them. But they are too scared to speak it out loud and thus have to go in roundabout ways to express that there is no interest.

This is all regards to "starting/being" in a relationship. This does not include female friends,family,etc.

And also a lot of people are trying to present themselves as "a mature adult" and thus shun anything that is associated with immature things such as cartoons and video games.

It's the same reason the loner kid in high school that sits by himself playing game boy games during lunch period isn't approached by women who are also into video games. He is seen negatively be it childish or nerdy and thus they do not want to be associated with that.
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Posted 6/29/17

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My biggest issue is in Mississippi i cant mention anime to 90 percent of the women you start talking to. You either get looked at funny or laughed at. Kind sucks especially since anime is slowly becoming more main stream and even being made into hollywood movies some women still look at it like its cartoons lol. i was just wishing upon a star kinda. i know it wouldnt work out easily but it would be great to think you could log in click 10 animes you love 10 you hate and be matched with a few dozen girls within 100 miles to chat with lol...


Good luck.. I am 36 and single,,, and be happy to cheer you on as you seek love... after all I have mostly already given up on finding love, but I like to see others like me find some happiness.
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LtSheppard wrote:

My biggest issue is in Mississippi i cant mention anime to 90 percent of the women you start talking to. You either get looked at funny or laughed at. Kind sucks especially since anime is slowly becoming more main stream and even being made into hollywood movies some women still look at it like its cartoons lol. i was just wishing upon a star kinda. i know it wouldnt work out easily but it would be great to think you could log in click 10 animes you love 10 you hate and be matched with a few dozen girls within 100 miles to chat with lol...


Good luck.. I am 36 and single,,, and be happy to cheer you on as you seek love... after all I have mostly already given up on finding love, but I like to see others like me find some happiness.


True love is a myth.

If you are not happy single do you really think being in a relationship will magically change you? No all that happens is you got to deal with another persons shit on top of your own.

Focus on improving yourself to be the best you you can be and try to find happiness in life that isn't determined by another person (because they will have the free reign to take it from you on a whim).

That being said I wish you guys the best of luck.
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I don't know, couldn't you just put, "I <3 anime!!!" and pictures of catgirls on your E-whatever profile and see what women aren't scared off?

To be honest, I don't use anime as part of my criteria for who to date/befriend. "Saw a Ghibli film years ago," is about the closest I have to a friend that likes anime and I can't recall ever dating someone that was into it.
Posted 6/29/17
Online dating is trash. If anything, that's the reason there shouldn't be something like that. I get th want though
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Perhaps the point is less to use it as a criteria and more as an ice breaker.

There's always a little bit of reservation when you meet someone new and you aren't sure what interests you share, especially with the stigma that can come attached to anime nowadays. It's cartoons, it's basically porn, it's for kids... what have you.

Knowing someone is into Anime from the outset can help people talk to one another about mutual interests without fear of judgement or diminished opinion of the other.

While I don't think CR needs a dating section, I can certainly see the appeal of any dating site that uses a common interest of its subscribers as a launching platform for interaction. I agree a shared interest is no basis for a relationship, there's nothing wrong with wanting a significant other who shares your interests as well as your values. Stimulating the mind, heart, and body is what a relationship is all about, for both partners.
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why dating sites just hit the local bar plenty of loose woman there.
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I haven't been in the dating game for 15 years now, but I'm glad my wife doesn't share my nerdy hobbies. She keeps me grounded and snaps me back to reality. I don't understand why some guys/gals want their SO to share the same hobbies.

I guess it's nice if it happens but you're really not missing much guys.
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