Post Reply How to move on from a breakup
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Heya to whoever stumbles upon this thread.

So as the title says, I recently broke up with my girlfriend of about 10 months, the majority of which was long distance due to her having to be away for her career (which she is still building) of interpretation and translation, more work opportunities being available away from home in a different country. All in all, it was a pretty amicable breakup, meaning we both understood after talking things out so that there weren't any misunderstandings and/or miscommunication. We talked and both agreed to part ways as boyfriend and girlfriend. To be just friends again will take time though.

Although I made the decision to break up with her, my reasoning being I didn't want to burden her with the relationship as she forges her career path, the feeling of wanting to be back together still eats at me. On one hand, I'd have to work that much harder if I did try to get back together with her (tbh, I could've been a better boyfriend at some points, and I apologized to her for that as I brought up the decision to breakup). On the other hand, getting back together would mean the whole emotional roller coaster was for nothing, pointing to how I should just move on from this. I mean, at the very least, I did put in effort to skype with her even with the huge time difference when she was away (about 12, 13 hour time difference).

This begs the question then: How do I actually move on from this? The emotions just started to hit me all of a sudden today, and I wanted to know if any of you went through this and how you came to terms with it and moved on.

Thanks in advance.

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Not invested enough to read the whole thing, but I think I have a pretty good idea of whats going on from what I skimmed.

You probably should just focus on yourself and things you want to do that dont involve women. Want to take more responsibilities at work? Got a game you need to plow through or a show you want to marathon? Do that, just keep yourself busy. Think of yourself instead of moping over somebody who was once close to you.
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Time. Just let it go and time will heal it.
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Zenpie wrote:

Time. Just let it go and time will heal it.


This. There is no instant cure for getting over a breakup. Don't think about the past so much if all it does is bring you grief. Don't torture yourself over past mistakes. Things didn't quite work out how you envisioned, but try not to let this experience stop you from meeting other amazing people in your life right now. It's tough, but if you focus on carving out a new path moving forward you'll be fine.
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You gotta delete her from any social media, phone number, email, anything that will allow you to contact her, find out how shes doing, allow you to be invested in her life. The starting point is ghosting the living shit out of her and progressing with your life. Be it career, education, job, overcoming challenges in life. ANYTHING but continuing being "friends" with her.

Trust me when I say you do not want to be around when you see her get together with her new bf and having all that "joy" and "happiness" being displayed in front of you, while you are still sad/getting over the breakup.

Out of sight out of mind.

You settled things with her it pretty much sounds like and it sounds like you realize that this wasn't the right time to pursue this relationship. So take the things you learned and apply it in the future.

You didn't lose her, you gained many many things my friend. Even if you never see her again, you still have your memories of the time you spent together and nobody can take that from you. You grew as a person and you showed that you were mature enough to talk things over instead of breaking it in an ugly fashion.

Wish you happiness and joy my friend.
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Thank you all for sharing. I really appreciate it.
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